Loyal Drama Free Friends, How Many Of Us Have Them? Happy Bday To My BFF!

One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. Prov 18:24

Every woman needs at least one friend that she can always count on to support, challenge and have her back. A friend that will keep her in line in love when she starts trippin. A friend who has a serious relationship with God and is able to remind her of God’s promises during the challenging times. A friend that makes her feel like she’s back in middle school because their always laughing and talking for hours when they get together. A friendship that is drama free and will never be broken because of selfishness or some loser guy. A friend who knows her value and worth in Christ as well as yours. A friend who makes sure you’re both living up to God’s standards and not the silly emptiness of the world.

I’ve been blessed with several awesome friends but today’s post is dedicated to one of my dearest friends who fits every part of the above description, Marcia Scott. Marcia and I have been close friends since the 8th grade. In the pic above, my daughter and I are on the left and Marcia is on the right. We were at her bday party on 1/27/12. I wanted to write today’s post for 2 reasons: 1. To honor Marcia on her birthday weekend for being the best BFF a woman could ever ask for. 2. To remind women that female friendships don’t have to be full of gossip, drama and jealousy.

Ladies you only need a handful of true friends who you can trust and who always help you to be better. If a friendship isn’t taking you up, it’s bringing you down. Do you friends encourage you to reach your goals and live your dreams? Are you friends hungry to walk according to God’s word or are they looking for opportunities to get into trouble and make bad choices? Today I challenge you to make a list of your closest friends and write out what makes them a good friend and a bad friend. For each friend, see which side of the list is longer and make a decision to hang out less and less with those that you see aren’t good for you. Ask God to send you godly faithful friends and He will honor your desire to be right before Him.

Prayer of Friendship

Dear Lord,

Thank You for your faithfulness and for always being a friend that sticks closer than a brother. Thank you for ALL of the awesome friends you have sent me over the years. Thank you for Marcia especially today Lord. Bless her in every area of her life and continue to give her wisdom, peace, joy, prosperity, strength and boldness for you.

Lord I pray for those who read this post. Help each of them to make better choices this year regarding their friendships. Give each of us the strength to walk away from friendships that bring us down and help us to trust that you will bring new friends into our lives that will help us to live joyful, peaceful and productive lives. We thank you in advance Lord, AMEN!

Whose In YOUR Network??

Thefreedictonary.com defines the word network as an extended group of people with similar interests or concerns who interact and remain in informal contact for mutual assistance or support. On this Mother’s Day weekend, I’m extremely grateful to God for the network of married Christian mother’s that He’s placed in my life. Several of my friends have had babies over the last year and it’s a blessing to be able to call and vent/seek advice about things like breastfeeding, lack of sleep and vaccinations. Motherhood is challenging and while I’m so grateful for my husband, whose an awesome father and support, it’s important for me to have my network of mothers in my corner also. 

Yesterday I had six mothers and their babies over to spend time with Elyssa and I. All six women are positive, educated, married Christians who want to be the best mother’s that God has called them to be. By surrounding myself with that group of awesome women, as well as the others that I know who fit in this category, I will learn, grow and enjoy motherhood. No one was sitting around dogging out their husbands, or saying how much they hate how demanding motherhood is. Yes marriage and motherhood are two of the most challenging things I will ever do, but I need godly, hopeful and determined women in my corner during this journey! Ladies, don’t allow people into your life that will poison your mind with their drama, anger and bitterness. You only want those who love God, themselves and have similar goals in your network.

Today, I encourage you to take time to think about whose in your network. Do you know women who have similar interest as you, who can be of support to you? No matter what season of life you are currently in (single, married, student, business woman, mother etc) everyone needs a small network to assist them in being the best that they can be. As women, majority of us need to talk, laugh and cry with someone at some point. We like to share our good and bad moments with others. Life is not meant to be lived alone. If you’re trying to start a business, surround yourself with other women who have successfully started their own businesses. If you want to go back to school, lose weight or strengthen your marriage, you must seek God and ask Him to bring others into your life who can be in your network and help you meet your goals.

As Christians, it’s important for us to fully trust and rely on God, for He is our source and strength. Our Heavenly Father knows that we need others Christians to encourage us, pray with us and do life together. If you find that you don’t have the network that you desire, I encourage you to seek  God today and make your request known. God is faithful and He will grant you your request. When we surround ourselves with positive productive people, we become challenged to be better and do better. Remember, birds of a feather flock together!

This One’s Dedicated To My Friends

One of the marks of a good friend is how that friend inspires you and when they do, it inspires you to inspire them too. That’s what friends do. They inspire the best in each other~ Vicki Phipps

All week I’ve been thinking about how blessed I am to have such great friends in my life. Ever since I joined Word of Faith Church in 2002, I have been blessed with a large group of saved friends and to me those friendships are worth more than gold. Like the quote, my friends inspire me to be better and I spire them. It’s so important to have positive, productive and healthy people around you. If you hang around people who have no goals, no morals or values, you will look up and be a lonely sad bum, just like them. The best things my friends and I have in common is that we all love the Lord and are trying daily to walk according to His word. I believe that it is impossible to walk this Christian walk alone. We need to seek out the fellowship and friendship of other local believers and do life together.

I love that my friends and I can have a good, clean, fun time whenever we get together. No one is drinking, fighting or purposely trying to start drama! The other day my husband and I got together with three other couples for a potluck dinner and we had a great time. All the couples were married, Christians, one had just had a baby, another couple is having their baby this month and the other couple are newlyweds. We spent the evening laughing, talking and encouraging/loving on one another. I felt so proud to know these awesome men and women of God and I felt so blessed that God put them in my life. I feel this way about all of my friends, whether we go to the same church or not, they are a blessing to me because they add to my life and I add to theirs. Even though I don’t have a picture of all my friends posted, I still love and thank God for them all!!

Some people  in the world like to believe that young black people don’t go to college, they don’t get married, they aren’t sold out for God and they don’t know how to live healthy lives; well my friends and I are proving the world wrong! God has blessed me with friends who are SAVED AND SOLD OUT doctors, teachers, business owners, therapists, professional athletics, happy stay at home moms, social workers and the list goes on and on. My friends love God, they are getting married and THEN having babies in large numbers every year. I am godly proud of my friends for continually seeking God about their lives and their futures and making their dreams come true. Friends I love you, and this one’s dedicated to you!!!


Prayer for my friends

Dear Lord,

Thank you for my friends. Protect them today and always Lord God. Thank you that favor goes before them and prospers their way. Thank you Lord that they are anointed to do whatever you have called them to do. Help them Lord to have peace, patience and joy as they walk holy everyday before you. Continue to lead and guide them in all things. Lord send laborers their way to bless them with whatever they need. Show them how to be the best that they can be. Help them to feel your lovely presence and to desire to seek your face more Lord God. Thank you Lord for answering my prayer for friends. Help me to be the best friend that I can be to each of them, in your name AMEN!!