Hope & Healing For Mommies of Angel Babies

Psalms 147:3 He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds.

After experiencing a miscarriage in May of 2012, I started a Christian support group on Facebook for women who have experienced the loss of a child(ren). When the Lord placed it on my heart to start the group, I had no idea if anyone would join, let alone want to share their story with me. God is so awesome because the group grows weekly and we’re currently at 118 members. The ladies in this group have become like family to me. We share our ups and downs, we pray for one another, rejoice together and mourn together. We post scriptures and praise and worship songs to lift our spirits and remind us that God is with us always. Many ladies have posted pics of their angels and shared their stories, struggles and triumphs. The whole point of the group is to give each other hope and to bring us all closer to God, for He alone is our healer and source of strength.

Heres few comments from members sharing how they’ve been blessed by the group thus far:

I have joined many support groups, and although many have provided me with the support and a shoulder to cry on, this is the first one that has added HOPE and indescribable PEACE to this journey and it’s all because of the word of God and the finished work of Christ being a pivotal part of it. I thank God that he spoke to you to start this group that has benefited someone from the other end of the world (South Africa). God bless you mightily and abundantly and all the other ladies who are part of this group.
 
Thank you so much Ladies. It is so great to have a place where I can come and openly talk about my angel. I appreciate each and every one of you praying for all of you.
 
With all the support I saw and received in this group, I am praying for a miracle and who knows, one day I will maybe have my rainbow baby.
 
This is definitely a ministry even though none of us has stepped into the pulpit. We are ministering to each other and God is using each one of us in some way to begin the healing process that needs to take place in order to bring us to the place He needs us to be.
 
I agree its like were a family I think of all of you ladies as my sisters! & I’m grateful to finally have this place were we can open up. So many people don’t understand & say mean things, this is a place were we can let out the tears, or anger or whatever else were feeling & know that a wonderful family will support us.
 
I just wanted to say I’m so happy to meet all of you. Not exactly the best circumstances, but I know we’re all here for each other. I seriously think about yall all the time. I even find my self talking to my mom about you guys like I know yall in person lol. We have a long journey a head of us, but we’re all here to support one another and I am so glad to be a part of this group.

When going through grief and loss, it’s important to associate with those who know how you feel, what to say and when to say it. This is a safe place to express yourself and receive instant support, encouragement and hope. The love of God is shown in this group daily and those who felt hopeless now have hope! To God be the glory! If you or someone you know would benefit from  joining this group please forward the link below to them or share the group name with them so they can look us up on FB. Hope and Healing For Mommies of Angel Babies. It’s a spiritual support group but all are welcome. Thank you for sharing the link, God bless!

https://www.facebook.com/groups/312074525543437/

20 Things Parents of Angels Wish You Would Remember

I found this article last night and could relate to some of it and thought it would be helpful to share. Unless you’ve experienced the loss of a child, sometimes it can uncomfortable and challenging to know what to say or do when it comes to your loved one whose gone through it. Read this list and Id love to hear your thoughts as a survivor of loss or as a supporter to a loved one. Was it helpful? Accurate?
20 Things Parents of Angels Wish You Would Remember

By Jennifer Marohn in I Am A Mother To An Angel


1. I wish you would not be afraid to mention my baby. The truth is just because you never saw my baby doesn’t mean he or she doesn’t deserve your recognition

2. I wish that if we did talk about my baby and I cried you didn’t think it was because you have hurt me by mentioning my baby. The truth is I need to cry and talk about my baby with you. Crying and emotional outbursts help me heal

3. I wish that you could talk about my baby more than once. The truth is if you do, it reassures me that you haven’t forgotten and that you do care and understand.

4. I wish you wouldn’t think that I don’t want to talk about my baby. The truth is I love my baby and need to talk about him or her.

5. I wish you could tell me you are sorry my baby has died and that you are thinking of me. The truth is that it tells me you care.

6. I wish you wouldn’t think what has happened is one big bad memory for me. The truth is the memory of my baby, the love I feel for my baby, the dreams I had and the memories I have created for my baby are all loving memories. Yes there are bad memories too but please understand that it’s not all like that.

7. I wish you wouldn’t pretend that my baby never existed. The truth is we both know I had a baby growing inside me.

8. I wish you wouldn’t judge me because I am not acting the way you think I should be. The truth is grief is a very personal thing and we are all different people who deal with things differently.

9. I wish you wouldn’t think if I have a good day I’m “over it” or if I have a bad day I am being unreasonable because you think I should be over it. The truth is there is no “normal” way for me to act.

10. I wish you wouldn’t stay away from me. The truth is loosing my baby doesn’t mean I’m contagious. By staying away you make me feel isolated, confused and like it is my fault.

11. I wish you wouldn’t expect my grief to be “over and done with” in a few weeks, months, or years for that matter. The truth is it may get easier with time but I will never be “over” this.

12. I wish you wouldn’t think that my baby wasn’t really a baby and it was blood and tissue or a fetus. The truth is my baby was a human life. My baby had a soul, heart, body, legs, arms and a face. I have seen my baby’s body and face. My baby was a real person.

13. My babies due date, Mothers Day, celebration times, the day my baby died and the day I lost my baby are all important and sad days for me. The truth is I wish you could tell me by words or by letter you are thinking of me on these days.

14. I wish you understood that losing my baby has changed me. The truth is I am not the same person I was before and will never be that person again. If you keep waiting for me to get back to “”normal” you will stay frustrated. I am a new person with new thoughts, dreams, beliefs, and values. Please try to get to know the real me-maybe you’ll still like me.

15. I wish you wouldn’t tell me I could have another baby. The truth is I want the baby I lost and no other baby can replace this baby. Babies aren’t interchangeable. Besides, you do not know whether we have fertility problems too.

16. I wish you wouldn’t feel awkward or uncomfortable talking about my baby or being near me. When you do, I can see it. The truth is it’s not fair to make me feel uncomfortable just because you are.

17. I wish you wouldn’t think that you’ll keep away because all my friends and family will be there for me. The truth is, everyone thinks the same thing and I am often left with no one.

18. I wish you would understand that being around pregnant women is uncomfortable for me. The truth is I feel jealous.

19. I wish you wouldn’t say that it’s natures way of telling me something was wrong with my baby. The truth is my baby was perfect to me no matter what you think nature is saying.

20. I wish you would understand what you are really saying when you say “next time things will be okay”. The truth is how do you know? What will you say if it happens to me again?

http://mommyangelbaby.blogspot.com/p/angel-baby-poems.html

Here is the link to my Christian support group for moms who’ve experience the loss of a child. Everyone is welcome to join. Hope and Healing for Mommies of Angel Babies

https://www.facebook.com/groups/312074525543437/#!/groups/312074525543437/permalink/317738488310374/