Learning To Toss out the Romanic Myths and Seek The Truth

Toss out the Romanic Myths and Seek The Truth

Your soulmate is the person who mends your broken heart by simply giving you theirs ~ author unknown.

I saw this quote on a FB friend’s page and I thought it would be interesting to write a post about it. While the quote and pic are good intentioned and seemingly romantic, I think the message is actually dangerous. No one can heal us but God. It helps to have positive loving people around us, but they can’t heal us.

3 Reasons Why God is the Answer to Your Pain

1. 1 John 3:16 This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us.

There isn’t a love greater than the love that Christ has for us. He died for our sins and rose on the third day, so that we can be healed and set free. We love Christ because He first loved us. Often times we get caught up in what looks like romance and happiness BUT if it doesn’t please Christ, it isn’t his will for us. God heals, he saves, he lives to make us whole again. No one can love us unconditionally like Christ.

2. Psalm 147:3 He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.

The only one who can heal our bodies, emotions and make our life better is God. We have to be careful not to try to make our significant others our savior. No man or woman can heal our hearts or take away our pain. Have you ever seen a woman date a good man (he’s faithful, a gentleman, honest, open and drama free) and she still treats him like he’s one of the dogs that she’s dated in the past. That’s because no matter how much that man loved on her, he couldn’t take away the pain of her past. God loves us so much, that no matter what wrong we’ve done or that’s been done to us, He is waiting, ready and willing to love on us, restore us and make us whole again. Restoration comes when we submit to Gods will and focus on pleasing him, NOT man.

3. Matthew 9:22 Jesus turned and saw her. “Take heart, daughter,” he said, “your faith has healed you.” And the woman was healed at that moment.

It’s important for us to have faith in God, knowing that He alone is the answer to all of our problems. When we put our faith in people, at some point we find ourselves frustrated and disappointed because man fails us but God never fails. When we submit to the Lord, putting all of our issues on the altar, He is always faithful to meet us right where we’re at and start the process of making us new again. Some healing is instant and others healing is a process. As long as we keep our eyes on the cross, we know that our break through is on the way.

Hello World I’m Back! And With Great News!

Hello world I missed you all!! I think about my blog and readers weekly but so much has been going on in my life and it was hard to make time to write. I hope I become more consistent again because but my blog means a lot to me. I have great news that I wanted to share with you lovely folks, I’m 15 weeks pregnant and ALL is well! As many of you know my husband and I experienced a miscarriage in May of this year. We stood in faith for physical and emotional healing and trusted God that in HIS PERFECT TIMING we would conceive again without any complications. My God is a restorer and so very faithful!! Nothing is impossible with God. If your going through a storm today, know that with God you can come out better than how you went in. God will restore what was lost and make all things new. Don’t give up, victory is yours in Jesus name!!

Here is a confession prayer that a friend gave me for our unborn child. It is very powerful so I wanted to share it. If you know someone who is currently pregnant, please share it with them. We must speak life over our unborn children. Hope everyone is having a great week. I promise to write again soon!!

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A Mothers Prayer For Her Unborn Child

By Iyanla Vanzant

Blessed and merciful God
Thank you for the gift of life
Thank you for the life of the child growing inside of me
Thank you for your love that is shaping and forming this childs life into your divine perfection.
Thank you for shaping this child’s mind
Thank you for shaping this child’s bones
Thank you for sharing this child’s destiny and for writing it upon his or her heart
Thank you for filling this child’s entire being with your loving light
Thank you for knowing and calling this child’s name even as it is being formed
Thank you for showing me how to love this child even before it is born
Thank you for giving me a healthy appetite for those food that are life giving
and life sustaining while this child is growing inside of me
Thank you for giving me peaceful rest while this child is growing inside of me
Thank you for peace of mind while this child is growing inside of me
Right now I give you all the concerns for the health, strength and well being
for the precious life growing inside of me
Right now I call forth your grace, mercy and the loving light of your presence
to fill my being and sustain the life growing inside of me
Prepare me for this birth. Prepare my mind. Prepare my body.
Bless me and this child that it’s birth will happen easily and effortlessly, under the grace of your peace.
I give your angels charge of this child.
I give you charge over my entire being
I give you thanksgiving and praise for this blessed life growing inside of me
May this prayer be lifted, heard and accepted by you oh God
For this I am so grateful
So be it!

Hope & Healing For Mommies of Angel Babies

Psalms 147:3 He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds.

After experiencing a miscarriage in May of 2012, I started a Christian support group on Facebook for women who have experienced the loss of a child(ren). When the Lord placed it on my heart to start the group, I had no idea if anyone would join, let alone want to share their story with me. God is so awesome because the group grows weekly and we’re currently at 118 members. The ladies in this group have become like family to me. We share our ups and downs, we pray for one another, rejoice together and mourn together. We post scriptures and praise and worship songs to lift our spirits and remind us that God is with us always. Many ladies have posted pics of their angels and shared their stories, struggles and triumphs. The whole point of the group is to give each other hope and to bring us all closer to God, for He alone is our healer and source of strength.

Heres few comments from members sharing how they’ve been blessed by the group thus far:

I have joined many support groups, and although many have provided me with the support and a shoulder to cry on, this is the first one that has added HOPE and indescribable PEACE to this journey and it’s all because of the word of God and the finished work of Christ being a pivotal part of it. I thank God that he spoke to you to start this group that has benefited someone from the other end of the world (South Africa). God bless you mightily and abundantly and all the other ladies who are part of this group.
 
Thank you so much Ladies. It is so great to have a place where I can come and openly talk about my angel. I appreciate each and every one of you praying for all of you.
 
With all the support I saw and received in this group, I am praying for a miracle and who knows, one day I will maybe have my rainbow baby.
 
This is definitely a ministry even though none of us has stepped into the pulpit. We are ministering to each other and God is using each one of us in some way to begin the healing process that needs to take place in order to bring us to the place He needs us to be.
 
I agree its like were a family I think of all of you ladies as my sisters! & I’m grateful to finally have this place were we can open up. So many people don’t understand & say mean things, this is a place were we can let out the tears, or anger or whatever else were feeling & know that a wonderful family will support us.
 
I just wanted to say I’m so happy to meet all of you. Not exactly the best circumstances, but I know we’re all here for each other. I seriously think about yall all the time. I even find my self talking to my mom about you guys like I know yall in person lol. We have a long journey a head of us, but we’re all here to support one another and I am so glad to be a part of this group.

When going through grief and loss, it’s important to associate with those who know how you feel, what to say and when to say it. This is a safe place to express yourself and receive instant support, encouragement and hope. The love of God is shown in this group daily and those who felt hopeless now have hope! To God be the glory! If you or someone you know would benefit from  joining this group please forward the link below to them or share the group name with them so they can look us up on FB. Hope and Healing For Mommies of Angel Babies. It’s a spiritual support group but all are welcome. Thank you for sharing the link, God bless!

https://www.facebook.com/groups/312074525543437/

Testimony Time! If He did it for me, He CAN Do It For You!

Revelations 12:11 (KJV) And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony. 

This past Monday, my sister in law invited my husband and I to speak to her college bible study about dating and marriage. This opportunity to share our testimony and encourage believers on a college campus was major for me. Ten years ago, I was a lost 20-year-old college student. I thought I had a relationship with Christ but I hooked up with the wrong crowd and set many of my morals/values on a shelf to become a follower. On Monday while at that bible study, I was in awe of my awesome, faithful and able God because I knew where He’d brought me from. I knew that only because of Christ could I be ministering at a college bible study ten years later; saved, filled with the Holy Spirit, a hunger to grow in God, peace of mind, a drama free lifestyle, a wonderful husband, healthy daughter, two college degrees, a 9 year stable career and so much more. God gets all the glory because He knows just how jacked up I was ten years ago. At 20 I never would have believed that I could be where I am today BUT GOD!! Genesis 50:20 (NIV)  You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives. God turned my mess into my message.

I told those awesome young people my testimony of being a lost, confused, bitter, unproductive partying college student. I told them how I was raised in a Christian home but didn’t have my own firm foundation and therefore I walked right into temptation when given the chance. I told them how my grades, relationship with God, my parents, my self-esteem and peace of mind all suffered greatly. One day after another failed relationship, I woke up and said enough is enough, this lifestyle sucks, I know God has better for me, Lord help me to live for you and free me of all this junk that’s holding me down. I told them that I had to let go of anything that kept me from going hard after the Lord; I asked the Lord to help free me of any distraction including certain friends, secular music, parties etc. I took it one day at a time until living holy before God no longer took so much effort, it was natural, a lifestyle. I surrounded myself with other Christians, stayed in my word, focused on my relationship with God and graduating. I sought counsel and received restoration from past hurts and I allowed God to have complete control of my life. Because of my repenting, open and willing heart to follow Christ, He was able to do a mighty work in me and help me to help others. I met my husband at Word of Faith. At our church we learned to glorify God in our friendship, courtship, engagement and now marriage. In being faithful to God, He remains faithful to us! God is so good!!

Today I want to encourage those that are going through or who aren’t where they want to be in Christ or even in life. Maybe you hoped to be married or have children by now. Maybe your secretly struggling with an addiction that no one but God knows about. Maybe you’re struggling to finish college or raise children on your own. Whatever your current situation is, I want you to know that God has an AWESOME future for you.  Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV) For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Please keep praying and keep seeking God. When you mess up, repent and get back up. People in this world, esp your family and friends, need you to walk with Christ so you can be a witness to them one day. Know that God’s there with you, wanting to help you and He will continue to give you the strength you need to keep pressing and growing in Him. He will never leave you or forsake you. Your testimony is on the way so don’t give up! Then you can sit in front of other people who are currently in the shoes you used to be in and boldly say LOOK WHAT THE LORD HAS DONE! HE DID IT FOR ME AND HE CAN DO IT FOR YOU!!! GLORY TO GOD HALLELUJAH!!

HE Can Change A Hoe Into A House Wife

2 Cor 5:17  (KJV) Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.

We all have made bad choices in life at some point, but thank God for His mercy and grace. Today’s post is dedicated to the women who want to move past their mistakes and press to get where God has called them to be. God knows the things we’ve done in our past that we’re not proud of but He can make ALL things new. God loves us despite our mess. God wants to make our mess our message to others to help get other’s free. God can do supernatural heart and brain surgery, causing your heart to be healed of past hurts from bad decisions and your mind to be at peace and ready to move forward in victory. If your ready to move from a hoe to a housewife, God is able to help you start the process.

In college I made bad choices about friendships and romantic relationships and as a result I became confused, angry and insecure. I was messed up and was not marriage material at all. It’s so amazing for me to look back at where I was 11 years ago and see how far God has brought me. I have not arrived by any means but God gets all the glory for the restoration, peace and joy that I have right now. The picture in this post of me and my husband on our wedding day in 2008, we met at our church and we are more in love today then ever before, to God be the glory.

Here are 3 things that I did to allow God to transform me from a lost woman into a woman on the road to victory:

1. I surrendered my life fully to Him. I realized that on my own I was messing up my entire life. My grades were slippin, my relationships were stressful and nothing was going right. I decided to stop focusing on guys and drama and start developing my relationship with Christ. Once I made the decision to walk away from mess, God was able to begin His work in me. I started getting rid of everything that was hindering my relationship with Christ and the drama seemed to disappear with every passing day. I wanted more of Christ, I was hungry for change and Christ had been waiting patiently for my return back to Him.

2. I found myself a new group of friends. It’s impossible to hang with the same no good friends but expect to do good and live right. I had to end so called friendships with males and females that were only bringing me down. At one point I only had one other Christian female friend, she was my roommate, and we hung out, prayed, served in campus ministry, shopped, cooked and studied together.  We both ended up joining Word of Faith and God blessed us to meet lots of other Christian friends who became like family and the rest is history. It’s easier to remain holy, sober, productive etc when you surround yourself with like minded people who are going places and on the grind for Jesus.

3. I had to change my way of thinking. I changed my focus from how I could find me a boyfriend and get some money to buy cute clothes and hang with my bad news friends and started focusing on God, graduating from college and trying to make something of myself. I knew I wanted to one day get married and have something to offer my future family. I had to change my mindset from only thinking about pleasing my flesh in the moment, which always got me into trouble, to setting myself up for a successful future with Christ at the center. To change my thinking, I changed what I read, what I listened to and what I viewed. Listening to secular music, reading trashy novels and sitting around watching soap operas when I wasn’t in class wasn’t going to help me change my thinking and reach my goals. I was introduced to Christian hip hop and other gospel music that I’ve never heard of, Christian novels that had humor and drama minus the sex scenes and I found more wholesome things to view on tv; it all made a world of differfence in my behavior and attitude.

It doesn’t matter how many people you’ve dated, fooled around with or slept with. It doesn’t matter what lies you told or the deep dark secrets that you carry in your heart with shame. God already knows, He sees, He hears, He saves and He forgives! If you would like to ask the Lord to come into your heart right now and experience a life better than you could ever imagine, please say this simple prayer:

Dear Heavenly Father, I need you, please come into my heart and be the Lord of my life.  I repent of my sins and I turn away from them, please forgive me Lord and show me how to walk in your ways. Thank you for dying for me on the cross and raising from the dead. Thank you for the gift of eternal life, in Jesus name I pray amen.

If you prayed this prayer I’d love to know about it. Please email me and feel free to email any questions to joanna.willis@hotmail.com I encourage you to get hooked up with a local church and surround yourself with like minded people.

Philippians 3:13-14

Forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before, I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.

A Rape Survivor’s Letter To Her Unborn Daughter

Dear Elyssa Janee,

My sweet girl, I love you so very much. We have ten weeks until we meet and get to look into each other’s eyes. As each week goes by, I think about all that I want to tell you, teach you and shield you from.

 

My Love

Your father and I love you already, more than words can express. I want you to know that your father has taught me so much about real love. He has been dedicated, patient, selfless and compassionate since the day we met 7 1/2 years ago. I’m excited that you get to have him as a dad! You’re a blessed young lady! Your father and I have come to know the love of Christ and learning about how Christ loves us has taught us how to love one another and prepares us to love you unconditionally too. You will never have to wonder if we love you. You will always be loved, encouraged, challenged, praised and disciplined.

My Past

Over ten years ago, a man took advantage of me and I went through a very rough time. BUT GOD! With God’s grace, mercy, strength, comfort and the wisdom and guidance of friends and family, I became a overcomer, survivor, victor, never again to be a victim. I want you to know that you never ever have to be afraid of men, the world or anything. No weapon formed against you will prosper. God’s blood covers you. God has not given you the spirit of fear, but of love, joy and a sound mind.

I will not pass onto you a legacy of hate, unforgiveness, anxiety, bitterness or anger. I let all of those things go many years ago with the strength of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ because I knew that one day I wanted to be a healthy and free wife and mother. I wanted to be able to teach my children about the love, protection and peace of walking with Christ. I wanted to have children with a husband that was a protector and not one that would abuse his family verbally, physically or emotionally. By getting free, I broke the cycle or victimization over our family. You belong to God, you are His daughter and He is entrusting you to us.

My Promise

I promise to be the best mother that I can be. I promise to spend time in prayer so that I can have patience with you and receive guidance from God concerning you. I promise to always encourage you to have a close relationship with your earthly father and Heavenly Father. I promise to be open and honest with you, even when it makes me feel uncomfortable because I want you to trust me and know that I will never purposely watch you walk in the wrong direction. I promise to be selfless and take my role as your mother seriously. Ever since I was a young girl, I’ve dreamed of one day being blessed with a family and God has granted me that prayer; I do not take this honor lightly. I promise to take care of my body and you, for the next 10 weeks especially, so that you can continue to grow strong and be safe and comfy inside of me. Until we officially meet my lovely little lady, know that I love you and I’m preparing for you. I’m also continuly praying and confessing great things over you.

Forgiveness is the Sweetest Revenge

Forgiveness is the sweetest revenge- Isaac Friedmann

To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you- Lewis B. Smedes

Forgiveness does not change the past but it does enlarge the future~ Paul Boese

Forgive or relive~ unknown

Forgiveness is the economy of the heart… forgiveness saves the expense of anger, the cost of hatred, the waste of spirits.” Hannah Moore

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is an attribute of the strong~ Ghandi

We achieve inner health only through forgiveness-the forgiveness of not only others but of ourselves~ Joshua Liebman

Ladies take back your life! Don’t give those that have hurt you the pleasure of keeping you insecure, depressed, angry and afraid. Forgiveness is for you. When you forgive you get free, you get to take your life back, to smile again, to live a happy life  and to have joy and peace of mind. You deserve to be free, to be happy and to enjoy fulfilling relationships with others. You can’t be in a healthy place if you’re not walking in forgiveness. You’ll always have the chains around your hands and feet, the weight of the painful past will always hold you down. Its time to BREAK FREE!!!!!

Forgive those who have hurt you, give the pain over to the Lord. Ask Him to heal your broken heart, to help you see yourself how He sees you. The bible tells us to cast our burdens unto Jesus because He cares for us! The bible also tells us that God heals the broken-hearted and binds up their wounds. He is waiting and willing to restore you to your rightful place in Him. Please make the decision today to seek guidance from a friend, family member, church member, pastor, counselor, social worker or your doctor. Talk to someone and start your healing process. Forgiveness may seem impossible today BUT trust me, as each day goes by, the decision gets easier and easier. It’s harder to live in pain and loneliness of unforgiveness, than it is to forgive and be free. You may never forget and that’s okay, but at least you will have your joy and peace back. True forgiveness says “I will not allow the things you’ve done to me to hold me captive any longer. I forgive you, I wish you well and I’m moving on.” You don’t have to be best friends with that person, talk to them on the phone and hang out. Forgiveness means you will not speak or think ill of them, you will not seek revenge on them, but instead you will pray for them and ask God to heal you both of the past. God is faithful. He will walk with you every step of the way, just trust Him and obey!!

My Recent Forgiveness Test: Thank God I’m Free From My Past

You will know that forgiveness has begun when you recall those who hurt you and feel the power to wish them well- Lewis B. Smedes

Yesterday I found out that the man who raped me had gotten married and has a child. Honestly when I saw the pictures through a mutual associate who does not know about the rape, I felt all types of emotions and forgiveness was not one of them. For a few seconds I felt anger and hate trying to rise back up. Who was he to be happy? Does she know what he did to me? What type of father will this rapist become? Even though I had been praying for him throughout the years and actively working to shed the layers of negative emotions and unforgiveness, in those first few moments I was walking in the flesh.

Then I had to remind myself, I can’t wish ill on someone and say I’ve forgiven them. I can’t judge him based on what was done ten years ago. I’m certainly not the woman I was ten years ago. I decided that it was better for me to pray, walk in love and forgiveness towards him verses continuing to stare at his picture and wish evil to come his way. In the past, I forgave him so that I could be free of the bondage that held me captive.Yesterday I made that decision again with God’s strength. Forgiveness is a decision and must be done often for the same event sometimes. 

That night I called a friend who had also survived rape in college. She’s a believer also and she was very encouraging and supportive. She helped me to remember that I am human and it’s okay to have initial negative reactions but it’s the decisions I made quickly following the incident that proved that God had done heart surgery on me and I was strong and delivered from the past.

 God has truly done heart surgery on me! Like the lady in this picture, in 2003, I feel like my heart was literally taken out and replaced with a new one. Back in college, following the years after the rape, I was angry, hateful, bitter, fearful, insecure and confused. I couldn’t say the word rape, I literally crossed out the rapist’s name in every book that I read, I wrote depressing and angry poems and made bad choices in my relationships. When I gave my heart to the Lord fully, I asked Him to heal me of all the pain and make me new. I sought the help of my campus minister and she encouraged me to start going to counseling. I joined Word of Faith in Southfield MI, started receiving life changing messages about God’s love, healing, faith and I learned to have an intimate relationship with God. Years later, I know that I am healed and restored and I refuse to let this recent incident take me back. Back to the horrible place that I once was. God has given me a new heart, a new start and I wont allow the past, the young man or the devil to destroy all that I have worked so hard in God to overcome.

To the man who changed my life forever I say the following: I pray God’s mercy, grace, correction, protection, peace, comfort, restoration and salvation for you. I pray you are or do become the man who God has created you to be. I pray you learn what is means to be a godly faithful, nonviolent husband and a godly devoted father. I pray you make better choices and live a holy life in front of your son. I pray you never ever put another person through the things you put me through. I pray you seek God for forgiveness and you learn to forgive yourself. I pray God’s blessing over your family. In Jesus name amen.

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Sistas Positively Affecting Sistas

Many women in the African American community are struggling. Struggling to know their purpose, their value/worth, to understand what real love is,  to be accepted and live productive lives. Many AA women have made celebrities and the women in the videos their role models and this much change. I went to visit a 22-year-old single mom with four kids. She had a few female friends over and all the ladies had their hair done, gold around their necks and designer clothes on. The family lives in poverty. I am not saying that people with low-income can not have nice things, but often times AA women spend more money on hair, nails, jewelry, clothes, shoes and make up than anything else. This must change. Our value should never be in how cute we look or what possessions we have. Our value isn’t in how great our bodies look or how many men are following us around. Our value is who are we in Christ; that we are healthy mind, body and soul, that we’re happy, determined and successful. We are more than just baby makers or women with big butts. We are creative,  smart, worthy of love and healthy relationships. We are strong, survivors, teachers, lawyers, doctors, social workers, stay at home mothers, business owners, ministers of the gospel etc.

To my Christian sistas, the next time you see that same prostitute that passes by your job everyday, the young girl in your neighborhood that dresses too fast, a single mother on your job that you know is struggling to raise her six children all alone, your aunt who struggles with drug addiction, your girl who fell away from church or your sister who just dropped out of school, pray and follow the Holy Spirit as to how to love on that woman. Give her a smile, some encouraging words, a hug, tell her Jesus loves her, you love her, it will be ok, ask if you can pray with her, invite her to church, treat her to lunch and just be a listening ear, whatever Holy Spirit tells you to do.

Christians are the salt of the earth. The bible says the world will know we are Christians by our love. We must love on those around us. We must let our light shine. We must live a sold out for Christ lifestyle so that the women around us can know that they too can have peace, joy, a great life in Christ. I give  God ALL the glory that my life is a positive example to others. I am blessed to be a 29-year-old black woman who loves the Lord, has a husband who loves the Lord, we serve at our church together, we have a happy marriage, we were blessed to plan our pregnancy, we own a home in the suburbs, I have two college degrees and we both have careers that we love. Ask me if ten years ago I would have thought I would be this blessed, no! God is good and when I completely surrender my life to Him, He restored me and continues to mold me into the woman who He has called me to be. I want my life to encourage others. To let them know that if God did it for me, He will do that and more for them.

Ladies today’s message is to walk in love, be led as to how the Holy Ghost wants you to mentor and reach out to those around you and to let your lifestyle be a witness of God’s goodness and faithfulness to others. The world needs us. We can’t afford to be half stepping, fake, worthless Christians. Our families need us, our coworkers, neighbors and those that we come into contact with daily on Facebook and Twitter. People all over need hope and we know the one who has all that they need, JESUS!!!

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My 10 Yr Survivor Testimony: Victim to Victor

“How does one become a butterfly?” she asked. “You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar.”
Anonymous
Like the butterfly, each of us has to let go of our past and be willing to step out, be transformed and made new. Letting go is the 1st step.

“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.” – Author Unknown

“Hanging onto resentment is letting someone you despise live rent-free in your head.” – Ann Landers

Today is an awesome day for me. Today marks the ten year anniversary of the sexual assault that I SURVIVED. The devil picked the wrong one to mess with! Those first three years I was a mess, BUT GOD!! I have spent the last seven years walking as a victor and NOT a victim!! The number seven means completion and over the last seven years, I”ve allowed God to prepare me for the work that He is doing in me now and is about to do through me. I’m ready Lord! Use me, send me, speak through me to set other’s free!!

I want to encourage people today to not allow your past to haunt you and cause you to be a victim and not a victor. You can’t change what has been done to you or what you did to yourself. You must give your hurt, pain, shame, confusion and disappointments over to God. I strongly encourage you to seek professional guidance to assist you in your journey towards healing, victory and success.

Victim is defined as 1. One who is harmed or killed by another. A person who is tricked, swindled, or taken advantage of.

Victor is defined as one who defeats an adversary; the winner in a fight, battle, contest, or struggle.

I used to see myself as a victim. I used to have low self-esteem and lots of anger, hate and fear in my heart. I allowed the person who took advantage of me to rule my mind, emotions and my life. Out of fear I would not go certain places or be around certain people, because I was angry on the inside, I rarely had peace of joy. What he did to me was bad enough, but I had no right to give him the rest of my life to ruin. I made a choice to get seek God’s healing power, a minister, a counselor, my family and friends. I decided to take my life back, to get strong AND to help others who had gone through what I had. I made a choice to FIGHT to become a victor and never again a victim!

The road to recovery was one day at a time. I was very depressed when my journey first started because I had to allow myself to feel all the pain of the assault that I had blocked out and ignored as best I could for two years. Each time I met with my counselor, did a homework assignment about my experience, read my bible, pray out loud and talk to God about what had happened, I took the power out of the attackers hands and put it back in my own.

I encourage you today to face your fears of the past. To not walk around with the baggage of yesterday, last year, ten years ago etc. You deserve to be happy, healthy, healed emotionally, financially, spiritually, mentally, physically, successful, victorious and FREE. Yes they hurt you, they lied, abused you, mistreated you, lied on you, took advantage of you BUT GOD BUT GOD BUT GOD BUT GOD BUT GOD!! He’s bigger, He’s able, He’s faithful and He’s waiting with open arms!!

John 10:10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.

Matthew 11:27-30 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

Isaiah 61:3 and provide for those who grieve in Zion, to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the LORD for the display of his splendor.

Psalm 139:14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

Matthew 6:14-15 14For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.