Life With Two What To Do?!

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On June 13, 2013, I became a mommy of two! Two car seats, two cribs, a double stroller and a house filled with toys and pink clothes and bows galore!! Our oldest daughter Elyssa, is now 28 months and she is smart, sweet, funny, full of energy and curious about everything. Our baby girl Elaina is now eight weeks and she holds her head up, laughs and loves to nurse. Our girls keep us on our toes but they keep us laughing and enjoying every moment.

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So the title of this post is a very valid question; life with two what to do!? How do you chase a toddler around the living room when you have a infant crying to nurse, a husband who has needs and a house that’s in desperate need of a cleaning?! For me the answer is simple, breathe, ask God for patience, wisdom and grace and let my love for my family keep me going. The word of the month for me is organization. I’m trying to stay on top of the housework and the laundry so that I don’t find myself overwhelmed. My helpful husband and I work opposite shifts so he cares for the girls while I’m away and I care for them while he’s away. He cooks sometimes, I cook sometimes. We try to keep the laundry from piling up and try to keep Elyssa’s toys from consuming the whole house. Some days I say forget it and I just enjoy my family and pretend as if I don’t see the piles of clutter lying around.

As mothers we’re usually the first ones up and the last to go to bed. The ones doing majority of the cooking but the last to get to sit down and eat. We work hard to make sure that the house is run smoothly and somehow have the courage to continue to add more children and more responsibility to our plate as the years go by. WHY do we do this to ourselves?! I know my answer, I love being a mom. I love nursing, serving, cuddling, teaching, playing and watching them grow. Being a wife and a mom is the hardest but funniest and most rewarding job I’ve ever had. I was made to do this! I don’t know what I will do when Elaina becomes mobile and I have two girls to chase around but you know what, God will give me the grace and the energy just like He continues to do now. Parenting a two year old is no joke and I don’t always get it right but I’m grateful to God for a hands on husband and the support system that we have around us.

Being a mother of two for this first 8 weeks has been lots of work and lots of fun. I will post about my mommy experiences as times goes by. Until then, stay strong mommies and know that you’re doing a great job!!

How To Be a Super Mom, Love Machine, Career Woman, Chief & More

Phil 4:13 (KJV) I can do ALL things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

Phil 1:2 (NIV) Grace and peace to you from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.

Shout out to all my hard working wives and mothers holding in down inside and outside the home, inside and outside the bedroom, kitchen, playground etc 🙂 As godly, diligent and productive wives and mothers we operate daily under God’s anointing to complete all the task needed.

Yesterday after church my husband had to work so Elyssa (16 months old now) and I had a mommy daughter day. We played in her kiddie pool and enjoyed blowing bubbles and taking pictures. I also did some major house work; I cooked a few meals, cleaned the kitchen from top to bottom (including scrubbing the floors) and did a few loads of laundry. I did some work for my job once Elyssa went to bed and I watched some TV. It was late when I turned in for the night but by God’s grace I still had energy to enjoy my honey and end our night right 🙂

When we submit our lives to Christ and ask Him to give us the strength, grace and wisdom needed to be all that He’s called us to be, He’s faithful to walk with us and help us. I know that I could not do anything successfully without my Heavenly Daddy’s help. He calms me when I feel anxious or frustrated, He heals me when I’m sick and He gives me patience when my love walk is tested. I don’t know how people operate day to day without the Lord.

Tips for Being Happy While You Do Your Daily Balancing Act

1. Spend time in prayer daily. In the Lord’s presence is peace and He will speak to us and give us direction on what to do and how to do it.

2. Organize your day and be realistic (don’t put too much on your to do list)

3. After the cooking, cleaning, phone calls and play time, be sure to save time and energy for your hubby. Remember that he needs attention and loving too. It’s important to keep the marriage bed hot and fresh!

4. Take time for yourself weekly. We feel refreshed when we take time either away from the house or just have alone time once everyone is gone to bed. Sometimes we need to take off our multipurpose hat and just breathe.

5. Keep a positive attitude. Phil 4:8 (NIV) Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

Often times we can feel overwhelmed and tired because no matter how much we work we do, there’s always something else that needs to get done. Phil 4:8 reminds us to rehearse in our minds positive uplifting things, not negative, overwhelming things. We have to remember to adopt an attitude of gratitude.

A Prayer For Grace

Lord we thank you for our families, jobs, ministries etc. Thank you for giving us the grace needed to be Prov 31 woman. Thank you for helping us to love and respect our husbands always. Help us to serve them with good attitudes and kind, willing hearts. Help us to be to confident and free in and outside of the bedroom. Lord help us to be patient and loving towards our children. Help us to be present and playful with them but affective disciplinarians as well. Lord please take away anything in our lives that keep us from growing in you more. Thank you for loving us always and continuing to show yourself strong in our lives. In Jesus name amen!

Superwoman: Tips On Multitasking the Right Way

As women, we do a lot! We often have to jungle the kids, cooking, cleaning, talking on the phone and doing the laundry, all at the same time. I have mastered the art of multitasking! I am all about time management! On Saturday mornings, I soak my dishes in the sink, sort the dirty clothes, start the laundry, wash the dishes while the load is washing, talk to my mom or BFF on the phone and have the breakfast cooking on the stove. Oh and I have the bathrooms prepped with Ajax and cleanser so that the bathrooms will be ready to be cleaned when the time comes. This may sound like a lot but it makes me happy to get it all done in a reasonable amount of time. If my honey’s home he’ll help me out but often he works on Saturdays.

I believe that women are better multitaskers than men. As women, we have to move fast and be productive at home with our time because we have lots to do. Thank God for supportive husbands but we still need our multitasking skills! I don’t think men’s brains allow them to do more than 1-2 things at a time. Women do the dishes and clean the kitchen while they cook, men often times don’t clean while they cook. A woman could fold clothes, play with her baby, watch TV and talk on the phone at the same time, many husbands couldn’t do that. Women move fast around the house when company’s on their way, men spend time deep cleaning one room! Often times men need to focus and get things done one at a time. There’s nothing wrong with that, I’m just pointing out the differences.

All the articles that I read on multitasking spoke about the importance of slowing down and doing each task effectively one at a time. These tips can help with work at home or the office. Women, let’s utilize are husbands and other support in our lives more often so that we aren’t burnt out and overwhelmed. Just because we can do everything doesn’t mean we should.

Seymour’s Inside Career Report

Multitasking the Right Way
Tips for juggling multiple tasks effectively

Find your balance.
 
Switching your attention rapidly among projects and people, when done wisely, is stimulating. It adds variety to your day and can help keep you engaged and even increase productivity. However, when the juggling gets out of hand, multitasking can trigger obsessive extremes that become overwhelming and make you inefficient. Strike a balance and find your own comfort zone regarding your duties and obligations. Use your strengths, but also know your limits.

Know when it’s appropriate.

It’s vital to recognize when a certain task requires your undivided attention. When your full attention should be on a single urgent or important task, multitasking is not appropriate and will likely affect the quality of your work on the urgent task. Save multitasking for non-urgent tasks. 

Organize in advance. 

Being organized is essential to effective multitasking. Before leaving work at the end of the day, list all the tasks to be accomplished the next day so you can hit the ground running in the morning. Prioritize your list and check off each task as you complete it.

Manage your time. 

Use a desk organizer to keep track of appointments and deadlines. Make use of a speaker phone or headset to free your hands to do other things while you talk. Stop multitasking and concentrate on a single task for at least 20 minutes throughout the day to allow time to re-energize. Don’t automatically shift your attention to the most recent ‘nanotask’ that crosses your desk.

Get unplugged.

Disruptions are inevitable throughout the day, but don’t let cell phones or pagers waste your time. Bundle non-urgent tasks, such as checking e-mails or returning phone calls, and do them at certain times of the day. When you’re in a meeting, unplug to avoid distractions.

Delegate. 

Don’t fall into the trap of thinking “I can do it quicker and better.” Learn to delegate, giving specific instructions and setting realistic deadlines. No matter how proficient you are at multitasking, anyone can be a victim of burnout, and it’s also easier to make mistakes when your brain is on constant overload.

With greater workloads, fewer personnel and longer workweeks, the tendency to cram too many tasks into the workday is hard to resist. But do so at your own risk. Unless multitasking is done effectively and when appropriate, over the long term it can create excessive stress, reduce productivity, and take the fun out of work.

http://www.spherion.com/careers/Seymour_%20Multitasking-June07.jsp