Why Good Lovin Body Rockin Knocking Boots Aint Worth Dying For

In 1993 H-Town released a hit record called “Knockin Da Boots.” I was 12 years old and I thought the group was so cute and the song was so cool. Of course my parents did not allow me to listen to secular music, esp something as vulgar as that song, so I snuck when they weren’t around. As a child I didn’t understand the lyrics, let alone the seriousness of being sexually active before marriage and the physical, emotional and spiritual death that occurs from it.

Sex sales and the message and pressures to have sex and be sexual is everywhere (music, movies, fasion etc). What’s not everywhere is the truth, which is that sex outside of marriage is dangerous, lonely and drama filled. People fight for their right to be promiscuous saying it’s their body and they can do what they want with it. STDs and AIDs are at an all time high and as well as children being born to single parents. Sex outside of marriage isn’t safe. It pulls you further and further away from God and brings upon physical and emotional problems that most don’t think about until everything around them is falling apart.

I was not a virgin when I got married so I can tell you first hand about the drama, shame, loneliness, angry and confusing feelings that come alone with sex outside of marriage. I rededicated my life to Christ in 2002 and a few years later met my husband at our church and got married. You can only imagine my amazement at discovering how beautiful, passionate, safe, giving and SMOKIN HOT love-making was inside of my covenant trusting relationship with my husband. I didn’t have to worry about him getting me pregnant or giving me a disease. Because we both love Christ and have him at the center, we don’t allow any person, porn, sex toys etc inside our bed to defile what God has blessed us with. We love each other and aim to please each other. Want to experience awesome safe sex? The solution is simple, live holy, trust God to send you a mate to that believes your worth the wait, get married and then enjoy all the free, safe, faithful love making that you want. Watch God honor your marriage and love-making when you do things the right way. 

1 Corinthians 6:18-20 (MSG)

 16-20There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, “The two become one.” Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever—the kind of sex that can never “become one.” There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love, for “becoming one” with another. Or didn’t you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don’t you see that you can’t live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body.

Read these 10 STD facts below and ask yourself, if sex outside of marriage worth all of that?

  • By 2010, at least 35 million children will have lost one or both parents to AIDS.ed
  • A girl is four times more likely to contract an STI/STD than she is to become pregnant.d
  • Unprotected anal intercourse with a partner whose status for STIs/STDs is unknown is the highest-risk sexual practice.k
  • Each year there are approximately 333 million new cases of STDs in the world, according to the CDC.j
  • Over 25 million people globally have died of AIDS since 1981.e
  • The estimated number of people living in the U.S. with a viral STD/STI is over 65 million. One in two sexually active people will contact an STD/STI before the age of 25.j
  • While some STIs/STDs—such as chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis—are curable, if left untreated, they can cause death, infertility, chronic pain, serious birth defects, and miscarriages.d
  • Many sexually transmitted diseases, including HIV, can be transmitted through oral sex.i
  • The rate of chlamydia among African-American men is more than 11 times that of white men. Additionally, African-Americans remain the group most heavily affected by gonorrhea. In 2004, the gonorrhea rate among blacks was 19 times the rate among whites.d
  • Although African-Americans make up only 13% of the U.S. population, they accounted for one half of the estimated new HIV/AIDS diagnoses in 2004.e
Prayer for sexual purity
Lord help us to live holy before you. Help us not to give into the lies of the world. Help us to focus on your promises for our future. Lord help us to glorify you in our mind, body and emotions. Send us believers to do life together so that we do not have to walk this Christian journey alone. Help the single saints to be content in their time of singlehood. Help them to stay focused on their goals and keep their eyes on you. Help the married saints to commit their marriages to you and not allow anything to taint the family that you’ve blessed them with. Lord thank you for your mercy and for forgiving us of our past sins and helping us to live right before you daily. Give us the desire and strength needed to leave any relationships or entertainment alone that  causes us to fall into sin. Thank you Lord for always being faithful and loving towards us. We trust you with our lives Lord. In Jesus name amen!

5 Months Pregnant & Daydreaming about Life, Love & Sex AFTER Baby

Being pregnant and able to carry a child is beautiful and honorable. My pregnancy continues to go smoothly and in a few days I will be 20 weeks, half way there! Time is moving fast but we are excited and getting prepared. As the days goes by and my belly grows, I continue picturing life as a mother. I imagine several feeds and diaper changes a day, less sleep and having to stay in the house for a few weeks until the baby and I are safe to go out. Also I imagine life without frequent sex with my hubby, less hanging out on late dates and less quiet moments in the house. In no way am I complaining, I am just being realistic about the things in life that will be different. I did not say no sleep, no sex (after the 6 weeks :-), no dates etc, I just said less. We planned this pregnancy and we were overjoyed when God granted us our request. Now its time to prepare for a baby not only physically and financially but mentally and emotionally.

The day I go into labor and deliver our healthy child (we haven’t found out the sex yet) life will never be the same. As I think about it though, life already will never be the same. I think about the baby always, when I get dressed, how I sleep and what I eat.  Here are a few adjustments that I have already had to make gladly for our little bundle of joy:

1. Frequent trips to the restroom.

2. Having to eat small meals every few hours or I will get a headache

3. The way I sleep at night and how much sleep I need.

4. Getting hormone headaches and not being able to take meds often.

5. Watching what I eat and basically changing my diet. No sushi, soft cheeses, hardly any coffee or pop, hardly any seafood or lunch meat, the list goes on about the food but I won’t bore you.

Last night at Word of Faith Southfield, we had a special service split. The men received a message just for them in the chapel and the women received a service just for them in the sanctuary. Our first lady, Min Deborah Butler, opened the floor for question and answer. One of the discussions was really helpful to me and the new season that I am approaching.

The question was from a woman who was newly married and had two young children. She was inquiring about how she could fit more sex into her marriage with two little ones running around all the time. Min Deborah gave her three helpful tips 1) get the children on a schedule so they get used to going to bed at a certain time every night. Train them to understand parents and children time and just parents time. Put them to bed and then you two go in your room, lock the door and get it on quietly. 2) Sex doesn’t only have to take place at night, have sex in the morning before they wake up or other alternate times of the day. 3) Find another couple with young children that you TRUST and take turns watching each other’s children so both couples can have some alone time together.

I found these suggestions helpful because sex is a big part of marriage and by the time the baby comes we will have been married for 3 years. That means 3 years of enjoying each other whenever we wanted (hey were all adults here! lol) As the baby gets older (2-3 months) and we start to adjust to parenthood, we will need to start going out on dates and caring for one another’s needs, just like we do the baby’s needs. Life is busy right now with work, church, family, friends, house work, cooking, taking care of each other etc; now with God’s grace and mercy, we will add a healthy happy little one to the mix. We serve an awesome and faithful God who will give us wisdom, mercy, grace and patience and we have a great support system full of family and friends. I am curious about what life will be like but I am excited, hopeful and confident that we will learn, grow and do just fine!

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Married Christians Should Have The Best Sex

Proverbs 5:18-19 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love.

Yesterday at our married bible study at Word of Faith Southfield, we we’re reminded about how important sex/intimacy and emotional connection are in a marriage relationship. Pastor Andre Butler and Min Tiffany Butler reminded us through the word of God that GOD invented sex and sex is GOOD in God’s sight!! As Christians, we know that we are supposed to be loving, patient, giving, serving, selfless and make our mates our top priority (after God). If we truly love our mates like we love ourselves, then we would try our best to treat them good all the time. If you are married, your spouse and you are one. The bible commands us to love, respect, honor and come together in the marriage bed together often. Read 1 Cor 13, it’s known as the love chapter.

The radio today plays sexually explicit songs and majority of the music videos have turned into 3 minute soft porn flix. The world thinks they invented sex. They write and sing songs about pleasing woman after woman or man after man but we know that meaningless casual sex is hurtful and dangerous, not something to be proud of. I don’t want the world to be more bold than I on the topic of sex. I know that I am experiencing awesome love making with my husband on a regular and God is pleased with that. It’s time out for Christians being so shy, reserved and nonchalant about married sex. It’s a gift from God!

If you are married you should be having sex a few times a week at least. If you and your husband are both busy with work, ministry and the kids, then you literally need to schedule sex/date nights and go at it. Make each other and coming together a priority. Single people should not have more sex than married people. The bible speaks of married couples coming together often so that we are not tempted. I am NOT going to let days go by without me encouraging, communicating, emotionally connecting and pleasing my husband sexually. All of these things are very important and I don’t want another woman to come along and tell him how great he is and how fine he looks NO that is my job and it is his job to encourage, talk to and please me emotionally and sexually.

We must learn what our spouses needs are and then work hard everyday to meet them. When your marriage is happy, your marriage bed is happy! Some of what I shared today was points from yesterday’s married bible study on the 5 sexual needs of a husband and a wife. There was many more points so I would encourage you to go to the website and purchase the DVD, CD or MP3 http://www.woficc.com

1 Cor 7:1-5, 33-34 NIV  1Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry.[a] 2But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. 3The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. 5Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

33But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— 34and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. 35I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.

100 Reasons Wives Love & Enjoy Sex With Their Husbands

Today marks the 100th post for my blog!! I’m so excited and honored that God has been using me to bless, educate and encourage people. The day I started the blog I felt completely lost. I didn’t know my way around WordPress and I didn’t have the slightest clue as to what I should write about. The blog sat for 3o days without me logging on or posting an entry. Before I started the blog, I had not written anything in years. Since I was a young girl, writing has been my passion but after college I just stopped writing. Life got busy and I focused my attention on grad school and working full time.

The day I wrote my first post, many creative ideas started coming to my mind. I started writing and writing and before I knew it 4 months later, I’m at my 100th post!! I give God all the honor and the glory. Holy Ghost gives me the topics/words and I walk in obedience and deliver the post! I’m always amazed at the end result of each post. God is good! I thank God for my book coach, Versandra Kennebrew, author of http://www.thankgodfortheshelter.com/ She assists me with my blog and my But God book project. Her wealth of knowledge has taken my writing and blog to the next level! Thanks Versandra!! 

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To celebrate the 100th post, I wanted to share 100 reasons that wives love their husbands and enjoy making love to them. This is a collaborative list that a few of my married friends and I wrote.  Each woman started their list by saying “I love my husband and enjoy making love to him because” My thought behind creating the list was to let the world know that marriage is awesome and there are many wives who are happy, satisfied and enjoy their husbands!!

I love our husband and enjoy making love to him because:
1. He truly loves the Lord and puts Him first.
2. He is a great provider.
3. He is the most patient man I know.
4. He is slow to get angry.
5. He treats me with the utmost respect.
6. He loves opening the doors for me.
7. He knows how to calm me when I over react to something.
8. He is unselfish when it comes to making love.
9. He constantly wants to know what I like sexually.
10. He readily admits when he makes mistakes. He doesn’t want to hide anything.
11. He desires to know how I feel and takes my feelings into consideration when making decisions.
12. I can be submissive and respect him. He is not trying to be dominant over me.
13. He takes the time to make sure I am pleased.
14. He makes me feel sexy, beautiful, and desired.
15. He doesn’t just think about getting his and going to sleep.
16. He knows what he’s doing and there’s both an emotional and physical connection.
17. We both do whatever it takes to keep things exciting both in and out the bedroom.
18. He makes me feel like I am the ONLY ONE (besides Jesus lol) who’s closest too him as a friend, companion, and of course as his wife.
19. I love our buddy relationship, because he makes me laugh and I can have fun with him.
20. I love how he brings gifts home out of the blue and it’s not a holiday or my birthday, it’s just the fact that he thought of me.
21. I love how when we have a disagreement we get it out the way and don’t hold on to it all day and night.
22. I love our dates (especially the movies:-D)
23. I love how his 1 million bottles of colognes lol
24. I just love my husband and everything about him, He strokes my eagle.
25. I love my husband because he is so patient and kind hearted.
26. He believes in helping me and not labeling things as wife duties or hubbys duties.
27. He makes me feel special even when I have my “I don’t look good moments”.
28. He loves to provide for his family.
29. I love my husband because he is a loving father.
30. He aims to please me in the bedroom. He plays close attention to me and how my body responds to what he’s doing.
31. He’s considerate of me; my time, my feelings, my opinions.
32. He treats me like his partner and not his assistant.
33. He loves to try new things and keep spice in the marriage.
34. He does not keep secrets from me.
35. I don’t have to worry about where he’s at after work and when or if he’s coming home. We trust each other and we are in communication throughout the day.
36. He loves me no matter what.
37. He keeps himself groomed and looking good for me.
38. He knows how to be social and fit into any setting (business meeting, church events, volunteer work or house parties.)
39. He is so smart. He enjoys learning and he retains information like a sponge.
40. He has many gifts and talents and he uses them all to glorify God.
41. He is silly, outgoing and fun to be around.
42. He always thinks the best of me, even when I’m trippin.
43. He values family and he doesn’t put anything before his family.
44. He is a great kisser.
45. He saves energy for me after long days at the office. He is available for me when he gets home.
46. He likes to talk with me and listen to me talk.
47. God made him just for me.
48. He completes me.
49. He loves my body even when I see all the flaws.
50. To be wrapped in his arms feels so good.
51. He enjoys being affectionate with me.
52. When he is half sleep in the middle of the night, he reaches out for me and pulls me close and holds me.
53.  He supports my purpose, goals and dreams.
54. He treats me with respect.
55. He doesn’t let his family get in our business or disrespect me.
56. He’s a hard worker.
57. He is a good cook and will make great meals for me every now and then.
58. He is a great mechanic and handy man.
59. He is a worshiper. He loves to be in God’s presence.
60. He loves the word of God. He loves to read it, memorize it and mediate on it.
61. He is a leader.
62. He is a Psalms 112 man.
63. He likes to make me feel sexy.
64. He looks forward to being the father of my children and raising godly seed with me.
65. He looks for opportunities for us to spend time together.
66. He enjoys being wherever I’m at.
67. He takes pleasure in keeping me looking good. He makes sure I get my hair done and have nice things.
68. He prays for me when I am sick or having a bad day.
69. He protects me and would never let anyone hurt me.
70. He is unashamed of the gospel of Christ and he praises God publicly.
71. He enjoys opening my doors, helping me with my coat and other chivalrous things.
72. He makes me feel like the most important and beautiful woman alive.
73. He makes the bedroom look romantic with candles, rose petals and music to help get me in the mood.
74. He is understanding when it comes to sex and me needing a break. His understanding makes me want to give myself to him even more.
75. He takes special care of me when it’s that time of the month.
76. He listens when I talk.
77. He’s interested in my career. He asks me about my day and how things are going at work.
78. He gives of his time by serving at our church, helping friends and family fix their cars, appliances, plant flowers etc. He is selfless.
79. He appreciates nature and he is great with gardening.
80. He is patient with children and the elderly.
81. He shows appreciation for my body. He loves on each part of me while making love.
82. He is gentle with me and often ask me if I am ok during love making. He never thinks only of himself.
83. He looks for opportunities to make extra money so that we have all that we need.
84. When I’m reading a novel in bed, sometimes he’ll ask to read it to me. We read it together and talk about the characters and the plot.
85. He does a great job paying the bills and manages our finances.
86. He is athletic.
87. Sometimes he sings me to sleep.
88. He shows appreciation for the lingerie that I wear, even though I know he can’t wait to take it off of me.
89. He enjoys daydreaming with me about our future together as parents.
90. He’s good with technology.
91. He’s driven, determined and dedicated.
92. He is kind and compassionate.
93. He is willing to help me around the house.
94. He tells me that he loves me and I’m beautiful daily.
95. He enjoys catering to me.
96. He has good taste! He is good at picking out clothes for me, furniture, paint, decorations etc.
97.  He understands and accepts his role as the spiritual leader of our home.
98. Sometimes he writes me poetry.
99. He is a man of integrity.
100. He loves and appreciates me for who I am.

12 Ways to Make Your Spouse Dislike Sex

It’s really not difficult to ruin what could have been great sex. If that’s your goal, following these twelve suggestions will ensure that, over time, your spouse will become very creative in finding ways to avoid having sex with you.

Of course, we’re writing this article “tongue in cheek” to make a point. But we can assure you that these behaviors will detract from your sexual relationship with your partner. That’s because sexual feelings are vulnerable to being affected by so many other factors, such as self-esteem, expectations, criticism, emotional intimacy, and pressure.

Do these things to ruin your sex life

So here are the behaviors guaranteed to be “turn offs” to your spouse. In italics is the faulty reasoning that gets marriages into trouble. Below that, we’ve added a counterweight to the faulty reasoning.

  1. Develop a set routine for when you want to have sex–the same time and same place every week. “That way, you don’t have to wonder when you’ll have sex–Sunday night at 9:00 p.m. in the bedroom–just like clock work. No use leaving it to chance, right?” How boring. Try adding excitement by surprising your mate with something slightly new and different.
  2. Follow exactly the same “plays” and “moves” each time.
    “This way you both know what to expect each time. It’s just too much work to come up with different things to try, and after the honeymoon period, it’s not really necessary, is it?” Instead, remember a variation on the old saying that variety is the spice of life… and of sex.
  3. Drink a lot first so that you’re loosened up.
    “If your mate doesn’t like the smell or wishes you wouldn’t drink so much before sex, it’s just too bad. You can’t let your spouse tell you what to do, can you?” Consistent and excessive intoxication during sex is a big turn-off and could indicate deeper problems.
  4. Only touch your spouse when your goal is to have sex
    “Save your hugs, wet kisses, and holding hands until you’re ready to signal that you want sex. That way your partner will associate your touch with sex and know what to expect, get my drift? Cuts down on misunderstandings, doesn’t it?” Actually, the best sex can be the result of hours or even days of buildup with no obvious sign of sex on the horizon. During this time, any sign of affection – a touch, a hug, some compliments – can be powerful foreplay that builds to ignite passion.
  5. Expect your spouse to deliver the sexual goods because you’re married.
    “Your mate knows that every ‘good’ marriage partner owes sex to the other partner as part of his or her ‘duties.’ After all, isn’t this supposed to be one of the benefits of being married?” When sex becomes an obligation, it becomes as appealing as paying taxes. Instead, if your goal is to make the experience breathtaking for your partner, you’ll never have to invoke guilt or obligation to get sex.
  6. Push for sex even if your spouse seems reluctant and uninterested as long as he or she says “okay.”
    “If the verbal agreement is there, ignore the behavioral signals that indicate reluctance. If your spouse didn’t really want to have sex, he or she should have said so up front, right?” Pay close attention to your mate’s body language. That can be more revealing of true interest in sex than words alone. You’ll damage your relationship if you forge ahead when your partner only agrees just to get it over with.
  7. Skip foreplay and get to the major action immediately.
    “It takes too much time to bother with all that extra stuff. Besides, both of you have to go to work in the morning and need your sleep. You can’t afford to waste time.” The truth is, there is often a direct correlation to the amount of foreplay with the quality of the sex. The better the buildup, the better the payoff.
  8. Criticize your spouse’s sexual performance.
    “After all, you’re only trying to motivate your mate to be a better sexual partner. It’s not healthy to keep things in, so he or she will just have to listen to your critique.” You will get more satisfying performance out of your mate by praising what he or she does that you like, rather than the contrary.
  9. Criticize your spouse’s physical appearance.
    “If your partner has developed a beer belly or gotten flabby, you’re doing him or her a favor to say how much that turns you off. It’ll motivate your spouse to lose weight and shape up, which will help him or her in the long run.” The rule is: use positive strokes to motivate your partner. Negative criticism will poison your sex life.
  10. Answer your cell phone during sex.
    “You just never know; this call might be important. Anyway, what’s the big deal? It’s not like you’ll never have sex again. You’ve been having sex for years now, so why should your partner get upset with an occasional interruption?” Respect your partner with your undivided attention to get back the same. Minimize all distractions if possible.
  11. Get it over with as fast as possible as long as you’re satisfied.
    “Don’t ask your partner if there’s anything you can do for him or her. Just assume that everything’s okay unless your mate says something.” If satisfaction is not mutual, your sex life will suffer. The simple question a couple can ask each other — “How can I please you?” — works wonders.
  12. Jump up immediately and make your get-away afterwards.
    “The faster you get finished, the faster you’ll be able to get to sleep. There’s no time to waste just lying there talking. You can talk tomorrow over breakfast.” Emotional closeness is the currency of intimacy and you can achieve it by allowing each other to share honest feelings. Pillow talk after sex is one of the best times for this.

Written by Nancy J. Wasson, Ph.D.


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Let’s Get It On: 10 Reasons to Have Sex With Your Spouse

Top 10 Reasons to Have Sex With Your Spouse


People come up with a plethora of reasons not to be intimate. No time. Too fat. Too tired. Kids. Not in the mood. Headache. I’m still mad at you. Being intimate with your spouse has many benefits, and usually, after you’ve had sex, you are really glad you did. The most difficult thing to overcome usually involves the mind. Mentally, you just don’t feel like it. You don’t feel like getting in the mood. You don’t feel like getting your spouse in the mood. It’s easier to watch T.V. and fall asleep. With just a small investment of time, and a mental switch, you can enjoy the following benefits of having sex with your spouse.

1. Having sex is good for your health: Sex once a week produces 30% higher levels of hormones that boost the immune system. Sex is also a natural antihistamine. It can help combat hay fever as well as asthma.

2. Having sex helps you lose weight: Passionate sex burns about two hundred calories, the same as running on the treadmill for fifteen minutes. British researchers have determined that the equivalent of six big macs can be worked off in a year by having sex three times a week.

3. Sex leads to emotional well being: During orgasm, the parts of the brain governing fear, stress and anxiety are switched off. Oxytocin is released, which has an amnesic effect on the brain. (Read… You will forget, at least temporarily, why you were mad!) Endorphins are also released, producing a relaxing and calming effect, a sense of well being and euphoria. Sex is ten times more effective than Valium, without the negative side effects, although it can be addictive!

4. Having sex helps the bladder and prostate: For women, sex strengthens the pelvic floor muscles, which give you greater control over pesky bladder leakage. For men, there is a link between infrequent ejaculation and prostate cancer. More sex will keep cancer at bay.

5. You will look better: Extra estrogen in women, a result of orgasm, makes hair shinier. Sweating during sex cleanses pores and gives your skin a healthy sheen. Serotonin produces a sexual afterglow. You will look younger and healthier after having sex.

6. Sex improves muscle tone: Regular sex can firm not only the abdominals, but also the legs and glutes. And for those of you who are extra adventurous, you can firm your arms, chest and back muscles.

7. Having sex slows the aging process: Sex lowers cortisol levels in the bloodstream, reducing stress and slowing the aging process. These lowered cortisol levels keep you healthy and younger looking.

8. Regular sex fights disease: Women who have more sex have higher levels of estrogen, which protects against heart disease. It also protects the body against Alzheimer’s disease and osteoporosis.

9. Sex transforms your relationship: Every time you have an enjoyable experience with your partner, your brain associates them with pleasure. Increasing the number of pleasurable associations improves your relationship.

10. Sex feels really good: Physically and emotionally, bonding with your spouse on this level creates an intimate bond. This bond is unlike any other. Your body feels good, your mood rises, you feel loved, and your spirit soars. Really, you need no other reasons to have sex. Pick any of the above reasons to surprise your sweetie with a romp between the sheets. You will both be glad you did.


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Let’s Talk About SEX Baby!

Instead of making a list about the top 12 reasons why premarital sex is bad, I wanted to make a list about the top 12 reasons why married sex is good! Below are reasons why legal, holy sex is the best. I figured if more people knew their value/worth and knew what they could look forward to in waiting, maybe more people would be willing to wait. This topic started as a Facebook discussion yesterday on my status. The list is a collaboration of things my friends and I came up with.

Please read the list and feel free to add to it or post your thoughts.

10 Reasons why legal, holy, married sex is the best.

1) You don’t have to worry about guilt or shame because you know that God is pleased with your actions.

2) You can have passionate, experimental, worry free love making because your spouse is your best friend and you are fully committed to one another.

3) You can wake up the morning after intimacy with your spouse by your side, instead of waking up alone, feeling dirty and empty.

4) With married sex, you’re not using anyone for their body and you’re not getting used. You both want to be together and please ONLY each other.

5) In marriage, I feel safe, protected and cherished while being intimate with my husband. Premarital can cause people to feel lonely, hurt, embarrassed and stressed.

6) With married sex, you don’t have to worry about your spouse leaving you if you get pregnant or leaving you when they see someone who may look better than you.

7) With married sex, you don’t have to be self-conscious or try to impress someone with your skill or body. Married couples should have fun learning what pleases each other. I encourage couples to pray and invite the Holy Ghost into their bedroom. He will lead and guide you and assist you with ensuring your loving making is mind blowing. He will grant you that request because you are in His will.

8 Married sex is a legal, holy, uninhibited, drama free way to physically express your desire and love for one another.

9) Married couples aim to please each other and wholeheartedly serve one another (in and outside of the bedroom) without guilt or shame.

10) In marriage, you and your spouse are one and intimate in every way. You don’t have to worry about getting too close or too attached because the person may leave you. Marriage is FOR LIFE and through the good and the bad, your spouse will always be there.

11) In marriage, you don’t have to sneak around to have sex and worry about getting caught. Married sex is legal and pleasing in God’s sight.

12) Married sex is about love, trust, committment and honesty. You can be yourself and know that your spouse loves you for who you are, not just because you’re giving it up to them. Love doesn’t pressure or demand that people do things for or too them. Love is patient, kind and understanding. When your marriage is good, your sex life is GREAT!!

I just want to say that marriage is about much more than sex. I don’t want people to think that I am implying that that is all married folk do (though some wouldn’t mind that being their main responsibility ) Marriage is about love, commitment, serving one another, giving 100% to each other, communication, meeting each other’s needs, sharing money, time, raising children, working in the ministry together and so much more. Sex is important of marriage though. Sex is what keeps married people close and the bible encourages married folk to not deny one another and to come together often.

I also know that no one’s marriage is perfect, in or outside of the bedroom, and marriage is hard work. Some married folk maybe going through right now and may not agree with this list at all and that’s ok. All I’m saying is, in marriages where Christ is TRULY at the center and both people are honestly trying to live by God’s word, where their committed to him first and then each other, you will find yourself experiencing the things on this list.

I encourage each person, single or married, to abandon the worlds way of thinking about sex, intimacy and marriage, and adopt the Lord’s ways and thoughts. Read your bible, get involved at a local church, hang around other SAVED and HOLY people and watch your life be changed and blessed forever!!