Breastfeeding, Pregnancy and Housework OH MY! My SAHM Update

SAHM
I’ve had the privilege of staying at home with my girls full time for the last four months. While life has been busy, it truly has been rewarding and lots of fun. It’s a wonderful feeling to be able to have my family and home be my main focus and responsibility. Many people believe the myth that being a SAHM means you get to lounge around all day, talk on the phone and eat snacks; where anyone would get such a ridiculous idea I have no clue!! For me being a SAHM means serving my husband and my children and taking care of home full time without the responsibility of full time outside work. Being a SAHM is work that I LOVE and ADORE doing most of the time but don’t get it twisted, it IS WORK.

Our girls are 2 1/2 and 8 months and it’s so cool to watch them grow and learn new things right before my eyes. Of course there is the constant challenge of learning to balance time with my husband, playing, teaching and disciplining the girls and getting things done around the house. Some days the laundry or the dishes don’t get done and I have to learn to be okay with that.

MOM

To ensure that I get rest and stay sane, I wake my girls up early so that they can be tired at a decent time for a nap and have an early bed time. There’s lots of cooking, cleaning, bathing, playing, disciplining, teaching, cuddling, bathing, tickling, reading and arts and crafts going on throughout the day. I start my day running and by the end of some days I haven’t eaten much, my hair never left my scarf and my body is aching but I go to bed still grateful for the chance to be at home and not in the work force.

BOY

Last November, my husband and I were surprised and overjoyed to find out that we were expecting another baby. Our youngest daughter was four months at that time. In the midst of my shock and mixed emotions, my awesome husband was happy and very encouraging. My husband reminded me that God was with us, we were a great team and everything would be fine. Now I am almost five months pregnant and everything with baby and I has been great. This week we found out that we’re expecting a baby boy!! We’re over the moon excited to welcome our son into our family this July.

To many people’s surprise, Elaina and I still have a great nursing relationship. It IS possible to nurse while pregnant. For me, nursing while pregnant hasn’t been any different from when I nursed my oldest daughter Elyssa. Many people, including one doctor, told that me that my milk would dry up soon after pregnancy and Elaina would refuse my milk but so far neither of those things have happened thank God. I believe that God will give me peace about when to wean her. My prayer is that she and I will both be okay with weaning when the time comes and it will be a smooth transition before our son is born.

The everyday challenges of being a SAHM plus being pregnant, nursing a baby and chasing a toddler makes for some very interesting, tiring days. But I most say that it hasn’t been as challenging as I thought it would be and I give all glory to God for that. God continues to give me the grace, energy, joy and wisdom needed to care for the girls and stay rested and healthy for myself and my son. The days that I have energy I pick different projects to do like cooking multiple meals, clean the house, do laundry etc, and the days that I don’t have energy, I care for the girls and make sure we’re all feed and safe lol. My husband is a great cook and has lots of patience so when I’m tired and short tempered, he steps in, cooks and cares for the girls while I rest. It’s a HUGE blessing to have a spouse who is helpful and selfless with a kind heart. I love you Eddie Willis III and I thank God for you!!!!!

As moms we go through different seasons in life, sometimes we work inside the home and sometimes we work outside the home; there isn’t a right or a wrong regarding this in my opinion. Being a SAHM is not for everyone and I would never say that all women should stay home with their children. Being at home full time requires a certain amount of grace and patience that I believe only God can give and it’s not for everyone! I have my Masters in Counseling and I know that my career days are not over. I love counseling others, helping them overcome obstacles and reach their goals. Let me just say that I loved my job. I was a Social Worker for nine years and I believed in the work that we did to help our community. The last year that I was working, I felt that the time was drawing near for me to close that chapter of my life for a period and start a new one. Now instead of heading to meetings and conducting sessions with families, I’m watching the clock to keep my girls on their schedule, helping them grow, learn and conducting playdates and I LOVE IT!

I’m finding that I have more time and energy for my husband which is awesome. On his off days, we spend time together with our children and without them. As I mentioned earlier, my hubby is a hands on husband and dad and he makes sure he helps around the house and with the girls. (He’s always fixing something to save us money. It pays to have a husband whose good with his hands!) He also pushes me to go out and take some “me time” or hang out with my girlfriends often. As you can imagine with me not having to deal with the stress and politics that come with working outside the home and him helping around the house, things have been pretty hott in the bedroom!!! That’s evident by our current bun in the oven! We’re a young happily married couple and we make time to enjoy one another! We’re determined not to get caught up in work and children and never take time to talk, laugh or love on one another. I desire him and he desires me. Team Willis all the way baby!!

I love photography and this past December I started my own business called J. Victoria Photography. I’ve worked with some amazing people and children and I’m having lots of fun! I’m still developing my skill and learning the business but I’m enjoying the process! I created a studio inside my home so I get to work from home doing a few sessions a week and it’s something I love doing so that’s really cool! I want my clients to have a great experience and receive good quality pictures at an affordable price. I’d love for my readers to “like” my J. Victoria Photography Facebook page and if you’re in Michigan, message me about our promotions and packages, please visit https://www.facebook.com/Jvictoriaphotography

If you’re a stay at home mom please be encouraged. I know some days you may not feel appreciated, hubby may not say thank you and the children may behave like wild animals, but tomorrow will be better. We must continue to seek our Heavenly Father and thank Him for providing us the chance to be home for this season and ask Him to continue to equipt us with everything we need while we are in it. Remember, you ARE a great mom and you ARE doing an awesome job!!!

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Marriage, Motherhood and The Bedroom

I was watching The View and they were talking about how allegedly Tori Spelling’s experiencing marital challenges. Reportedly, Tori’s husband made a statement that black-couple-cuddlingthey were having marital problems because they weren’t having frequent sex now that they have four children. One of the ladies on The View stated that they’ve had four children in six years and it was odd that the husband did not think that having many children close in age would affect their sex life. This issue made me think about intimacy after parenthood. Often times it becomes challenging to find the time and energy to come together, but as married couples we must find a way to stay connected and pleasing to one another!

1 Corinthians 7:2-6 (Message Bible) tells us God’s desire for the marriage bed.

2-6 Certainly—but only within a certain context. It’s good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights.” Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it’s for the purposes of prayer and fasting—but only for such times. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it. I’m not, understand, commanding these periods of abstinence—only providing my best counsel if you should choose them.

My husband and I waited until three years into marriage to have our first child. We enjoyed getting to know one another and adjusting to married life before we added any little ones to the equation. We weren’t sexually active before marriage, therefore we wanted plenty of time to come together and love on one another without the responsibilities of children. Now we have two daughters who will be 3 and 1 this year. While our lives are forever changed for the better now that we are parents, our desire to remain intimate frequently isn’t as easy to accomplish with a baby and toddler running around.

My husband is always ready for the lovin to begin but I am often tired and focused on so many things that it takes me a moment to whined down and get ready. When I allow myself to be present and focus on our love, we always have aN amazing time of passion. For me it’s making the decision to give my husband my all and when I do I’m always glad that I did!! After 5 1/2 years we still got it!!

After speaking to several mommy friends, I’ve discovered that many of them feel the same way. But one thing none of us want to do is make our husband’s feel like we don’t desire them or have time for them. Husbands and wives need to feel adored and desired. No one wants to feel like they always have to beg for attention or that their spouse is often too tired.

With this being said, I developed a short list of ways for wives to communicate their needs to their husbands and ensure that they find ways to come together frequently despite the hustle and bustle of life and parenthood. Check them out and let me know what you think. Before we review the list I wanted to share that wives have high sex drives too and we want to please and be pleased. Husbands and wives both have a part to play in meeting each others needs. Husbands need to make sure they aren’t too busy or too tired for their wives emotionally and physically as well.

1. Communicate your need for rest, affection, sex, help around the house and with the kids etc. Often times as women, once we feel understood, appreciated and supported, we’re better able to relax and feel more comfortable in the bedroom.

2. Consider scheduling your lovin to ensure that you get it in. I know it may sound boring, but it maybe helpful if you and your husband are both busy with a lot on your plate. You want to make time for one another so that too many days or weeks don’t go by before you come together again. Sometimes for women, when we know tonight is the night, we can get mentally and emotionally prepared throughout the day. We can save energy and think sexy thoughts so that we’re geared up and ready when the time comes. Try it and see if it works for you.

3. Nap time is a great time. Times when you and your husband are both home when the children are sleeping, try to take advantage of the quiet house and sneak away to enjoy one another. It’s very helpful to try to get your smaller children on the same nap and night time schedule so that you’re able to get rest, have some me time and we time! Of course this is easier said then done, but with consistency and patience, it will work out with time. Sometimes you’ll have to send the children to their rooms and put on a movie. After everyone’s safe and secure, you two go in your room, lock the door and focus on pleasing one another.

4. If you’re feeling overwhelmed with your extremely long to do list, talk to your husband about helping you in the areas of his choice. Example: Honey I’d love to be more available to you sexually, but by the time the children are in bed I’m so tired that all I want to do is pass out. Do you think you’re able to help me by taking a few things off my list during the week to give me some relief? You could pick a few things from the following list and it would be very helpful to me: cook a meal or two a week, help with the dishes, laundry, the kids bath time or homework. Continue to explain that if you two work together as a team and get things done, you will have more time available to focus on pleasing him and being pleased yourself.

5. Learn to turn off your “mommy mind” and relax. Yes there are bills that need to be paid, dishes and laundry that need to be washed and children that need bathes. This will ALWAYS be the case. The job of a wife and mother is NEVER done and that’s ok. We have to have peace knowing that everything won’t be perfect. Sometimes my husband seeks me out for lovin and I feel frustrated inside thinking “doesn’t he know how much work there is to be done,” or “he knows I’m tired,” but when I really think about it, what do those things have to do with us coming together? When we have needs of any kind, we are to try our best to fulfill those needs for one another without excuses and attitudes. My husband shows me affection and tries to help me relax. I desire him but sometimes sex is not on my mind so I say a silent prayer and I ask God to help me clear my mind and to give me energy. We must do whatever we need to in order to rock his world and allow him to rock ours! Our husband’s should never be last on our list; they need us and we need them. Sex is good and pleasing in God’s sight! So talk to your husband, figure out what works best for you two and GO GET IT ON!! LOL

10 Tips To Making Your Marriage Bed Even HOTTER in 2012

It’s so important for us married folk to keep thinking of ways to keep our marriage bed holy, smokin hot, healthy and happy. Husbands and wives need to continue to create ways to please one another and have fun in the bedroom. Wives, let’s consider trying a few suggestions on this list to help us step up our bedroom game in 2012. You know what your husband likes and if you don’t then simply just ask him. He needs to learn your sexual desires and needs and you need to learn his. Enjoy trying new things together. Learn to let loose and laugh as you discover pleasure together. Don’t try to be anyone but yourselves. Trying new things does require a little bravery but you can do it and your husband will appreciate your thoughtfulness and attempt to take ya’lls intimacy to the next level!

10 Tips To Making Your Marriage Bed Even HOTTER in 2012

1. If your husband is into lingerie, consider purchasing a sexy outfit once a month or every other month. Men are visual and he’ll enjoy seeing his bride in somethings short and sexy.

2. Try a new position once a month. Either you can think of the position if your good at being creative or you can propose the idea to your husband and you two enjoy thinking of new ways to please each other together.

3. Practice kissing your husband longer and more passionately, whether during your intimate moments or just when saying goodbye before heading out to work. Show him with your actions that you adore him and appreciate him. A soft sensual kiss may be just what he needs to start his day or end his day.

4. Think of creative ways to initiate sex more often. Husbands like to feel desired and they like to know that we’re looking forward to making love to them.

5. Send loving and sensual text messages to your husband during the day, letting him know that he’s on your mind and you can’t wait to come together with him later. This gives him something to look forward to and he’ll be excited to know that you desire him sexually.

6. Purchase lotions or body butter to help you smell good and to leave your skin smoothly irresistible. You may even want to have some smell goods set aside only for love making so that when he smells you in certain scents, he knows it’s time to come together.

7.  Think of ways to make your bedroom more romantic such as candles, rose petals and music. Every time you two come together you don’t have to set out all the stops but every now and then it’s nice to set up your bedroom extra special and enjoy the romantic environment.

8. Try ways to spice up your four play. Only do things in bedroom that both of you are comfortable with but whatever you do, learn to sometimes slow it down and enjoy every touch and tingle.

9. Build your husband’s ego regarding how much he pleases you sexually. Tell him more often how much you love his love and love-making.

10. Ask your husband about his sexual fantasies and attempt to make them come true if you feel comfortable. Share your fantasies with him also and keep learning to please each other.

YES life is busy with careers, children, house work, church, family, school etc BUT we MUST make our marriages a priority. We must be faithful, honest, trustworthy, giving, selfless and learn to committment affectively in order to have the marriages that God intended for us to have. Sex is a very important part of marriage so don’t neglect coming together.

National Love On Your Husband and Make Him Smile Day

Happy Friday Everyone!!

I want to make today National Love On Your Husband and Make Him Smile Day! All of our lives are so busy between taking care of our spouses, children, job duties, serving at our churches etc and sometimes it’s easy to forget to STOP and take time for the little things. Today I challenge us all to take a moment, slow down and love on our husbands. Ladies you know what your husband likes, you know what brings a smile to his face and makes him feel appreciated. I’ve learned that when I keep my husband happy he works even harder to make me happy and in turn we both continue working hard to meet each other’s needs. I must confess that today started off on the wrong foot. I was running late for work and being snappy. I calmed down, apologized and asked my husband if we can start over. I will work hard to make this day and everyday peaceful and enjoyable for us both. With God’s grace there’s nothing we can’t do ladies!!

Here are a few suggestions for ways you can love on your husband today:

*Call or text your husband and let him know that your thinking of him, hope he’s having a good day and can’t wait to see him later on.

*Give your husband a big kiss and hug before you leave the house or when you return. Look him straight in the face and tell him that you love, appreciate and need him. Make sure you say it like you mean it and show your desire for him in your eyes.

*If your husband likes cards, go purchase him a cute appreciation card with his favorite snack and let him know that you were thinking of him.

*Ask your husband if there is anything you can do for him today to help his day go smoother.

*Get a babysitter and surprise your husband with date night (this will only work if he enjoys going out and isn’t too tired) If he’s a home body, when the house is settled and the children are in bed, go freshen up, put on something sexy, walk into the bedroom and well you know what to do from there 🙂

*Maybe things have been so hectic that you and your husband haven’t sat down and just laughed and talked. Make it a point today to talk to your husband like you used to before bills, children and anything else that’s stressful. Look into his eyes, let him know your happy to be in the moment with him and just have a good time being there together.

The point of this post is to remind us to slow down and continue to make our marriages a priority. Marriage is a lot of work and in order to have a healthy, happy, holy and HOT marriage, we must continue to put in the time and effort. Wives lets continue to learn to communicate with our husbands with respect, understanding and compassion. When we find ourselves not being kind and patient lets be quick to apologize and get back in love with them. Let’s continue to make passionate love to them on a regular with excitement and a willing heart. Let’s continue to serve them however they need us to knowing that everything we do is to bring God glory.

Enjoy National Love On Your Husband Day and Make Him Smile Day! Feel free to post what you did or plan to do for your hubby today so other wives can be inspired! May God bless all of our marriages!!

100 Reasons Wives Love & Enjoy Sex With Their Husbands

Today marks the 100th post for my blog!! I’m so excited and honored that God has been using me to bless, educate and encourage people. The day I started the blog I felt completely lost. I didn’t know my way around WordPress and I didn’t have the slightest clue as to what I should write about. The blog sat for 3o days without me logging on or posting an entry. Before I started the blog, I had not written anything in years. Since I was a young girl, writing has been my passion but after college I just stopped writing. Life got busy and I focused my attention on grad school and working full time.

The day I wrote my first post, many creative ideas started coming to my mind. I started writing and writing and before I knew it 4 months later, I’m at my 100th post!! I give God all the honor and the glory. Holy Ghost gives me the topics/words and I walk in obedience and deliver the post! I’m always amazed at the end result of each post. God is good! I thank God for my book coach, Versandra Kennebrew, author of http://www.thankgodfortheshelter.com/ She assists me with my blog and my But God book project. Her wealth of knowledge has taken my writing and blog to the next level! Thanks Versandra!! 

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To celebrate the 100th post, I wanted to share 100 reasons that wives love their husbands and enjoy making love to them. This is a collaborative list that a few of my married friends and I wrote.  Each woman started their list by saying “I love my husband and enjoy making love to him because” My thought behind creating the list was to let the world know that marriage is awesome and there are many wives who are happy, satisfied and enjoy their husbands!!

I love our husband and enjoy making love to him because:
 
1. He truly loves the Lord and puts Him first.
2. He is a great provider.
3. He is the most patient man I know.
4. He is slow to get angry.
5. He treats me with the utmost respect.
6. He loves opening the doors for me.
7. He knows how to calm me when I over react to something.
8. He is unselfish when it comes to making love.
9. He constantly wants to know what I like sexually.
10. He readily admits when he makes mistakes. He doesn’t want to hide anything.
11. He desires to know how I feel and takes my feelings into consideration when making decisions.
12. I can be submissive and respect him. He is not trying to be dominant over me.
13. He takes the time to make sure I am pleased.
14. He makes me feel sexy, beautiful, and desired.
15. He doesn’t just think about getting his and going to sleep.
16. He knows what he’s doing and there’s both an emotional and physical connection.
17. We both do whatever it takes to keep things exciting both in and out the bedroom.
18. He makes me feel like I am the ONLY ONE (besides Jesus lol) who’s closest too him as a friend, companion, and of course as his wife.
19. I love our buddy relationship, because he makes me laugh and I can have fun with him.
20. I love how he brings gifts home out of the blue and it’s not a holiday or my birthday, it’s just the fact that he thought of me.
21. I love how when we have a disagreement we get it out the way and don’t hold on to it all day and night.
22. I love our dates (especially the movies:-D)
23. I love how his 1 million bottles of colognes lol
24. I just love my husband and everything about him, He strokes my eagle.
25. I love my husband because he is so patient and kind hearted.
26. He believes in helping me and not labeling things as wife duties or hubbys duties.
27. He makes me feel special even when I have my “I don’t look good moments”.
28. He loves to provide for his family.
29. I love my husband because he is a loving father.
30. He aims to please me in the bedroom. He plays close attention to me and how my body responds to what he’s doing.
31. He’s considerate of me; my time, my feelings, my opinions.
32. He treats me like his partner and not his assistant.
33. He loves to try new things and keep spice in the marriage.
34. He does not keep secrets from me.
35. I don’t have to worry about where he’s at after work and when or if he’s coming home. We trust each other and we are in communication throughout the day.
36. He loves me no matter what.
37. He keeps himself groomed and looking good for me.
38. He knows how to be social and fit into any setting (business meeting, church events, volunteer work or house parties.)
39. He is so smart. He enjoys learning and he retains information like a sponge.
40. He has many gifts and talents and he uses them all to glorify God.
41. He is silly, outgoing and fun to be around.
42. He always thinks the best of me, even when I’m trippin.
43. He values family and he doesn’t put anything before his family.
44. He is a great kisser.
45. He saves energy for me after long days at the office. He is available for me when he gets home.
46. He likes to talk with me and listen to me talk.
47. God made him just for me.
48. He completes me.
49. He loves my body even when I see all the flaws.
50. To be wrapped in his arms feels so good.
51. He enjoys being affectionate with me.
52. When he is half sleep in the middle of the night, he reaches out for me and pulls me close and holds me.
53.  He supports my purpose, goals and dreams.
54. He treats me with respect.
55. He doesn’t let his family get in our business or disrespect me.
56. He’s a hard worker.
57. He is a good cook and will make great meals for me every now and then.
58. He is a great mechanic and handy man.
59. He is a worshiper. He loves to be in God’s presence.
60. He loves the word of God. He loves to read it, memorize it and mediate on it.
61. He is a leader.
62. He is a Psalms 112 man.
63. He likes to make me feel sexy.
64. He looks forward to being the father of my children and raising godly seed with me.
65. He looks for opportunities for us to spend time together.
66. He enjoys being wherever I’m at.
67. He takes pleasure in keeping me looking good. He makes sure I get my hair done and have nice things.
68. He prays for me when I am sick or having a bad day.
69. He protects me and would never let anyone hurt me.
70. He is unashamed of the gospel of Christ and he praises God publicly.
71. He enjoys opening my doors, helping me with my coat and other chivalrous things.
72. He makes me feel like the most important and beautiful woman alive.
73. He makes the bedroom look romantic with candles, rose petals and music to help get me in the mood.
74. He is understanding when it comes to sex and me needing a break. His understanding makes me want to give myself to him even more.
75. He takes special care of me when it’s that time of the month.
76. He listens when I talk.
77. He’s interested in my career. He asks me about my day and how things are going at work.
78. He gives of his time by serving at our church, helping friends and family fix their cars, appliances, plant flowers etc. He is selfless.
79. He appreciates nature and he is great with gardening.
80. He is patient with children and the elderly.
81. He shows appreciation for my body. He loves on each part of me while making love.
82. He is gentle with me and often ask me if I am ok during love making. He never thinks only of himself.
83. He looks for opportunities to make extra money so that we have all that we need.
84. When I’m reading a novel in bed, sometimes he’ll ask to read it to me. We read it together and talk about the characters and the plot.
85. He does a great job paying the bills and manages our finances.
86. He is athletic.
87. Sometimes he sings me to sleep.
88. He shows appreciation for the lingerie that I wear, even though I know he can’t wait to take it off of me.
89. He enjoys daydreaming with me about our future together as parents.
90. He’s good with technology.
91. He’s driven, determined and dedicated.
92. He is kind and compassionate.
93. He is willing to help me around the house.
94. He tells me that he loves me and I’m beautiful daily.
95. He enjoys catering to me.
96. He has good taste! He is good at picking out clothes for me, furniture, paint, decorations etc.
97.  He understands and accepts his role as the spiritual leader of our home.
98. Sometimes he writes me poetry.
99. He is a man of integrity.
100. He loves and appreciates me for who I am.

Submissive Wife vs Stepford Wife

I know many people think that submission is a four letter word. In today’s society, people think a woman is weak or spineless if she is submissive to her husband but that is further from the truth. People don’t have an understanding about what submission is and what the bible says about it. A godly submissive wife is not a Stepford wife like in the movie Stepford Wives. Here are the definitions of a submissive wife and a stepford wife.
 
A Stepford Wife is 1.) Used to describe a servile, compliant, submissive, spineless wife who happily does her husband’s bidding and serves his every whim dutifully. 2.) Can also be used to describe a wife who is cookie-cutter & bland in appearance and behavior. Subscribes to a popular look and dares not deviate from that look. This term is borrowed from the fictional suburb of Stepford, Connecticut in Ira Levin’s 1972 novel, The Stepford Wives, later made into movies (in 1975 and 2004). In the story, men of this seemingly ideal town have replaced their wives with attractive robotic dolls devoid of emotion or thought. Click the link below to read more about stepford wives. http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=stepford+wife
 
Main Entry: sub·mis·sion
 
Merriam-Webster defines submission as 1 a : a legal agreement to submit to the decision of arbitrators 2 : the condition of being submissive, humble, or compliant 3 : an act of submitting to the authority or control of another.
 
What does being submissive mean: A submissive wife has the inclination and attitude of willingness to yield to a husband’s authority and follow his leadership. She wants her husband to take the initiative in the family and she is glad when he takes responsibility and leads with love. But submission also says, “It grieves me when you venture into sinful acts and want to take me with you. You know I can’t do that. I have no desire to resist you. On the contrary, I flourish most when I can respond joyfully to your lead; but I can’t follow you into sin, as much as I love to honor your leadership in our marriage. Christ is my King.”
 

What the bible says about marriage and submission

Ephesians 5:22-33 (The Message)

22-24Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing. So just as the church submits to Christ as he exercises such leadership, wives should likewise submit to their husbands.

 25-28Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor—since they’re already “one” in marriage.

 29-33No one abuses his own body, does he? No, he feeds and pampers it. That’s how Christ treats us, the church, since we are part of his body. And this is why a man leaves father and mother and cherishes his wife. No longer two, they become “one flesh.” This is a huge mystery, and I don’t pretend to understand it all. What is clearest to me is the way Christ treats the church. And this provides a good picture of how each husband is to treat his wife, loving himself in loving her, and how each wife is to honor her husband.

After reading the definitions of both types of wives, the narratives and the Ephesians passage about submission, I believe the differences are quit clear. I am honored to submit to my husband because A) I know that I am pleasing God and following His word, B) I know that my husband lives to please God. He has the Holy Spirit on the inside of him and he would never purposely lead us in the wrong direction, C) Our home is peaceful because we understand what the bible says about marriage and we both know our roles in the family. Submission is not a bad thing, especially when you marry a man who has an intimate relationship with Christ, is not trying to control and dominate you, who is mature, kind, wise, prayerful and willing to seek God until he gets clear direction regarding the family’s business.

Even though I am a submissive wife, I do have a mind of my own and I freely voice my thoughts and ideas to my husband respectfully. I don’t spend every minute of each day waiting on my husband hand and foot BUT I do take pleasure in serving him and taking care of him. He also takes pleasure in making me happy and taking care of me. Marriage is a partnership, we’re a team.

What Does Submission Not Mean:
 
1. Agreeing with Him in Everything
2. Refusing to Make Choices at Odds with His Choices
3. Avoiding Every Effort to Change Her Husband
4. Putting Her Husband’s Will Before Christ’s Will
5. Getting Spiritual Strength From Her Husband
6. Acting Out Of Fear
 
 
 
Married women, I encourage you to read the bible and find out what the word says about you and your behavior towards your husband. Surround yourself with other women that love their husbands and cheerfully submit to them. If you are having difficulty with submitting to your husband, pray and seek God. Ask Him to give you peace, patience and the ability to be the wife that He called and created you to be. Submitting isn’t always easy but it is a must.
  
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Salute To All The Modern Day Homemakers

Shout out to the modern-day homemakers who are holding it down. We may not make all of our dishes from scratch, make our own clothes and then wash them by hand BUT we are modern-day career women, wives and mothers and were doing an awesome job. Keep up the great work ladies (single, married and all the mothers) Be encouraged and know that your efforts are not going unnoticed! You all do all of these things listed below and so much more! I pray joy, peace, energy, wisdom, love and prosperity for each of you!

Shout out to all the moms who:   

*make sure their children eat healthy meals.  

 *take an active role in their children’s education.   

 *who keep their children on a schedule/routine in order to provide them with   structure.    

*play trucks and Barbies with their children even when their tired.     

  *provide their children with opportunities to get exercise.      

  *teach their children about God and keep them involved in children’s church and youth group activities.       

 *who role model for their children how to be godly ladies and gentlemen.        

 *utilize self-care and take time for themselves, hobbies and gifts/talents.      

Shout out to all the wives who: 

  *hold down the majority of the grocery shopping and cooking. 

 *keep their house clean whether they work inside or outside of the home.  

 *serve their husbands with a cheerful heart and good attitude.    

*make time for recreational companionship.     

*respect their husbands and work hard to walk out 1 Peter 3 and Proverbs 31.      

*meet their husbands sexual needs even when their tired or busy because they understand the importance of coming together as husband and wife.     

*love sex and are unashamed and uninhibited in the bedroom.       

*those that take time for themselves and their hobbies and gifts/talents and utilize self-care.

Shout out to all the single women who: 

 *are holy, fashionable and fabulous.   

  *keep steady jobs and are working towards meeting their career goals.  

 *who keep their house clean and organized.        

 *know how to cook or are learning to cook delicious meals.     

*are preparing themselves spiritually, emotionally and financially for their future husband.      

 *are serving at their churches and working hard to be the best at what God has called them to be.      

 *are confident and love themselves regardless as to whether they have a man or not.       

 *celebrate their singleness and know how to have good clean fun!       

 *utilize self-care and take time for themselves, hobbies and gifts/talents.      

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