My 2nd VBAC Birth Story

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This time last year my husband and I discovered that I was pregnant with our third child. Our youngest was only four months old so imagine the multiple emotions that all hit me at once like a mack truck when the test said POSITIVE!! YIKES!! My hubby started grinning and gave me a reassuring pep talk about how everything was going to be ok and he was right! My pregnancy was smooth sailing. My growing girl Elaina continued to nurse like a champ despite people continuing to say that she would refuse my milk since I was pregnant.

Now let me fast forward to the good part, the delivery ūüôā I got induced just like I had with my other two birthes, I guess my body just doesn’t like going into labor on it’s own. My doula was in a accelerated graduate program and temporarily unable to take clients. My mom, who had also one of my labor coaches, staid home to care for our girls who were three and one at the time. It was just my husband and I in the hospital, patiently waiting our son’s arrival.

My first daughter Elyssa, was born via emergency csection due to her being in distress because the cord was wrapped around her neck. My second daughter Elaina was my first vaginal birth after a csection (VBAC) and I was planning for my second VBAC with my son. I signed the VBAC consent form and began my journey. My OB is awesome and very supportive so I wasn’t concerned about being pressured into having a unnecessary csection.

Things were peaceful in the hospital. My husband and I walked the halls some but we mostly watched movies and rested while we waited for the strong contractions to come. Thankfully I did not have back labor like I did with Elaina. Back labor was so uncomfortable and the epidural provided no relief for my back. My doc let me take a break from the induction meds so we could eat dinner and we really appreciated that. Nothing worst then being hungry and not being in active labor. It feels like things are moving so slow with no end in sight.

The next morning my OB broke my water and oh boy is that the craziest feeling. Your in bed with hot fluid continually gushing out of you. The contractions started and I got my epidural but then had a bad reaction to it and needed some quick simple medical intervention to stabilize my blood pressure. At around 3:45pm the contractions got really strong and I started dialating quickly. My husband teases me saying he knows it’s almost time to push when I start humming and singing during my contractions. I make a low sound while trying to breathe, focus and stay in control during the pain and pressure. Hey at least I don’t yell and curse during them right! I can’t believe that I’ve  actually never cried during labor. It’s like I have my war clothes on and I can’t afford to lose it.

My dad was home so he staid with the girls and my mom rushed up to the hospital right before it was time to push. My birth photographer made it on time as well and it was time to get the show on the road!! I was about to get my second VBAC and I was overjoyed!!

I delivered our son in six intense minutes!! There was a time when I thought I may not get to experience vaginal birth but I prayed, had determination and a awesome doctor and support system and God granted my request!! It was a awesome feeling to have everyone encouraging me and cheering me on as I brought my son, Eddie IV, into the world. We were all blown away when we disovered that he weighed 10.3lbs!!! My big healthy boy!! Thank you Jesus!!

I had a scary moment of unexpected blood clot issues but the doctors moved fast and quickly got me stable. I’m so glad my husband and mom were there with me during that ordeal. Everything with my son and I checked out great and I insisted on going home 24hrs later. I’m still so grateful to God for my granting me with another beautiful baby and the birth of my choice. Birth without fear!!

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As you can imagine I’ve been very busy being a stay at home mom of three children under four. I will be writing about my motherhood journey alot!! I love being a wife and mom!! My husband Eddie is a awesome husband and hands on dad, we make a great team!! In between jungling the kids, housework, time with hubby, time for myself, my family, friends, church and photography business, I want to write in my blog more. I love writing and thank you to those who read and share my post!!!

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Breastfeeding, Pregnancy and Housework OH MY! My SAHM Update

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I’ve had the privilege of staying at home with my girls full time for the last four months. While life has been busy, it truly has been rewarding and lots of fun. It’s a wonderful feeling to be able to have my family and home be my main focus and responsibility. Many people believe the myth that being a SAHM means you get to lounge around all day, talk on the phone and eat snacks; where anyone would get such a ridiculous idea I have no clue!! For me being a SAHM means serving my husband and my children and taking care of home full time without the responsibility of full time outside work. Being a SAHM is work that I LOVE and ADORE doing most of the time but don’t get it twisted, it IS WORK.

Our girls are 2 1/2 and 8 months and it’s so cool to watch them grow and learn new things right before my eyes. Of course there is the constant challenge of learning to balance time with my husband, playing, teaching and disciplining the girls and getting things done around the house. Some days the laundry or the dishes don’t get done and I have to learn to be okay with that.

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To ensure that I get rest and stay sane, I wake my girls up early so that they can be tired at a decent time for a nap and have an early bed time. There’s lots of cooking, cleaning, bathing, playing, disciplining, teaching, cuddling, bathing, tickling, reading and arts and crafts going on throughout the day. I start my day running and by the end of some days I haven’t eaten much, my hair never left my scarf and my body is aching but I go to bed still grateful for the chance to be at home and not in the work force.

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Last November, my husband and I were surprised and overjoyed to find out that we were expecting another baby. Our youngest daughter was four months at that time. In the midst of my shock and mixed emotions, my awesome husband was happy and very encouraging. My husband reminded me that God was with us, we were a great team and everything would be fine. Now I am almost five months pregnant and everything with baby and I has been great. This week we found out that we’re expecting a baby boy!! We’re over the moon excited to welcome our son into our family this July.

To many people’s surprise, Elaina and I still have a great nursing relationship. It IS possible to nurse while pregnant. For me, nursing while pregnant hasn’t been any different from when I nursed my oldest daughter Elyssa. Many people, including one doctor, told that me that my milk would dry up soon after pregnancy and Elaina would refuse my milk but so far neither of those things have happened thank God. I believe that God will give me peace about when to wean her. My prayer is that she and I will both be okay with weaning when the time comes and it will be a smooth transition before our son is born.

The everyday challenges of being a SAHM plus being pregnant, nursing a baby and chasing a toddler makes for some very interesting, tiring days. But I most say that it hasn’t been as challenging as I thought it would be and I give all glory to God for that. God continues to give me the grace, energy, joy and wisdom needed to care for the girls and stay rested and healthy for myself and my son. The days that I have energy I pick different projects to do like cooking multiple meals, clean the house, do laundry etc, and the days that I don’t have energy, I care for the girls and make sure we’re all feed and safe lol. My husband is a great cook and has lots of patience so when I’m tired and short tempered, he steps in, cooks and cares for the girls while I rest. It’s a HUGE blessing to have a spouse who is helpful and selfless with a kind heart. I love you Eddie Willis III and I thank God for you!!!!!

As moms we go through different seasons in life, sometimes we work inside the home and sometimes we work outside the home; there isn’t a right or a wrong regarding this in my opinion. Being a SAHM is not for everyone and I would never say that all women should stay home with their children. Being at home full time requires a certain amount of grace and patience that I believe only God can give and it’s not for everyone! I have my Masters in Counseling and I know that my career days are not over. I love counseling others, helping them overcome obstacles and reach their goals. Let me just say that I loved my job. I was a Social Worker for nine years and I believed in the work that we did to help our community. The last year that I was working, I felt that the time was drawing near for me to close that chapter of my life for a period and start a new one. Now instead of heading to meetings and conducting sessions with families, I’m watching the clock to keep my girls on their schedule, helping them grow, learn and conducting playdates and I LOVE IT!

I’m finding that I have more time and energy for my husband which is awesome. On his off days, we spend time together with our children and without them. As I mentioned earlier, my hubby is a hands on husband and dad and he makes sure he helps around the house and with the girls. (He’s always fixing something to save us money. It pays to have a husband whose good with his hands!) He also pushes me to go out and take some “me time” or hang out with my girlfriends often. As you can imagine with me not having to deal with the stress and politics that come with working outside the home and him helping around the house, things have been pretty hott in the bedroom!!! That’s evident by our current bun in the oven! We’re a young happily married couple and we make time to enjoy one another! We’re determined not to get caught up in work and children and never take time to talk, laugh or love on one another. I desire him and he desires me. Team Willis all the way baby!!

I love photography and this past December I started my own business called J. Victoria Photography. I’ve worked with some amazing people and children and I’m having lots of fun! I’m still developing my skill and learning the business but I’m enjoying the process! I created a studio inside my home so I get to work from home doing a few sessions a week and it’s something I love doing so that’s really cool! I want my clients to have a great experience and receive good quality pictures at an affordable price. I’d love for my readers to “like” my J. Victoria Photography Facebook page and if you’re in Michigan, message me about our promotions and packages, please visit https://www.facebook.com/Jvictoriaphotography

If you’re a stay at home mom please be encouraged. I know some days you may not feel appreciated, hubby may not say thank you and the children may behave like wild animals, but tomorrow will be better. We must continue to seek our Heavenly Father and thank Him for providing us the chance to be home for this season and ask Him to continue to equipt us with everything we need while we are in it. Remember, you ARE a great mom and you ARE doing an awesome job!!!

Hello World I’m Back! And With Great News!

Hello world I missed you all!! I think about my blog and readers weekly but so much has been going on in my life and it was hard to make time to write. I hope I become more consistent again because but my blog means a lot to me. I have great news that I wanted to share with you lovely folks, I’m 15 weeks pregnant and ALL is well! As many of you know my husband and I experienced a miscarriage in May of this year. We stood in faith for physical and emotional healing and trusted God that in HIS PERFECT TIMING we would conceive again without any complications. My God is a restorer and so very faithful!! Nothing is impossible with God. If your going through a storm today, know that with God you can come out better than how you went in. God will restore what was lost and make all things new. Don’t give up, victory is yours in Jesus name!!

Here is a confession prayer that a friend gave me for our unborn child. It is very powerful so I wanted to share it. If you know someone who is currently pregnant, please share it with them. We must speak life over our unborn children. Hope everyone is having a great week. I promise to write again soon!!

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A Mothers Prayer For Her Unborn Child

By Iyanla Vanzant

Blessed and merciful God
Thank you for the gift of life
Thank you for the life of the child growing inside of me
Thank you for your love that is shaping and forming this childs life into your divine perfection.
Thank you for shaping this child’s mind
Thank you for shaping this child’s bones
Thank you for sharing this child’s destiny and for writing it upon his or her heart
Thank you for filling this child’s entire being with your loving light
Thank you for knowing and calling this child’s name even as it is being formed
Thank you for showing me how to love this child even before it is born
Thank you for giving me a healthy appetite for those food that are life giving
and life sustaining while this child is growing inside of me
Thank you for giving me peaceful rest while this child is growing inside of me
Thank you for peace of mind while this child is growing inside of me
Right now I give you all the concerns for the health, strength and well being
for the precious life growing inside of me
Right now I call forth your grace, mercy and the loving light of your presence
to fill my being and sustain the life growing inside of me
Prepare me for this birth. Prepare my mind. Prepare my body.
Bless me and this child that it’s birth will happen easily and effortlessly, under the grace of your peace.
I give your angels charge of this child.
I give you charge over my entire being
I give you thanksgiving and praise for this blessed life growing inside of me
May this prayer be lifted, heard and accepted by you oh God
For this I am so grateful
So be it!

A Year Ago Today The Test Said YES!

A year ago today the¬†test said yes!! I’ll never forget how excited we were as we walked down the isles of the store looking for the pregnancy test or the joy we felt when we discovered that it was positive!! I rolled on the floor in our living room! We thanked God and sat there grinning at each other because our desire to start a family was coming to pass!!

We went to the store and created a surprise gift for my parents. We went to their house and I told my mom to look at the gift I had gotten for my girlfriend’s baby shower. When she opened¬†the pretty blue and yellow box inside¬†was my 2 tests, a poem from the baby to them and a baby musical toy.¬†My mom screamed, my dad laughed and they both congratulated us! We ate dinner together and talked about baby stuff. I will never forget that day, how excited Eddie and I were but more importantly how faithful God was. I have always wanted to be a wife and¬†a mother ever since I was a little girl. We had only been trying to conceive¬†for a short time and God had given us the desire of our hearts!! Many ladies were telling me all types of methods to try to get pregnant and I was researching the topic weekly but my husband told me to calm down, enjoy trying and trust God and he was right!

I want to encourage people today to trust God and the plans that He has for you. He knows what you need and when you need it. He hears your prayers, He sees your effort to live right and please Him. When the time is right and He knows your ready, He will grant you your desire if they are in line with His will. (Psalms 37:4)¬†I sit here typing this with my precious, healthy, blessed baby girl right now and I’m encouraging myself, reminding myself that if God did it on 7/30/10 He CAN AND WILL DO IT AGAIN! I have things that I’m believing God for my family right now and I know God hears me and I know He’s able and faithful! I will walk in peace and trust Him just as I learned to do last year when trying to conceive. Thank you Jesus for your love, mercy, faithfulness and goodness!!

3 Reasons To Be Married Before Starting Your Family

I’m typing this post from our new nursery. My husband Eddie had to build a wall for the nursery¬†because the previous¬†owner¬†knocked it down to expand the livingroom. Now the wall¬†is up,¬†the room¬†is painted, the¬†furniture has been purchased¬†and put together and the decorations are done. God¬†has been¬†so good to us!! He¬†is forever¬†faithful!

I wanted to share three reasons why starting my family after I was married has been a blessing to me. Before I get into it however, I wanted to say that I believe that ALL children are a blessing from God, no matter how they were conceived. The bible teaches us that we are to be holy and abstain from sex until we are married. Read 1 Cor 6:18-20 & 1 Cor 7:1-8 The bible is what I try everyday to live my life by and the teachings in the bible are where I get my views from.

3 Reasons to Be Married Before Starting Your Family

1. Marriage is committment.

When my husband and¬†I said “I Do” to one another, we¬†made a committment that we would be married in sickness, healthy, richer or¬†poor, till death do we part. We made a¬†decision that divorce was not an option and¬†no matter how¬†hard things got, we would continue to seek God and He would get us through. We were blessed to be able to plan when we wanted to start our family and God honored that request. My husband has always desired to be a husband¬†and a father and therefore he has been very involved¬†throughout my pregnancy. He’s attended all my doctor’s appointments, helps me research baby stuff online, reads pregnancy books with me etc. Because we are committed to Christ,¬†our marriage and each other, we are committed to our¬†soon coming¬†daughter together¬†as well. No matter how challenging life may get, we know that God is on outside and we have no reason to fear.

2. Marriage is the ultimate form of team work.

My husband and I are committed to working together as a team.¬†In marriage, you are supposed to be able to count on your spouse to be a helpmate to you. Husbands and wives should try their best to¬†serve one another with a¬†willing attitude and a¬†loving heart.¬†My husband and I work together to get the house work done, grocery shopping,¬†pay the bills and get the meals prepared. I don’t have to worry about having to prepare for the child inside of me alone because I’m not sure if her father will stick around. Because we are committed to Christ, each other and working together as a team, there is NOTHING that we can’t do! We are unstoppable!

Often times when the couple is not married, the mother has to take care of herself during the challenging moments of her pregnancy. When the baby arrives, if¬†¬†her¬†partner does not live with her, she has no choice but to operate as a single parent, handling late night feedings etc on her own. During pregnancy, women deserve and need to be nurtured, pampered and assisted with every day task, esp towards the end of pregnancy. Right now I can’t tie my shoes, stand on my feet for long periods of time or even have the energy to complete simple daily tasks. I NEED my husband to serve me with a good attitude and help me. The good thing is, he desires to take care of me, he always has, but esp now that I am doing the important job of growing his child safe inside of me.

3. You have someone to love, laugh and learn with throughout this new season of life.

My pregnancy has been enjoyable. I haven’t experienced any complications and have hardly ever gotten sick. God is good!! One things for sure, my body and hormones continue to change but through it¬†all, I’ve had my husband¬†by my side¬†the entire time. He continues to¬†helping me laugh off the awkward pregnancy¬†moments,¬†google things and learn about pregnancy when I have¬†questions or concerns and love me even though my body is growing and my emotions are sometimes out of wack.

No woman should have to go through pregnancy alone. Women need a loving support system to help them go through each stage of pregnancy and into parenthood. It hurts me to see pregnant women neglected, lonely and sad that the person who promised to love them hit the door as soon as the baby was conceived.

Ladies to help avoid the possibility of being a single mother, try not to give up the goods for free, know your worth. If a man truly loves you, he will propose to you and wait to have sex with you until you two have become on before God. First comes love, then comes marriage, THEN comes the baby in the baby carriage!!

A Rape Survivor’s Letter To Her Unborn Daughter

Dear Elyssa Janee,

My sweet girl, I love you so very much. We have ten weeks until we meet and get to look into each other’s eyes. As each week goes by, I think about all that I want to tell you, teach you and shield you from.

 

My Love

Your father and I love you already, more than words can express. I want you to know that your father has taught me so much about real love. He has been dedicated, patient, selfless and compassionate since the day we met 7 1/2¬†years ago. I’m excited that you get to have him as a dad! You’re a blessed young lady! Your father and I have come to know the love of Christ and learning about how Christ loves us has taught us how to love one another and prepares us to love you unconditionally too. You will never have to wonder if we love you. You will always be loved, encouraged, challenged, praised and¬†disciplined.

My Past

Over ten years ago, a man took advantage of me and I went through a very rough time. BUT GOD!¬†With God’s grace, mercy, strength, comfort and the wisdom and guidance of friends and family, I¬†became¬†a overcomer, survivor, victor, never again to be a victim. I want you to know that you never ever have to be afraid of men, the world or anything. No weapon formed against you will prosper. God’s blood covers you. God has not given you¬†the spirit of¬†fear, but of love,¬†joy and a sound mind.

I will not pass onto you a legacy of hate, unforgiveness, anxiety, bitterness or anger. I let all of those things go many years ago with the strength of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ because I knew that one day I wanted to be a healthy and free wife and mother. I wanted to be able to teach my children about the love, protection and peace of walking with Christ. I wanted to have children with a husband that was a protector and not one that would abuse his family verbally, physically or emotionally. By getting free, I broke the cycle or victimization over our family. You belong to God, you are His daughter and He is entrusting you to us.

My Promise

I promise to be the best mother that I can be. I promise to spend time in prayer so that I can have patience with you and receive guidance from God concerning you. I promise to always encourage you to have a close relationship with your¬†earthly father and Heavenly Father. I promise to be open and honest with you, even when it makes me feel uncomfortable because I want you to trust me and know that I will never purposely watch you walk in the wrong direction. I promise to be selfless and take my role as your mother seriously.¬†Ever since I was a young girl, I’ve dreamed of¬†one day being blessed with a family and God has granted me that prayer; I do not take this honor lightly. I promise to take care of my body and you, for the next 10 weeks especially, so that you can continue to grow strong and be safe and comfy inside of me. Until we officially meet my lovely little lady, know that I love you and I’m preparing for you. I’m also¬†continuly praying and confessing great things over you.

Pregnant & Lovin It: Week 28 Mom & Baby Update

I’m 28 weeks, 7 months pregnant! I’m feeling good and Ms. Elyssa Janee is doing great! I’ve passed all of my prenatal tests, my ultrasounds have all gone great and the doctor doesn’t have any concerns¬†regarding me or the baby! God is so good and forever faithful!! This ultrasound was taken at week 22. She’s an even bigger girl now!

Christmas time was lots of fun. Many people brought Elyssa gifts. We brought her two outfits. We took family pictures with my parents, brother, sister-in-law¬†and our niece. Eddie and I took two pics to show off my belly and our growing family. It’s amazing to see my body change weekly. We’ve been taking a few progression¬†pictures a month¬†for memories. I’m so blessed that this pregnancy has been smooth and enjoyable. God gets all the glory!

I just started my third trimester and I can already feel the difference! My belly is getting in the way of me bending down; sometimes I need my husbands help with putting on my socks. I find myself getting tired in the afternoon but I am able to shake it off without having to come home and take a nap most days. I’m still taking several bathroom breaks throughout the day but I’m used to that now. I used to get hormone headaches and suffer back aches but those have decreased greatly praise God!

The best things about my pregnancy so far have been:

1. Feeling Elyssa moving and kicking. It’s amazing how God created women to carry babies. I¬†count it an honor¬†and privilege to carry a child because I know not all women¬†are able to do so.¬†I love that I get to carry her around inside¬†me¬†and keep her safe and comfy. I love when my husband and I have¬†bonding time with her like when we call her name¬†and poke my belly and she kicks back. Those are such special memories.

2. Preparing for Elyssa’s arrival with my husband. It’s so much fun to learn about her development together. To¬†pick her name,¬†plan her for¬†the nursery, shower and register at stores together.

3. To be pampered by my husband and loved ones. It’s so nice to have¬†people¬†cater to¬†me and¬†look out for me. It’s¬†such a blessing because I know¬†that many¬†women don’t have the support that they need and¬†deserve during this time.¬†We live in Michigan and we get bad winter weather around this time, therefore my husband holds my hand when we are outside and he always treats me with care to ensure that Elyssa and I are safe and comfortable. I love Eddie Willis III very much and thank God for him!!

28 week update from fitpregnancy.com:

¬†Your baby has doubled her weight in the past month and is now the size of a bag of flour. She now weighs almost 2 1/2 pounds. Her total length is nearly 15 inches. Your babies lungs are now capable of breathing air! This is big news. It means if the baby is born¬†from now on, she’ll be able to survive with less medical intervention. Your baby’s main job right now is to put the finishing touches on major organ systems such as her brain, lungs and liver. As you can probably tell, she’s also working on gaining layers of fat. Her body fat is about 2 or 3 percent. Your babies eyes, which were covered by her eyelid folds at 6th wk of development, are capable of opening this week. Her sucking and swallowing skills are improving.

Shout out to ALL my 2011 moms to be!! Several of my friends are expecting babies this spring and summer. Elyssa will have many many playmates and a few babies that could be future husband materail ūüôā¬†

**Moms, what were some of your favoriote pregnancy memories?**