Testimony Time! If He did it for me, He CAN Do It For You!

Revelations 12:11 (KJV) And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony. 

This past Monday, my sister in law invited my husband and I to speak to her college bible study about dating and marriage. This opportunity to share our testimony and encourage believers on a college campus was major for me. Ten years ago, I was a lost 20-year-old college student. I thought I had a relationship with Christ but I hooked up with the wrong crowd and set many of my morals/values on a shelf to become a follower. On Monday while at that bible study, I was in awe of my awesome, faithful and able God because I knew where He’d brought me from. I knew that only because of Christ could I be ministering at a college bible study ten years later; saved, filled with the Holy Spirit, a hunger to grow in God, peace of mind, a drama free lifestyle, a wonderful husband, healthy daughter, two college degrees, a 9 year stable career and so much more. God gets all the glory because He knows just how jacked up I was ten years ago. At 20 I never would have believed that I could be where I am today BUT GOD!! Genesis 50:20 (NIV)  You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives. God turned my mess into my message.

I told those awesome young people my testimony of being a lost, confused, bitter, unproductive partying college student. I told them how I was raised in a Christian home but didn’t have my own firm foundation and therefore I walked right into temptation when given the chance. I told them how my grades, relationship with God, my parents, my self-esteem and peace of mind all suffered greatly. One day after another failed relationship, I woke up and said enough is enough, this lifestyle sucks, I know God has better for me, Lord help me to live for you and free me of all this junk that’s holding me down. I told them that I had to let go of anything that kept me from going hard after the Lord; I asked the Lord to help free me of any distraction including certain friends, secular music, parties etc. I took it one day at a time until living holy before God no longer took so much effort, it was natural, a lifestyle. I surrounded myself with other Christians, stayed in my word, focused on my relationship with God and graduating. I sought counsel and received restoration from past hurts and I allowed God to have complete control of my life. Because of my repenting, open and willing heart to follow Christ, He was able to do a mighty work in me and help me to help others. I met my husband at Word of Faith. At our church we learned to glorify God in our friendship, courtship, engagement and now marriage. In being faithful to God, He remains faithful to us! God is so good!!

Today I want to encourage those that are going through or who aren’t where they want to be in Christ or even in life. Maybe you hoped to be married or have children by now. Maybe your secretly struggling with an addiction that no one but God knows about. Maybe you’re struggling to finish college or raise children on your own. Whatever your current situation is, I want you to know that God has an AWESOME future for you.  Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV) For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Please keep praying and keep seeking God. When you mess up, repent and get back up. People in this world, esp your family and friends, need you to walk with Christ so you can be a witness to them one day. Know that God’s there with you, wanting to help you and He will continue to give you the strength you need to keep pressing and growing in Him. He will never leave you or forsake you. Your testimony is on the way so don’t give up! Then you can sit in front of other people who are currently in the shoes you used to be in and boldly say LOOK WHAT THE LORD HAS DONE! HE DID IT FOR ME AND HE CAN DO IT FOR YOU!!! GLORY TO GOD HALLELUJAH!!

HE Can Change A Hoe Into A House Wife

2 Cor 5:17  (KJV) Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.

We all have made bad choices in life at some point, but thank God for His mercy and grace. Today’s post is dedicated to the women who want to move past their mistakes and press to get where God has called them to be. God knows the things we’ve done in our past that we’re not proud of but He can make ALL things new. God loves us despite our mess. God wants to make our mess our message to others to help get other’s free. God can do supernatural heart and brain surgery, causing your heart to be healed of past hurts from bad decisions and your mind to be at peace and ready to move forward in victory. If your ready to move from a hoe to a housewife, God is able to help you start the process.

In college I made bad choices about friendships and romantic relationships and as a result I became confused, angry and insecure. I was messed up and was not marriage material at all. It’s so amazing for me to look back at where I was 11 years ago and see how far God has brought me. I have not arrived by any means but God gets all the glory for the restoration, peace and joy that I have right now. The picture in this post of me and my husband on our wedding day in 2008, we met at our church and we are more in love today then ever before, to God be the glory.

Here are 3 things that I did to allow God to transform me from a lost woman into a woman on the road to victory:

1. I surrendered my life fully to Him. I realized that on my own I was messing up my entire life. My grades were slippin, my relationships were stressful and nothing was going right. I decided to stop focusing on guys and drama and start developing my relationship with Christ. Once I made the decision to walk away from mess, God was able to begin His work in me. I started getting rid of everything that was hindering my relationship with Christ and the drama seemed to disappear with every passing day. I wanted more of Christ, I was hungry for change and Christ had been waiting patiently for my return back to Him.

2. I found myself a new group of friends. It’s impossible to hang with the same no good friends but expect to do good and live right. I had to end so called friendships with males and females that were only bringing me down. At one point I only had one other Christian female friend, she was my roommate, and we hung out, prayed, served in campus ministry, shopped, cooked and studied together.  We both ended up joining Word of Faith and God blessed us to meet lots of other Christian friends who became like family and the rest is history. It’s easier to remain holy, sober, productive etc when you surround yourself with like minded people who are going places and on the grind for Jesus.

3. I had to change my way of thinking. I changed my focus from how I could find me a boyfriend and get some money to buy cute clothes and hang with my bad news friends and started focusing on God, graduating from college and trying to make something of myself. I knew I wanted to one day get married and have something to offer my future family. I had to change my mindset from only thinking about pleasing my flesh in the moment, which always got me into trouble, to setting myself up for a successful future with Christ at the center. To change my thinking, I changed what I read, what I listened to and what I viewed. Listening to secular music, reading trashy novels and sitting around watching soap operas when I wasn’t in class wasn’t going to help me change my thinking and reach my goals. I was introduced to Christian hip hop and other gospel music that I’ve never heard of, Christian novels that had humor and drama minus the sex scenes and I found more wholesome things to view on tv; it all made a world of differfence in my behavior and attitude.

It doesn’t matter how many people you’ve dated, fooled around with or slept with. It doesn’t matter what lies you told or the deep dark secrets that you carry in your heart with shame. God already knows, He sees, He hears, He saves and He forgives! If you would like to ask the Lord to come into your heart right now and experience a life better than you could ever imagine, please say this simple prayer:

Dear Heavenly Father, I need you, please come into my heart and be the Lord of my life.  I repent of my sins and I turn away from them, please forgive me Lord and show me how to walk in your ways. Thank you for dying for me on the cross and raising from the dead. Thank you for the gift of eternal life, in Jesus name I pray amen.

If you prayed this prayer I’d love to know about it. Please email me and feel free to email any questions to joanna.willis@hotmail.com I encourage you to get hooked up with a local church and surround yourself with like minded people.

Philippians 3:13-14

Forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before, I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.

Stop Having Yo New Man Pay For The Sins of Yo Past Man

The new man can’t afford to pay the debt of the one who came up short, nor should he. If he does, then he’ll come up short. Release the ex of that debt, forgive him and wish him well for real. Start fresh with this new man, as if your heart had never been broken. That’s what grown women do. Bitterness doesn’t look good on nobody~ Kim Blakes, my FB friend.

My response to her status: Amen! We need to give our hurt, pain and issues from past broken relationships to God and allow HIM to heal us. We can’t truly be what a new love needs us to be if we aren’t complete and whole in Christ. Trust me, I’ve been there. Thank God for His mercy, grace, restoration and love.

There are 2 points that I’d like to zero in on regarding this topic.

1. Forgiveness is key when trying to get over a past relationship that went bad. It’s impossible to harbor anger and bitterness when you have truly forgiven someone and given your hurt over to God. I used to hate my 2 ex’s with a passion. When I rededicated my life to Christ, I knew I had to lay my pain, anger and unforgiveness on the altar if my sins were to be forgiven, if I desired to be whole, at peace and if I wanted to be a happy woman and wife one day. Forgiveness seems unfair because you were the one who was wronged but forgiveness is for you so that you can be free and delivered from the bondage of the past. When I learned to forgive those three gentlemen my attitude and life changed for the better. Shortly after that I met my husband and we began a beautiful friendship that eventually lead to love.

2. It’s very important to not jump into a new relationship before you allow yourself to get healing and closure from your past relationship. When a relationship ends negatively, it leaves a bad taste in your mouth and a pain in your heart. Sometimes you may find yourself depressed, confused and defeated. You need to go into a quiet room and tell the Lord what happened, how you feel and what you need from Him. The bible tells us to cast our burdens unto Jesus for He cares for us. God already knows what’s going on but He wants you to come to Him willingly with an open heart so that He can heal, love and comfort you. There is no love like the love of our Heavenly Father and there’s no hurt that He can’t heal. The bible says that He heals the broken-hearted and binds up their wounds.

When you take the mess from your past relationship into your new one, your asking for your new relationship to fail. It’s not fair to the new man whose intentions towards you maybe pure but you treat him as if you know he’s going to dog you out and leave you hanging like the last joker. Seek godly counsel and get yourself together before jumping into a premature relationship that could end just as badly as the last.

Bonus tip: When we allow ourselves to jump from one bad relationship to the next, we make it harder for Mr. Right when he comes along. 1. Because we’re so distrusting that we can’t see him for who he really is 2. We’re too busy being angry about the last joker that we LET dog us out that we can’t see the good man standing right in front of our face. 3. We’ve ALLOWED ourselves to deal with so many bad guys that we lose hope that good guys even exist. There are good men out there but you have to ask yourself, are you ready to properly love one? Do yourself a favor, get restored from the past, embrace your time of singleness and learn to love yourself. If you don’t love you, you can’t possibly love someone else.

Grab Yo Suit Case, It’s Time For A Change

The key to change is to let go of fear- Rosanne Cash
There is nothing wrong with change, if it’s in the right direction- Winston Churchill
Life can either be accepted or change. If it’s not accepted, it must be
change. If it cannot be changed, then it must be accepted.- unkown
Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending- Maria Robinson
Women are creatures of habit. We like things to be comfortable and to stay the same and consistent but sometimes this can be a bad thing. As women we have to make sure that we do not allow fear of the unknown to prevent us from stepping out and trying something new. Read the following questions and answer them honestly to yourself.
1. Am I happy and fulfilled in my current job?
2. Am I being loved and treated how I deserve to be in my current
3. Is my church teaching me the word of God and helping me to grow spiritually?
4. Do I enjoy my job and look forward to going to work each week?

If the answer to any of these questions is no, it maybe time for a change. God put all of us on this earth for a reason and each day that we have breath in our lungs, we are responsible for walking in our purpose and living our lives to the fullest. When God says it’s time to move, grab your bags and get to moving. He will never ask you to do something and sit back and watch you do it all by yourself. He will lead and God you through every step of the way. Seek God, yield to Him and watch Him do awesome things in your life. Don’t waste another day on a man that’s not loving you, respect you and building you up. Don’t keep working at a job that you hate and don’t keep attending a church that you know you have out grown. Seek God for direction but know that whatever He tells you to do, you got to be prepared to do.

Jere 29:13 And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart.

Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.

1 Cor 10:13 No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.

Isaiah 43:18-20 Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the desert and streams in the wasteland. The wild animals honor me, the jackals and the owls, because I provide water in the desert and streams in the wasteland, to give drink to my people, my chosen.

Isaiah 41:10 So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.


Over the years, I have been tremendously blessed by Joyce Meyer’s books. Recently, I started reading her book, The Confident woman, Start Today Living Boldly And Without Fear. Chapter 4: Seven Secrets Of A Confident Woman, was an awesome read. I wanted to post of a few of the key points from each secret. I pray it blesses you for it certainly blessed me.  Because of our relationships with the Lord, we can ALL walk boldly and confidently each day!

Secret 1- A confident woman knows that she is loved.

  • She does not fear being loved because she knows first and foremost that God loves her unconditionally. To be whole and complete, we need to know that we are loved.
  • I encourage you to concentrate on those that love you and forget about those who don’t.
  • There are women who feel so bad about themselves that they get involved with men who will hurt them, because they believe that is all they deserve. You need to be around safe people, not people who continue to wound you. God will help you learn to recognize those people if you listen to His wisdom.
  • I urge you to take a step of faith right now and say out loud, “God loves me unconditionally, and I receive His love!” You may have to say it 100 times a day, like I did for months, before it finally sinks in, but when it does it will be the happiest day of your life.
  • Eph 1:4-5 and 1 John 4:18

Secret 2- A confident woman refuses to live in fear.

  • “I will not fear” is the only acceptable attitude we can have toward fear. That does not mean that we will never feel fear, but it does mean that we will not allow it to rule our decisions and actions.
  • 2 Tim 2:7 and Hebrews 10:38
  • We should strive to do everything with a spirit of faith. Faith is confidence in God and a belief that His promises are true. When a person walks in faith, Satan immediately tries to hinder her through many things, including fear.
  • Faith will cause a person to go forward, to try new things and be aggressive. Fear causes people to bury their talents due to fear of failure, judgement or criticism.
  • I encourage you to be firm in your resolve to do whatever you need to do, even if you have to “do it afraid!” To “do it afraid” means to feel the fear and do what you belive you should do anyway. The only thing we really need to do is fear God, reverentially.

Secret 3- A confident woman is positive.

  • Confidence and negativity do not go together. They are like oil and water, they do not mix. I used to be a very negative woman, but thank God, I finally learned that being positive is much more fun and fruitful.
  • Being positive or negative is a choice, it is a way of thinking, speaking and acting. Either one comes from a habit that has been formed in our lives through repetitious behavior.
  • Fear is the dark room where all your negatives are developed, so why not look at the brighter side of life? Why not believe that something good is going to happen to you? If you think you are protecting yourself from being disappointed by not expecting anything good, you are mistaken. Your living in disappointment if you do that.
  • Positive thinking can change your current reality. God is positive, that is His reality. It is the way He is, the way He thinks, and the way He encourage us to be.
  • Romans 8:28 and 1 Cor 13:7
  • It has been said that 90% of what we worry about never happens.

Secret 4- A confident woman recovers from setbacks.

  • A person is not a failure because she tried some things that did not work out. She fails only when she stops trying.
  • Most of the people who are huge successes failed their way to success. Instead of letting mistakes stop you, let them train you.
  • If you are doing nothing with your life because you are not sure what to do, then I recommend that you pray and begin trying somethings. It won’t take long before you will feel comfortable with something.
  • One of the greatest things about a relationship with God is that He always provides new beginnings. His word says that His mercy is new every day. Jesus chose disciples who had weaknesses and made mistakes, but He continued working with them and helping them.
  • Phil 3:13
  • Don’t be afraid of your past; it has no power over you except what you give it.

Secret 5- A confident woman avoids comparisons.

  • Confidence is not possible as long as we compare ourselves to other people. No matter how good we look, how talented or smart we are, or how successful we are, there is always someone who is better, and sooner or later we will run into them.
  • I believe confidence is found in doing the best we can with what we have to work with and not in comparing ourselves with others and competing with them.
  • Our joy should not be found in being better than others, but in being the best we can be. Always struggling to maintain the number one position is hard work. In fact, it’s impossible.
  • I found myself always comparing myself with someone, and in the process rejecting and disapproving of the person God created me to be. After years of misery, I finally understood that God does not make mistakes, He purposely makes all of us different, and different is not bad; it is God showing His creative variety.
  • Confidence begins with self-acceptance, which is made possible through a strong faith in God’s love and plan for our lives.
  • I encourage you to be content in who you are. That does not mean that you cannot make progress and continually improve, but when you allow other people to become a law (rule or regulation), you are continually disappointed.
  • Psalm 139, Exodus 20:17 & 1 Cor 2:16

Secret 6- A confident woman takes action.

  • I have heard that there are two types of people in the world. The ones who wait for something to happen and the ones who make something happen.
  • A naturally bold person has to overcome pride, excessive aggression, and false confidence, while the naturally shy person must overcome anxiety, timidity, the temptation to withdraw from challenges, and low confidence.
  • While confidence is a good thing, egotism is not. Thank God we can learn to have balance in our lives. We can benefit from our strengths and overcome our weaknesses through His help.
  •  I believe we must learn to step out into things and find out what God has for us in life. A more timid approach may protect individuals from making mistakes but the result is that they spend their lives wondering “what could have been,” Bold people, on the other hand, make more mistakes, but they recover and eventually find what is right and fulfilling for them.
  • God works through our faith, not our fear. Don’t sit on the sidelines of life, wishing you were doing the things you see other people doing. Take action and get a life!
  • Your attitude makes all the difference in your life. Have a positive, aggressive, take action attitude, and you will enjoy your life more. It may be difficult at first, but it will be worth it in the end.

Secret 7- A confident woman does not live in “if only,” and “what if.”

  • One of the biggest mistakes we can make in life is to stare at what we don’t have or have lost and fail to take an inventory of what we do have.
  • Matt 14:15-21 the story of the five small loves of bread and the two fish. The lesson was: If we will just give God what we have, He will use it and give us back more than we had to begin with.
  • It is not our abilities that God desires, but it is our availability He wants. He wants us to see possibilities, not problems. Don’t spend your life thinking, “if only,” you had something else, then you could do something worthwhile. “If only,” is a thief of what could be.
  • “What if,” can be as devastating as “if only.” Negatively anticipating a future experience is potentially more devastating than actually experiencing the problem.
  • Where the mind goes, the man follows. If you pay more attention to your thoughts and choose to think on things that will help you instead of hinder you, it will release God’s power to help you be the confident woman God wants you to be. Think confident and you will be confident!

Knight in Shining Armor

One of my favorite books for single women is titled “Knight in Shining Armor, Discovering Your LifeLong Love.” by P.B. Wilson. This book changed my life. It blessed me more than words can say. It challenged me to improve the areas in my life that I was struggling in (anger, shame, unforgiveness, self esteem), it encouraged me to have a true intimate relationship with God, to take my focus off of my desire for a mate (which at one time was consuming me because I was anxious to meet a good man and get married) and put it on God and my purpose. The book also helped me to understand the true purpose of dating, (which is for dating to be an interview process, not just a romantic adventure) the importance of getting restored from the issues surrounding the assault and it explained God’s views on sex. I know many women who were blessed by reading this book and following the godly principles it. I encourage every women who hasn’t read this book to google and purchase it today.

Mrs. Wilson advises single women to place themselves under construction for six months to allow them to further develop an intimate relationship with Christ, to get restored from past hurts and for them to understand what God says about them as women of God as well as the purpose of dating, marriage and God’s thoughts on sex. She also encourages women to:

  • Start a six month journal
  • Study their thought life and begin memorizing scriptures that will counteract any thoughts that would not please God.
  • Allow Holy Spirit to identify to them any people who have hurt them.
  • Begin the process of forgiveness, reconciliation and unconditional love.

Here a few nuggets from the book. The entire book is packed with biblical and practical knowledge so it was very hard to only select these to share with you. I pray that it blesses you as much as it blessed me.

  1. Psalms 37:4 Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of you heart. If you desire to be married, God has a husband for you! Remember: True desire is when we allow God to put His desires for us into our hearts. So we must begin by developing our love relationship with the Lord.
  2. Don’t be discouraged by worldly statistics.
  3. One the face of this earth, there is one man who will love you. God will present you to him at the right time. Until that time arrives, there’s plenty of work for you to be doing.
  4. Isaiah 54:5 For your maker is your husband, the Lord Almighty is His name.  Have you and the Lord been on your honeymoon? Have you spent as much time thinking about Him, as you have thinking about eligible men?
  5. Satan will often send a counterfeit before the original arrives.
  6. Some women seem to always attract the wrong kind of guy. The reason maybe that they have not learned to design, decorate or dedicate their buildings to attract a godly man.
  7. One of the greatest lessons you can learn before you get married is that your future husband will never be your provider. God can use him as provision, but the Lord alone if your provider.
  8. Many women wrap themselves around the man they love and recreate themselves to fit his preferences. Although it’s normal to adapt yourself to a boyfriend or a husband, avoid a man who thinks the construction work is his job. 
  9. To discount a man because of his outward appearance may cost you your second greatest blessing (the first is Jesus)
  10. When you find a man who  is saddened when he disappoints God, you have found a gem. If he doesn’t want to hurt God, he won’t intentionally hurt you, because that would hurt God.
  11. If you aren’t changed on the inside, you may not be able to recognize your Knight in Shining Armor, even when he is looking directly into your eyes.
  12. Holy Spirit will be God’s instrument in fashioning you into the woman God wants you to be, and to prepare you to be a godly and loving wife.
  13. Christian women have to be careful of the clothing that is too tight, too short, too low in the front, or too skimpy in the back. As the old saying goes, “If it’s not for sale, take the sign down!”
  14. The fact is, in order to become happily married, you must become happily single. You have to become “Me” before you become a successful “We.” Further more, no matter who we marry, Jesus must continue to be the lover of our soul.
  15. You need to be complete before marriage so that you can be whole in the marriage. You become complete when operating in God’s fullness for your life.
  16. One of the best ways to protect yourself from a disastrous marriage is to use caution in your dating life.
  17. Some women have experienced molestation, rape or incest. These women wonder if they will be able to respond sexually to their husband. Once you have touched the hem of Christ’s garment, you can become one of those blessed women who have come through horrific events and still find sweet pleasure in the arms of their Knight in Shining Armor.
  18. Single women must put their emotions on the back burner while dating. If you keep your eyes open and allow God to show you the man’s heart, He will reveal the man’s hidden secrets.
  19. Fighting the battle to remain celibate in your single life means you are getting prepared to have a wonderful sexual experience in your marriage.
  20. One of the responsibilities of the husband is decision-making, Eph 5:22-24. Your husband has the right to make all the final decisions in your marriage even though God will ultimately have the last word. If you are going to follow his decisions, what should you be studying while you’re dating? His decision-making skills.
  21. Patience is the weapon that causes deceit to reveal itself.
  22. A single woman should short-circuit the romantic stage and instead, adopt an interview mentality toward men. Remember Phil 4:6

**Question** Did any of the principles jump out at you? What did you agree or disagree with?

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The purpose of the poem, SPEAK: A CALL TO ACTION, is to encourage people going through a storm to keep pressing until the clouds clear. If you need help, get up, seek what you need and get your healing process started. It saddens me to see people, esp Christians, bound and trapped in their current or past circumstances. As believers, we know God shed His blood so that we can be free; we need to claim that freedom and start walking in it. As long as we have breath in our lungs, we have a chance to better ourselves and our situations. When we are depressed, upset, confused, angry etc, we have a tendency to want to lay down and give up. PLEASE don’t accept your life the way that it is, don’t throw in the towel. God is faithful. He sees your pain, He sees your tears. Keep pressing, keep praying and praising. When you don’t know what to pray, just say the name JESUS.



























































A Prayer For Those  In Need of Restoration

Dear Lord

Thank you for giving those reading this blog the boldness to do what they have to do to get better, to be free.  Lord, facing our past is scary and sometimes we don’t want to deal with the emotions that come with confronting our issues. Please give us peace as we seek help and trust in you. Thank you for your unfailing love, your mercy which is new every morning and for peace that passes all understanding. Lord, help us to get free and stay free. Send laborers our way that know you and your word intimately. Help the laborers to be kind and patient as they lead us to wholeness in you. Lord, thank you in advance for restoration. In Jesus Christ mighty name, AMEN!!

John 16:24

Until now you have not asked for anything in my name. Ask and you will receive, and your joy will be complete.