I Love My Husband, Therefore I Love The Detroit Lions

While watching TV today, a special came on about the Detroit Lions and a light bulb went off in my head. *DING* Suddenly I had a great idea to watch the special and google info on the Lions to surprise my husband Eddie. Eddie has always loved sports, esp football. I’m not a big sports fan but I have observed how excited he gets to read about the Lions, watch the Lions and listen to sports radio about the Lions and the NFL. This evening I believe the Lord placed it on my heart to learn to enjoy football also so that my husband and I could bond together in that way.

Eddie is willing to do things with me that many husbands would not enjoy doing with their wives. He takes me to see chic flicks, he shops with me and we cook together sometimes. He’s willing to do things with me to make me happy. While I have done things with him to make him happy and to enjoy his company, I can’t say I’ve ever fully embraced one of his hobbies and made it my own. I’m excited to learn the game of football and develop a love for the Detroit Lions. I hear there’s a lot of buzz going on about the team this year and their expected to do great. I’m excited to get into football so that we have another hobby to talk about and enjoy together. Ever since I found out I was pregnant on 7/30/10, the majority of my thoughts, dreams, prayers and conversation have been about our baby girl and growing family. While majority of new moms would be just fine with mainly focusing on the joys of new parenthood, most husbands would like to also enjoy activities and hobbies besides those concerning the new baby. I’m happy that Eddie will be able to teach me the sport and talk to me about the plays and games instead of enjoying those moments by himself.

One reason why I wrote a post about this is to have my readers keep my accountable to my promise to learn the game of football and get involved in the season with my honey. Also I wanted to encourage other wives to find a way to connect with their husbands by doing some form of recreational companionship with them of their choice (ex: playing cards, board games, sports, gardening, painting, cooking etc) What are some of your husband’s passions? What would he enjoy doing even more with you be his side? What hobby could you two do together that would keep your marriage close knit and joyful? Pray and ask God to show you how to be peaceful, kind and fun loving with your husband this week. The goal is for us all to have holy, hot, happy  and healthy marriages and one way to ensure this is to learn to do things together and have fun!!

A Year Ago Today The Test Said YES!

A year ago today the test said yes!! I’ll never forget how excited we were as we walked down the isles of the store looking for the pregnancy test or the joy we felt when we discovered that it was positive!! I rolled on the floor in our living room! We thanked God and sat there grinning at each other because our desire to start a family was coming to pass!!

We went to the store and created a surprise gift for my parents. We went to their house and I told my mom to look at the gift I had gotten for my girlfriend’s baby shower. When she opened the pretty blue and yellow box inside was my 2 tests, a poem from the baby to them and a baby musical toy. My mom screamed, my dad laughed and they both congratulated us! We ate dinner together and talked about baby stuff. I will never forget that day, how excited Eddie and I were but more importantly how faithful God was. I have always wanted to be a wife and a mother ever since I was a little girl. We had only been trying to conceive for a short time and God had given us the desire of our hearts!! Many ladies were telling me all types of methods to try to get pregnant and I was researching the topic weekly but my husband told me to calm down, enjoy trying and trust God and he was right!

I want to encourage people today to trust God and the plans that He has for you. He knows what you need and when you need it. He hears your prayers, He sees your effort to live right and please Him. When the time is right and He knows your ready, He will grant you your desire if they are in line with His will. (Psalms 37:4) I sit here typing this with my precious, healthy, blessed baby girl right now and I’m encouraging myself, reminding myself that if God did it on 7/30/10 He CAN AND WILL DO IT AGAIN! I have things that I’m believing God for my family right now and I know God hears me and I know He’s able and faithful! I will walk in peace and trust Him just as I learned to do last year when trying to conceive. Thank you Jesus for your love, mercy, faithfulness and goodness!!

Don’t Be Deceived, The Grass IS NOT ALWAYS Greener

I have many friends in all stages of life; single, married, children, no children, employed, out searching for employment and stay at home moms. Some of my friends are  in their mid 20’s, some are turning 30 this year, like me and some are in their mid to late 30s. While we are all in different stages of life, we can learn from each other and be a blessing to each other as long as we’re careful not to walk in envy or discontentment.

In talking to many ladies, I’ve come to see that it’s easy for us to start comparing our lives and feeling like the grass is always greener. Let me explain what I mean: a single woman could say, I wish I was as successful in my career as my other single friends or I wish I had a husband like my married friends, a married woman could say, I wish my husband was like your husband, a pregnant woman could say, I wish my pregnancy was easy as your pregnancy and a mother could say, I wish my baby was as peaceful and well behaved as your baby. The truth of the matter is no one’s life is perfect and we ALL have something to be grateful for. We are to thank God for our health, sanity, jobs, housing, friends, families, marriages etc. We can also thank God in advance for what He is going to bless us with in the future (such as a job, car, spouse or children) because God knows what we need and desire. Psalms 37:4 Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.

Today I want to encourage and remind my readers as well as myself to continue to trust God and walk in His peace and contentment. God knows where we’re at in life and where we want to be. Today I pray that we all learn to seek His face more so that we can receive the answers and direction that we need. I pray God shows each of us what is HIS perfect will for our lives. I pray that we learn to allow God to lead and us to follow, not trying to tell Him what’s best. May we continue to walk in Psalms 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your path. God’s got us, there’s no need to worry!!

Psalms 37: 25 KJV

25I have been young, and now am old; yet have I not seen the righteous forsaken, nor his seed begging bread.

Philippians 4:11-13 NIV

11I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. 12 I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. 13 I can do all this through him who gives me strength.

1 Timothy 6:6-8 NIV

6 But godliness with contentment is great gain. 7 For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it. 8 But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that.

2 Corinthians 9:8

8 And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.

James 1:3-5 KJV

3Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience. 4But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing. 5If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.

My 1st Nurse In: Fighting For My Right To Nurse In Public

Last Friday, July 1, 2011, my husband, daughter, close friend and her son all attended the nurse in held at the Oakland SMART bus terminal in Michigan. It was our first nurse in and we were all very excited to support Ms. Moon and this very important cause. Last week I posted the information regarding Ms. Moon being harassed by the bus driver while she nursed her newborn in a Moby Wrap. Mother’s (and a few fathers) from all walks of life came out to support Ms. Moon and our right to nurse in public. The nurse in was put on by Keva Williams and the Black Mothers Breastfeeding Association; they did an awesome job!

The supporters brought signs promoting breastfeeding and we mingled amongst one another talking about motherhood and breastfeeding. The media was present as well as the police. It was a peaceful protest which was my prayer because I didn’t want anything to take the attention away from the reason we were there, which was to support and promote the education of breastfeeding. 

The SMART bus company provided the moms with a bus to use as a cooling station due to the hot weather which I thought was very nice of them. At one point majority of the moms got on the bus and nursed together. I got to meet Ms. Moon and thank her for taking a stand and refusing to be removed from the bus for nursing. Ms. Moon appears to be a kind-hearted woman who knew her rights and wouldn’t allow anyone to bully her.

Ms. Moon is apart of the Black Mother’s Breastfeeding Association. BMBA has a local support group which meets monthly in Detroit. Please checkout their facebook page. https://www.facebook.com/pages/Black-Mothers-Breastfeeding-Association/178862834625 In this picture from left to right is me and Elyssa, Ms. Moon and her newborn son in the middle and my close friend Rolisia and her son Isaac.

I always knew that I wanted to breastfeed but I wasn’t educated on the topic until my husband and I took a breastfeeding class towards the end of my pregnancy. I wasn’t presented with the issue of how to handle nursing in public until we started taking her out when she turned 4 weeks. At the time Elyssa wasn’t taking bottles well (this is something she’s still adjusting to after being exclusively breastfeed for 10 weeks 90% of the time before I returned to work) I would take bottles with me but when she rejected them I had to try to find places to nurse her and a few times I ended up nursing in bathroom stalls. I’ve now learned better and hope to never nurse in her a public bathroom again; I wouldn’t want to eat in there so why should she have to?

When Elyssa was 6 weeks I purchased a nursing cover and began to nurse her in the car instead of public bathrooms while we were out and about. Over the past month I’ve began nursing her in public with my cover and it’s begin going well. I haven’t experienced any backlash or noticed anyone giving me nasty glares BUT honestly I wasn’t looking at what other’s reactions because I didn’t care. When my baby is hungry I will to feed her. I will always be modest but she has the right to nurse on demand in a clean and safe environment. In this pic I’m nursing Elyssa on the bus.

Our society needs to remember that breast were NOT created solely for sexual pleasure, they were also created to nourish babies. It shouldn’t be okay for a woman to walk around practically naked in the summer and everyone be fine with it but a woman breastfeeding her baby is called inappropriate and asked to leave the establishment. Breastfeeding is natural, sacred and beautiful; if you don’t like it look away! I hope to educate those around me as well as my friends on Facebook, Twitter and my blog readers about breastfeeding. You could say that I am now a breastfeeding advocate. It’s totally okay if women decide that they don’t want to breastfeed but I want them to feel informed and supported if they decide that they do want to breastfeed. HI my name is Joanna Willis and I’m a breastfeeding mommy!!

Question: What have been your experiences with breastfeeding in public? What are your thoughts about breastfeeding in public? Do you BF in public, why or why not?

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