My Praise Is ALWAYS Necessary

Good morning world!! I just wanted to send out a reminder this wonderful Tuesday morning that as Christians our praise is ALWAYS necessary!! No matter what you’re going through today, whether you feel sick or well, have lots of money in your pocket or hardly any, God is still good and our praise is necessary (absolutely essential, required to be done) Let’s get in the habit of continually praising God throughout everyday that He puts breath in our lungs. He’s been to good for us to walk around depressed, angry, stressed etc. Checkout this youtube video from Canton Jones, one of my favorite gospel artist. Our church, Word of Faith, was blessed to have him come and minister last Friday and it was FIRE!! Checkout the video and the lyrics. I believe it’s important to support gospel music.

Lyrics to Necessary Remix :

[Remix feat. Ramona Estelle, James Fortune][Verse 1:]
My praise is always necessary
It comes first not secondary
And I’m bold, He saved me and made me whole
Now I love him
When it comes to praise, gotta let go
Can’t hold back and I can’t say no
He deserves all my praise
I will praise him the rest of my days
Lord God, Almighty
I praise you, You’re holy
Yeah, You’re God of all nations
And I make this declaration

Praise is necessary, Praise is Necessary
Praise is always necessary [x3]
Praise is… my, my, my, my, my

[Verse 2:]
Yeah, praise You for the things You’ve done for me
Yeah, now let’s celebrate, got victory
Now I can praise Him in the morning, praise Him in the noonday, praise Him all through the night
And I will never stop lifting His name higher
Every single day because He set my soul on fire
Move these shackles like Mary, Mary
And know my praise is ne-ne-ne-ne-ne-necessary


[Verse 3:]
Oh, praise is necessary,
No matter what, it’s necessary
In any situation, it’s necessary
In any circumstance, it’s necessary
When I’m happy, it’s necessary
When I’m sad, it’s necessary
When I’m mad, it’s necessary
Praise is necessary

Praise is necessary, Praise is necessary
I lift my hands cause you deserve it
I lift my voice, I won’t with hold my praise

I Think The Proverbs 31 Woman Liked It On Top

Our precious baby girl, Elyssa Janee, is now 7 weeks old and the doctor cleared me to began being intimate with my husband again. This was exciting news for both of us! All throughout our marriage but esp during my pregnancy and after giving birth, my husband continues to compliment me on my body, telling me how beautiful and desirable I am. His words give me confidence and help me to desire intimacy with him because I feel loved and accepted by him.

I came across an awesome post by Julie Sibert called “I Think The Proverbs 31 Woman Liked It On Top.” The post is about Christian wives and the importance of them having sexual confidence in the marriage bed. Julie’s post about the Proverbs 31 Woman was posted on Julie is a writer and speaker on sexual intimacy in marriage. You can follow her blog at Intimacy In Marriage. I found the post to be helpful, encouraging, lighthearted and humorous (esp during my new season of sex after baby). Check it out and let me know what you think.

A significant number of Christian wives with whom I speak struggle with this (for a variety of reasons, but let’s stay focused here). They think that sexual confidence with their husband is incongruent with being a modest Christian wife.

Such a conclusion doesn’t show up blatantly in any Bible study or even in the Bible.

Nonetheless, the subtle (albeit false) implication still manages to weave its way into the hearts of wives everywhere – to become sexually expressive and responsive would somehow tarnish their integrity and faith.

The Proverbs 31 Wife

Enter stage right my friend and mentor: The Proverbs 31 Wife. Okay, I didn’t know her personally, but like a lot of you, I’ve read all about her being a woman of noble character (Prov. 31:10-31). Several Christian women loathe her, because they see her as a completely improbable standard – a poster child for inaccessible ideals.

Personally, I like the gal. She took charge, kept her kids in line, walked in her giftedness and helped her community. I mean come on, she was buying property and making profits at a time when it probably wasn’t very common for women to be business owners. She had a vineyard for crying out loud. She rocks in my book.

The Proverbs 31 Wife loved her husband, and loved him well. I can only fathom that all that confidence spilled over into their bed. I would be willing to guess she liked being on top occasionally, where she could lead sexually, bring about pleasure for both herself and her husband, and add some variety to their sexual landscape. It would seem to me what would be incongruent for her is to be a strong woman of faith by day and then lack confidence when getting intimate with her Beloved at night.

God clearly said in 1 Cor. 7:3-5 that husbands and wives should not withhold their bodies from each other. There is a tone of mutuality in these verses that cuts to the chase for me. Combine this with the fact that orgasm was God’s idea and that He equipped male and female bodies with the ability to orgasm. Seems clear that sexual pleasure and intimate oneness is meant to be a shared endeavor for husbands and wives.

Is That Type of Sexual Confidence Even Possible?

I’m not naïve. I don’t make light of the fact that some couples traverse through deep struggles sexually. What I do know is that my heart is all about speaking hope and encouragement to married couples on a variety of aspects of sexual intimacy, some light and some heartbreakingly hard. I know that if I asked 100 husbands if they would like their wives to be more sexually confident in bed, about 98 of them would respond unequivocally with a “yes.” Some may even cast absurd looks at me, as if to say, “Do you even have to ask this question?!”

If you struggle with sexual confidence as a Christian wife, plead with God to reveal to you His vision for sexual intimacy. Dig into Prov. 31:10-31, Song of Songs, and 1 Cor. 7. Have a vulnerable discussion with the man with whom you fell in love and married, pledging your heart, soul and body. (You did pledge your body, even if the pastor didn’t speak one word about sex).

When it comes to sexual confidence, I’m not talking about variety for variety’s sake. I’m talking about honest connection, truth and mutual responsibility for sexual expression.

I definitely think the Proverbs 31 Wife liked being on top. And if she were around today, I’d sit with her in her vineyard, talk about marriage and life, and drink good wine. Want to read more about what sexual confidence looks like and how you can learn to be more sexually confident, visit my post


A few days ago, I woke up thinking about my marriage and my family; what was going well and what areas I wanted God to help us improve. Naturally, I started thinking about what I wanted my husband to do and the Holy Spirit quickly put me in check and reminded me of what He called me to do. He sent me to 1 Peter 3:1-2. Ladies, after you read these verses, you’ll see that God’s calling all of us to consistently step our game up.

1 Peter 3:1-2 (AMP)

 1IN LIKE manner, you married women, be submissive to your own husbands [subordinate yourselves as being secondary to and dependent on them, and adapt yourselves to them], so that even if any do not obey the Word [of God], they may be won over not by discussion but by the [godly] lives of their wives,

    2When they observe the pure and modest way in which you conduct yourselves, together with your [a] reverence [for your husband; you are to feel for him all that reverence includes: to respect, defer to, revere him–to honor, esteem, appreciate, prize, and, in the human sense, to adore him, that is, to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love, and enjoy your husband].

When I read verse two, I immediately felt convicted. I do love and respect my husband but 1 Peter 3:2 broke down love and respect on another level!! 1 Peter 3:1-2 is telling us to submit to, respect, adore, prize, appreciate etc our husbands NO MATTER WHAT. No matter how we feel, if we’re too tired or too busy. Also, no matter if they’re doing all of the above back to us, we are to please God by walking according to His word and glorifying Him in our marriages. So for the rest of the week, I kept these scriptures in the forefront of my mind. It felt good to know that I was walking according to God’s word and it felt good to see my husband pleasantly respond to my extra effort to give him what he needs from me on a daily.  On day two I shared with my husband what I was doing and he said he noticed and appreciated my extra effort to be sweet to him. Then he said I was the best thing that ever happened to him. Of course his encouragement gave me extra fuel to keep going down the right path.

Wives and future wives, let’s make a decision today to not allow our negative thoughts, emotions, fears, past hurts or the worlds backwards views on love and marriage to take root in our hearts. If God has called you to be a wife, then He has anointed you with everything you need to be the wife He designed you to be. I know that in order for me to adore, prize, esteem, respect and admire my husband on a daily basis, I need a consistent prayer life. I am not perfect and neither is he, but walking in the flesh only hurts marriages; we all need to pray and continuously walk in the spirit.

Lastly, I want to be my husband’s BIGGEST CHEERLEADER!! I don’t want anyone to tell him how great, smart, handsome, hardworking or talented he is more than me. I want him to feel how much I love and respect him with every word that comes from my mouth. I want him to know that he can count on me to be respectful and patient with him. I want to him trust that he can always be honest with me because I won’t beat him down, I will only love on him the way the word of God tells me to. This is a high standard, but one that I will continuously work on and aim to live by. Our three-year wedding anniversary is this month. My husband is learning how to be the best husband and father he can be and I’m learning how to be the best wife and mother that I can be. 1 Peter 3 has given me a challenge and I’m up for it! Our families are our first ministries so let’s make sure things are taken care of at home before we go and try to save the world.

Whose In YOUR Network?? defines the word network as an extended group of people with similar interests or concerns who interact and remain in informal contact for mutual assistance or support. On this Mother’s Day weekend, I’m extremely grateful to God for the network of married Christian mother’s that He’s placed in my life. Several of my friends have had babies over the last year and it’s a blessing to be able to call and vent/seek advice about things like breastfeeding, lack of sleep and vaccinations. Motherhood is challenging and while I’m so grateful for my husband, whose an awesome father and support, it’s important for me to have my network of mothers in my corner also. 

Yesterday I had six mothers and their babies over to spend time with Elyssa and I. All six women are positive, educated, married Christians who want to be the best mother’s that God has called them to be. By surrounding myself with that group of awesome women, as well as the others that I know who fit in this category, I will learn, grow and enjoy motherhood. No one was sitting around dogging out their husbands, or saying how much they hate how demanding motherhood is. Yes marriage and motherhood are two of the most challenging things I will ever do, but I need godly, hopeful and determined women in my corner during this journey! Ladies, don’t allow people into your life that will poison your mind with their drama, anger and bitterness. You only want those who love God, themselves and have similar goals in your network.

Today, I encourage you to take time to think about whose in your network. Do you know women who have similar interest as you, who can be of support to you? No matter what season of life you are currently in (single, married, student, business woman, mother etc) everyone needs a small network to assist them in being the best that they can be. As women, majority of us need to talk, laugh and cry with someone at some point. We like to share our good and bad moments with others. Life is not meant to be lived alone. If you’re trying to start a business, surround yourself with other women who have successfully started their own businesses. If you want to go back to school, lose weight or strengthen your marriage, you must seek God and ask Him to bring others into your life who can be in your network and help you meet your goals.

As Christians, it’s important for us to fully trust and rely on God, for He is our source and strength. Our Heavenly Father knows that we need others Christians to encourage us, pray with us and do life together. If you find that you don’t have the network that you desire, I encourage you to seek  God today and make your request known. God is faithful and He will grant you your request. When we surround ourselves with positive productive people, we become challenged to be better and do better. Remember, birds of a feather flock together!