Marriage requires communication, patience, compassion, forgiveness, team work and so much more. When a wife gets pregnant, husbands and wives have to work even harder to meet each others needs and walk out the traits above. During the 9 month period a huge chunk of their time is focusing on mom and babies health and preparing for the babies arrival. Pregnant women’s emotions are sometimes all over the place, their tired often and their bodies are changing. Throughout all that we married women go through, we MUST still remember our husbands. We must remember that they have needs too. One of the worse mistakes women can make is act like it’s all about her throughout the pregnancy then all about her and baby when the baby comes. Husbands and wives are partners through every stage of life. We all have feelings, desires and needs. If we want our marries to stay happy, healthy, HOT and last forever, we must always work hard to make our marriage a priority.
Here are 3 tips on how to meet your husbands needs during pregnancy. I have not mastered these tips but I have been working on them and I have seen great results! Ladies read the tips and share your thoughts.
1. SEX! Often times women experience fatigue, discomfort and even sickness during pregnancy. Some days the last thing we are thinking about is sex but our husbands are thinking about it. The majority of our husbands are too polite to ask for sex as frequently as they were getting it before because they understand that we’re going through a lot but don’t abuse your husbands kindness. Remember that sex is very important in marriage because it’s a time where husband and wife come together to bond and become one.
My suggestion is for wives to initiate sex when they have energy and are feeling well, that way they can enjoy their husbands and show them that they love them and desire them, even though so much is going on inside their bodies. At 27 weeks pregnant, each week I keep track of our sex life in my mind and make sure that I set aside time to rock my husbands world a few times a week. Even in pregnancy I want to meet his needs and be the ONLY woman that he desires. Ladies do what you can to show your husband love, attention and sexual fulfilment throughout pregnancy.
2. RESPECT! With emotions and hormones changing daily pregnant women must work hard to keep their attitudes in check. I feel like I’m doing a decent job in this area but I have my moments and I know I can do better. Our husbands deserve our respect and we deserve theirs, no matter how we are feeling or what we are going through. Nothing gives us a license to purposely or continuous disrespect one another. When I feel my emotions or attitude rising, I try to shut my mouth, pray, just sit quietly for a moment or go lay down if I can. No one wants to be the mean pregnant woman whose husband dreads coming home to at night.
When you find yourself upset or agitated, before you react, ask yourself is it really that deep and how can I respond in away that will keep the peace and not put my husband on the defense. Holy Spirit is giving me great advice as I type this post because learning to think before I speak is an area that I am working on.
3. COOKING AND HOUSEWORK! If you were the main cook and person that cleaned up around your house, things may need to change now that your pregnant. We need more of our husbands help during pregnancy BUT we should try our best to cook and straighten up sometimes when we are able. There are days when I can’t physically bring myself to cook or clean and those days my husband will jump in and help me but I make sure I cook a few times a week and clean on the weekends when I am able. I want to keep my husband happy, feed and have our home environment be one of peace. In marriage everyone has to sacrifice but especially when the wife is pregnant. Don’t adopt the world’s views on marriage, adopt God’s. God requires that we love, honor, respect and serve one another. Let’s continue to meet our husbands needs, let them know when we need their help and in turn we are working as a team and keeping the devil out of our marriages!