Does Counseling=Crazy? NO! 10 Reasons To Sit On The Couch

 Many of us (African Americans) think you have to be “touched” or “crazy” to go to therapy.” While it’s true that some people with mental health issues seek therapy, it’s really a service for anyone. Therapy is a paid service that connects you with a trained professional who provides you with the support you need to live a healthier and happier life.

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In 2002, I saw a counselor for 6 months and that 6 months transformed my life. I was finally ready to confront the pain that I had held onto for two years following the rape in 2000. I was so scared about starting counseling and talking to a complete stranger, that I cancelled my first appointment.  The next week, I was  nervous as I drove to the agency but once I got there and met my counsellor, I felt more at ease. My counselor was compassionate, patient, professional but down to earth, knowledgeable, open-minded and understanding. While she was friendly towards me, she kept professional boundaries and she never self disclosed anything about herself. She challenged me when I was afraid, she encouraged me when I didn’t think I could talk about the hurtful memories and she cheered me on when I had victories! Now that I have my Masters in Counseling and understand what attributes counselors should have, I now understand how truly awesome of a counselor she was.
I went into counseling prepared to work towards getting better. I read every book and did every homework assignment. I was on time and I shared honestly from the heart during every session. Outside of counseling, I was developing my relationship with God and I had an active prayer life. I combined the natural with the spiritual and I worked hard. At the end of the 6 months, I was no longer afraid of the classmate who raped me. He still went to my school and I had to be brave enough to not allow his presence to run me off campus. My confidence and self-esteem was high because I knew who I was in Christ; I knew how Christ saw me. I knew that I was not a victim, I was/am a strong, bold, completely healed and free woman of God. I learned to change my thinking, to love myself, to forgive, to trust God, to rely on my support system, to walk in love and to let go of anger and hate.
I would strongly recommend anyone who is or has gone through something difficult to seek the help of a counselor. Whether your suffering from past or present abuse/trauma, trying to get over a bad relationship/failed marriage, lost your job, having trouble with your kids, finances or just plan old need to talk to someone about how to reach your goals and make decisons in life, I strongly encourage you to seek the help of a counselor. Counseling is a blessing and it works!! I’m living proof! wrote a great article about why people should seek counseling. Here’s 10 reasons to sit on the couch:

1. You have time set aside just to talk about YOU. 

2. You create a safe haven where you can be completely honest. 

3. You learn new things about yourself every week (very cool!).

4. You find ways to better relate to the people around you. 

5. You figure out why you do the (sometimes stupid) things you do.

6. You explore the past, which leads to a better present.

7. You open your mind to new ideas and ways of thinking.

8. You accept and love yourself for who you are, flaws included.

9. You deal with the hard stuff you normally avoid like the plague.

10. You wake up one morning and realize, “Finally, I’m really living.”—-really-been-in-it—-for-about-six-months-now-this-is-my-fourth-therapist-and-the-only-one-ive-actual.html

5 Responses to “Does Counseling=Crazy? NO! 10 Reasons To Sit On The Couch”

  1. marriagecoach1 Says:

    Let me suggest before you get too deep into counseling that you look at the coaching treatment paradigm. Traditional marriage counselors have a horrendous failure rate for a lot of good reasons. If you have interest, I can give you some great info in this area. One of the areas include being self disclosing to clients and letting them see you as a normal person who has their own problems and having resolvied them.

    Blessings on you and yours
    John Wilder

  2. Tyra Sherese Peterson Says:

    Thanks so much for sharing. I agree with you…counseling does work, and like you I am living proof…it is truly a blessing!

  3. Rolisia Says:

    The stigma is one of the main reasons why people (especially the African American population) carry wounds and scars into adulthood which causes marriage and parenting styles to fail. Because of hurt and pain people see the world with dim lenses and there is no light at the end of the tunnel. Of course there are vices that make believe that they help (alcohol, drugs, and porn) but they just numb the pain until the next fix…this is why it is so important to encourage others to vocalized their hurt and pain and not bottle it up until it explodes at the wrong time.
    Great Post

  4. Ferrara Says:

    I just wanted to say, I love this post, I came across it randomly, and I think what you said is great!
    I often believe it couldn’t hurt everyone/anyone to see a counsellor. Everyone has their own problems and sometimes it just helps being able to share your secrets to an unbiased person, and face your personal problems face on.
    Im a young adult, and I often tell my mother “I think it’s time for me to see someone, and talk about… well everything.” I am in a period of my life where I am trying to really find out more about myself and move forward to the best of my ability.
    Thank you for sharing this!

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