Married Christians Should Have The Best Sex

Proverbs 5:18-19 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love.

Yesterday at our married bible study at Word of Faith Southfield, we we’re reminded about how important sex/intimacy and emotional connection are in a marriage relationship. Pastor Andre Butler and Min Tiffany Butler reminded us through the word of God that GOD invented sex and sex is GOOD in God’s sight!! As Christians, we know that we are supposed to be loving, patient, giving, serving, selfless and make our mates our top priority (after God). If we truly love our mates like we love ourselves, then we would try our best to treat them good all the time. If you are married, your spouse and you are one. The bible commands us to love, respect, honor and come together in the marriage bed together often. Read 1 Cor 13, it’s known as the love chapter.

The radio today plays sexually explicit songs and majority of the music videos have turned into 3 minute soft porn flix. The world thinks they invented sex. They write and sing songs about pleasing woman after woman or man after man but we know that meaningless casual sex is hurtful and dangerous, not something to be proud of. I don’t want the world to be more bold than I on the topic of sex. I know that I am experiencing awesome love making with my husband on a regular and God is pleased with that. It’s time out for Christians being so shy, reserved and nonchalant about married sex. It’s a gift from God!

If you are married you should be having sex a few times a week at least. If you and your husband are both busy with work, ministry and the kids, then you literally need to schedule sex/date nights and go at it. Make each other and coming together a priority. Single people should not have more sex than married people. The bible speaks of married couples coming together often so that we are not tempted. I am NOT going to let days go by without me encouraging, communicating, emotionally connecting and pleasing my husband sexually. All of these things are very important and I don’t want another woman to come along and tell him how great he is and how fine he looks NO that is my job and it is his job to encourage, talk to and please me emotionally and sexually.

We must learn what our spouses needs are and then work hard everyday to meet them. When your marriage is happy, your marriage bed is happy! Some of what I shared today was points from yesterday’s married bible study on the 5 sexual needs of a husband and a wife. There was many more points so I would encourage you to go to the website and purchase the DVD, CD or MP3 http://www.woficc.com

1 Cor 7:1-5, 33-34 NIV  1Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry.[a] 2But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. 3The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. 5Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

33But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— 34and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. 35I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.

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6 Responses to “Married Christians Should Have The Best Sex”

  1. John Wilder Says:

    You sing my song, preach my gospel and continue to support my message. I have suggested these things on other blogs and women come out of the woodwork to heap hate speech on me. They cite the feminist philosophy that a woman should only have sex when she feels like it and the husband can just masturbate until she does. To that I say, have you ever seen a feminist point anyone to Jesus?

    I would only add to your post that men are visual creatures. The vast majority would prefer that their women wear lacy frilly lingerie for them. Most women wear deadly dull white nylon panties with no lace and utilitarian bras. Wear something with lace trim and with some color. Women called me creepy for this suggestion.

    Women are conflicted by their sexuality because far too many churches only preach thou shalt nots about sex and teach little girls that sex is bad, dirty and wrong and good girls don’t do it. By the time she is ready to engage in sex, she is heavily imprinted with all these negative messages. Your church is the exception to the rule. I have been in churches all over the country and have never heard a sex positive message like in your church. Please express kudos to your pastor for me.

    Blessings on you and yours
    John Wilder

  2. joannawillis Says:

    Thanks for the comment John! Our church, Word of Faith International Christian Center http://woficc.com does an excellient job or teaching men and women’s needs and giving every day practical examples of how to live together in happiness, fulliment and harmony as a family. My husband and I have learned so much from attending our church and our marriage and walks with the Lord continues to grow stronger because of the word that is taught straight from the bible!

    You are right, Christian women are taught that sex is bad and then they are expected to be sex kittens when they get married. Women are often times confused and ashamed about their sexuality but that is NOT God’s will!! I pray my blog is helping women to understand that sex in the marriage bed is fun, safe, passionate and to be enjoyed!!

  3. Tiffany Godfrey Says:

    Great article. Sex should be a major priority in our marriages. We have no excuse for NOT doing it because it should play a major part in our marriage relationship. Keep up the good work.

  4. Bethany Says:

    Great job Joanna! Yes, it’s so easy to be shy and reserved about it though and Not want to discuss sex sometimes, whenever I talk about it, just feels like I’m pushing my self to. I heard on some science show once that Christians really do have better sex, as they should, God Made it Good.

  5. Matthew Says:

    Hello, I’ve got a question. I am engaged to be married in 8 months time. I was wondering wld u say it is a good idea for me 2 talk abt wot kind of things we like or dislike sexually before we are married so that we r prepared for our wedding night. Or wld u say that is sin talking abt it before we are married. I’ve read sum things on the web which say it is ok and important to be prepared otherwise u cn hav the wrong expectations. But surely it is sinful to talk abt things that we do when were married before were married as it can make u sexually aroused talking abt it. I’m kinda wrestling with this in my mind, is it ok or is it not ok? Hmm not sure wondered if u had any answers. Please make your response as detailed as you can please GBU


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