Diary Of A Excited Mommy To Be

Guess what world, my husband and I are expecting our first baby!! I’m 7 1/2 weeks pregnant. For the past three weeks, I have been patiently awaiting the day that I can talk about my pregnancy on my blog. We wanted to go to our doctor’s appointments and get the official good news before sharing it with the world. All of the doctor’s appointments, including our 1st ultrasound, went perfect! Our blessing is growing big and strong and will present him/herself in the beginning of April 2011.

I have ALWAYS wanted to be a mommy. I’ve always loved babies and enjoyed caring for them. I enjoyed babysitting and assisting others with their little ones.  As a little girl, I would carry several dolls around the house, take them with me to church, the mall and sometimes snuck them in my book bag to go to school. I enjoyed doing their hair, feeding them and showing them love and affection. My parents and family members brought me all types of dolls; dolls that could walk, pee and eat. I had soft baby dolls, hard big dolls, Barbie dolls and Cabbage Pack Kid dolls. My dad would go to garage sales and buy me strollers and car seats for my dolls. I proudly played with dolls until I was 15 years old. Many of my dolls are packed away at my parent’s house and I plan to give them to my daughter one day. I know that having a baby is much different than playing with dolls. There will be late nights, early mornings, diaper changes, crying spells etc BUT God has given Eddie and I the grace to handle those things and loved ones to come over and help us when needed!

Regarding the sex of the baby, Eddie would like a baby boy first and honestly it doesn’t matter to me. We both want 2 children, a healthy baby boy and a healthy baby girl, it really doesn’t matter to us what order they come in. Our parents, siblings, extended family, church family, friends and coworkers are super excited for us! The love and support that has already been shown is almost overwhelming! It’s so nice to have people rejoice with you and speak God’s blessings over you!

I have been feeling really good. No morning sickness or nausea and I praise God for that! I am making sure I take my prenatal pills, drinking lots of water, that I eat my few small meals a day, eat the right things and not too much of anything. I don’t believe in giving into every craving and gaining 60 pounds during pregnancy. I’m asking God to give Eddie and I wisdom in all areas so that we can be in His will and He can be glorified in our lives. We are so excited for our new season of parenthood! We are praying, trusting and believing! My mom told me that pregnancy is an act of faith. A few months go by before you even feel the baby or start showing but you know he/she is in there. Also it takes faith to know that your baby will be okay and so will you, even on the rough days or nights. God blessed us with this baby and He will protect us and walk with us on this new journey!

My Pregnancy Prayer

Lord God I thank you right now for our baby. I thank you for granted us the honor of becoming parents soon, we do not take that lightly. Lord we thank you that our baby is growing strong and healthy. Thank you that my pregnancy will continue to be healthy with zero complications or concerns. Thank you that my blood pressure, sugar, weight and everything else will be normal and on target. Thank you for peace of mind when my body starts changing and I don’t understand everything that’s happening. Thank you for patience for my husband and wisdom for him to know how to care of me and the baby. Thank you for our marriage being stronger than ever before. Thank you for our support system, bless them Lord for their love and encouragement shown towards us. Thank you for favor going before us and prospering our way. Thank you that our baby will have overflow of blessings and our home will lack in no area! You are a forever faithful God and we give you all the glory in advance, in Jesus name AMEN!!

How To Love Your Wife God’s Way

It’s Marriage Monday!! I wanted to post two articles that I found helpful on marriage. Since my blog is for women, I often write post about how wives are to love and submit to their husbands. I found a great biblical article about how husbands are supposed to love their wives and I wanted to share it. Please pass today’s post on to the men in your lives whether their single or married. The bible has clear instructions regarding marriage and the way husbands and wives are to treat one another.

  • Step 1

    Recognize God Made The Rules
    Gen 2:21-24
    21 And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;….
    23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
    24 ….. and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
    KJV

    Husbands, you better recognize!!! God regulates the relationship with your wife. You must answer to God, not your wife for your conduct.

  • Step 2

    Recognize Who’s In Charge
    God is “Large and “N” charge”. He has always demanded that husbands love their wives. Note the scriptures below:
    Eph 5:25
    25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; KJV
    Eph 5:28-29
    28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: KJV

  • Step 3

    Recognize The Benefits and Blessings
    One of the ideas behind God’s demand is the stability of the family. God requires that husbands provide loving care for their wives just as they provide nourishing care for their own bodies. This type of care stimulates the proper nourishment necessary for a healthy relationship. Because, under God’s arrangement, the man is the head of the family, if the level of care starts at the “head”, it has a greater chance of filtering its way throughout the remainder of the family.

    Husbands have to understand that loving their wives involves pleasing God. Any husband that has his attitude set on serving God and seeing God’s face in peace will treat his wife just like he treats himself. This is not an option; nor is it dependent on “how” your wife treats you. All God-fearing husbands must understand that God means what he says.

    Know this, “A God-fearing” woman will not have problem submitting to a “God-fearing” man. God knew what he was doing.

  • Step 4

    Recognize the Difference
    The world offers many attitudes, opinions, and beliefs about this subject. Men sometimes they get caught up in the idea of controlling, dominating, thus having the world’s version of a MAN! However, only God’s Word provides the instructions for husbands that lead to a proper attitude. Once you give your life to God, it is necessary for you to begin to abide by His teachings. You have been purchased by God for his use. The world does not offer a good standard to follow.

  • Step 5

    Recognize Your Role
    Husbands are commanded to “cleave to their wives”. God requires that husbands provide and protect his wife. In 1 Peter, the bible says,

    1 Peter 3:7, Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them (wives) according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel , and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. KJV

  • Step 6

    Recognize, it’s time to Get Started
    By the way, this is not an exhaustive study of God’s will for husbands, but it is meant to be the beginning a “grass roots” life-altering change for the remainder of your life. Watch your family advance the quality of their lives as you enhance the quality of your life.

  • Step 7

    In Conclusion
    According to His Word…
    Heaven bound Husbands Obey God

  • Read more: How to Love Your Wife “God’s Way” | eHow.com http://www.ehow.com/how_5287398_love-wife-gods-way.html#ixzz0wi7QeLD5

    8 Tips For Improving Your Relationship With Your In Laws

    It’s Marriage Monday! I wanted to post two articles that I found helpful regarding marriage. Marriage has its challenging moments and one challenging component can be getting to know you’re in laws and adjusting to the way they do things. Intent.com posted an article of 8 helpful tips to improve your relationship with you’re in laws, check it out. Whether the relationship with your in-laws is great or could use some improving, here are some tips that may help:

    1. Spouse comes first. The Bible even talks about this one. A person will leave their mother and father and cleave to their spouse. When you get married, it’s time to grow up and leave your parents. This doesn’t mean you emotionally kick them to the curb or cut all ties, but you do need to establish your own family. By putting your spouse first, you are choosing the adult role of being a husband or wife over the role of being a child in your parent’s family.
    2. Set boundaries. There are many things that happen in marriage that are none of your parent’s business. If you run to mom or dad any time you have a fight with your spouse, how are you going to learn to handle life with your spouse on your own? Avoid sharing the household secrets with your parents. Discuss with your spouse what topics and areas of your life are off limits to others.
    3. Establish ground rules. Much like the previous point, setting clear ground rules for handling extended family will improve your marriage.
      • When do you and your spouse have exclusive time for each other?
      • When do you spend time with your extended family?
      • When do you involve your parents/in-laws in decision-making?
      • Where should you discuss your marital conflicts: in private or in front of your in-laws?
    4. Recognize the culture. Our culture and upbringing plays a major role in how we do marriage. Recognize the cultural aspects of your spouse’s upbringing. One client I’ve worked with handled it this way: In her upbringing, the women did all the cooking and cleaning up at mealtimes. So when they shared a meal with her parents, he stayed out of the way. However, when her parents weren’t around, he stepped up and helped out or took care of it himself.
    5. Don’t criticize your spouse’s relationship with their parents. Nothing can raise a spouse’s defenses faster than criticism. Seek to understand more about their relationship rather than criticize, as this can lead to bitterness and resentment.
    6. Be polite. This doesn’t mean you have to change your personality to please your in-laws, simply respect rules and traditions that are important to the older generation. Being polite and respectful with in-laws will go a long way in improving the relationship. Not only with your in-laws, but your spouse as well.
    7. Develop code words. My wife and I have pretty good relationships with each other’s parents. Even so, there are still times when they drive us a bit crazy. We’ve developed some code words that we use to lighten the mood between us whenever in-laws are getting too annoying. Have fun with this one but remember to remain respectful. Derogatory code words could only cause more problems.
    8. Spend time with your in-laws. Develop a better relationship with your in-laws by doing things together. Find out what they enjoy and try joining them. This could be shopping, playing golf, cards, whatever. You may find you have more in common than you thought.

    http://www.intent.com/blog/2009/03/03/8-tips-improving-your-relationship-laws

    Grab Yo Suit Case, It’s Time For A Change

    The key to change is to let go of fear- Rosanne Cash
     
    There is nothing wrong with change, if it’s in the right direction- Winston Churchill
     
    Life can either be accepted or change. If it’s not accepted, it must be
    change. If it cannot be changed, then it must be accepted.- unkown
     
    Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending- Maria Robinson
     
    Women are creatures of habit. We like things to be comfortable and to stay the same and consistent but sometimes this can be a bad thing. As women we have to make sure that we do not allow fear of the unknown to prevent us from stepping out and trying something new. Read the following questions and answer them honestly to yourself.
     
    1. Am I happy and fulfilled in my current job?
     
    2. Am I being loved and treated how I deserve to be in my current
    relationship?
     
    3. Is my church teaching me the word of God and helping me to grow spiritually?
     
    4. Do I enjoy my job and look forward to going to work each week?

    If the answer to any of these questions is no, it maybe time for a change. God put all of us on this earth for a reason and each day that we have breath in our lungs, we are responsible for walking in our purpose and living our lives to the fullest. When God says it’s time to move, grab your bags and get to moving. He will never ask you to do something and sit back and watch you do it all by yourself. He will lead and God you through every step of the way. Seek God, yield to Him and watch Him do awesome things in your life. Don’t waste another day on a man that’s not loving you, respect you and building you up. Don’t keep working at a job that you hate and don’t keep attending a church that you know you have out grown. Seek God for direction but know that whatever He tells you to do, you got to be prepared to do.

    Jere 29:13 And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart.

    Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.

    1 Cor 10:13 No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.

    Isaiah 43:18-20 Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the desert and streams in the wasteland. The wild animals honor me, the jackals and the owls, because I provide water in the desert and streams in the wasteland, to give drink to my people, my chosen.

    Isaiah 41:10 So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

    Fantasia’s Divorce Scandal & Suicide Attempt, Dating Married Men Isn’t Worth It

    This post is not to bash or judge Fantasia but to use her as an example for a topic that I have been wanting to address for a while now. Message to single women, dating married men is a horrible idea.

    For those of you who may not know, Fantasia Barrino took an overdose of aspirin and a sleep aid on 8/10/10  after reading the court documents naming her as being instrumental in breaking up a North Carolina marriage. Paula Cook, wife of Antwaun Cook  filed these documents along with claiming there is a sex tape for evidence of this infidelity, according to RadarOnline. 

    Fantasia and Antwaun were in Barbados in November and they were captured in photos holding hands and embracing, while Antwaun was, and still is a married man.

    Fantasia’s overdose was documented as a “suicide attempt” in the police reports. This young lady who has always maintained a respect for religion and family values, may be overwhelmed with the thoughts of things to come in this court case. To read the rest of the examiner.com article, please click the link below.

    http://www.examiner.com/x-57780-Hartford-Pop-Culture-Examiner~y2010m8d10-Fantasia-overdose-after-seeing-court-documents-along-with-alleged-sex-tape-evidence

    I have a few concerns about this situation:

    1. Why was Fantasia dating a married man in the first place.

    2. Why was she going places with him in public and being photographed with him like he was her man?

    3. How did a “church going” young woman get involved in the music industry and lose all of her morals and values.

    4. What about her daughter? What type of example was she being for her?

    5. What about her career and reputation? Was messing around with a married man and father of two worth the drama and bad press? She was under such stress that she attempted to take her own life and leave her daughter behind? WOW

    6. Now she is listed in the divorce papers and may be sued by the wife. I read an article that quotes Fantasia telling the phone on the phone saying some crazy mess about the husband being her man now and next time the wife gets a man, she should work harder to keep him. The entire situation is sad to me.

    As women, we need to love and respect ourselves enough to leave married men alone. If a man is married, he is off limits period. When a single woman gets married, she wants her husband to be faithful to her, so why not show a married woman respect and leave her husband alone? If a man cheats on his wife with you, he WILL cheat on you with another woman. Women the men you date should have a relationship with God, integrity, character, morals and values. You deserve to be more than a quick hook up or a every other weekend fling. Ladies wake up and know your worth and value.

    If you are a mother, you really need to watch who you date because your children are watching! You have a responsiblity to be a positive role model and to have appropriate and safe people around your kids. You should not spend more time out looking for men or hanging with your man than you do at home with your kids.  Mothers need to think about their children and how every decision they make in life affects them. Children are much much smarter than we give them credit for; they’re observant and they soak up everything we do like sponges. What are you teaching your children? What are you showing them with your actions on a daily basis? Many parents need to get their priorities in check.

    This gentleman is definitely in the wrong because he had no business cheating on his wife and hurting her and his children. This post is speaking to women and warning them that dating a married man will have the women looking crazy, even though the man is the one whose married. Our society has double standards and that’s just how it is. They were both willing participants but unfortunately its Fantasia’s name that will be dragged through the mud.

    Dear Lord,

    I pray for my sister Fantasia right now. I ask that you grant her mercy for the decisions that she had made. I pray that you comfort her and her family during this difficult time. I pray that she rededicates her life back to you and commits herself to you completely. I pray that you lead and guide her regarding her purpose in life and your will for her music career. I pray that you give her the strength, wisdom and patience needed to parent her daughter the way you’ve created her too. Remind her Lord that her latter will be greater and this too shall pass. In Jesus name we pray, amen.

    Peoplejam.com list 10 reasons why dating single women shouldn’t date married men

    1. He won’t commit to a future with you.

    2. Cheating on his wife tells you how he deals with any situation he doesn’t like.

    3. Hiding is exhausting.

    4. He’s got his cake and is eating it, too.

    5. Can you love someone who is so disrespectful of his wife?

    6. Lose his respect and it’s over.

    7. You’re not a home wrecker, just an accomplice.

    8. You’re kidding yourself.

    9. Beware the guilt boomerang.

    10. Time is too precious to waste.

    http://www.peoplejam.com/blog/6860/10-reasons-not-date-married-man

    **Ladies what are your thoughts on this situation or on women dating married men in general?**

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    YES GOD CAN: My Testimony List

    Ephesians 3:20 Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us. 
     
    Last Sunday, 8/8/10 at Word of Faith, Pastor Butler preached an encouraging message reminding us that yes God can do EVERYTHING that we need Him to do. Pastor encouraged us to make a victory list of things that God has done for us in the past and use that to encourage ourselves during the tough times. God has already done so much for all of us and He’s changing and rearranging things right now on our behalf!! No matter what it looks like right now, know that God is in control. He sees your circumstance, He sees your diligence and He hasn’t forgotten you or the seeds that you’ve sown over the years.
     
    In case you need reminding, YES GOD CAN:
     
    *Restore your family
    *Heal your body
    *Save your children
    *Bring promotion on your job
    *Cancel your debt
    *Move your mountains
    *Save your marriage
    *Bless you with a spouse and/or a child
    *Give you God ideas to bless the world and increase your finances 
    *Give you peace, joy and comfort
    *Get your family members off drugs
    *Increase your business/ministry
    *Help you sale or buy your house
    *Bless you with a job
      
    Those are examples of what my God can do because with Him ALL things are possible!! Here is a brief testimony/victory list of my own. God gets ALL the glory! He’s been too good to me and I don’t deserve His love, mercy or grace but I thank God for it!!
     
    1. When I was in college making bad choices, my God protected me and had mercy on me. When I came running back to him at the age of 20, He was right there to love on me and make me whole again!
      
    2. My God helped me pass my Statistics class. The class was the most challenging of all my undergraduate classes but I exercised my faith, studied a lot by myself and with a study group. I needed the case to graduate and I was overjoyed when I found out that I had passed and would graduate on time!
     
    3. 2003 was a year of many miracles!
     

    A) That was the year that I started counseling and got restored from the sexual assault that I survived in 2000. I began to get stronger and stronger in God. I learned to trust in God, forgive those who had wronged me, walk in God’s joy, peace and wisdom. I began developing an intimate relationship with Him and I was no longer walking in fear or shame.

    B) I graduated from Oakland University with my bachelors in Psychology.
     
    C) I met my husband and many other young people at Word Of Faith. My husband and the other brothers in the Lord showed me what it meant to be treated like a sister and not a piece of meat. I made many friends that year and having Christian friends really helped me to grow in God.
      
    4) God restored my brother. My brother Joel came back to Michigan a few years ago and started working, going to church, being hard working and responsible. He got married, had my beautiful niece and continues to be an awesome husband, man of God, father, son and brother to all of us.
     
    5) God blessed me in 2008 to graduate with my Master’s in Counseling, we purchased our 1st home and I was blessed to marry to the man of my dreams, the man God ordained just for me. All of this happened within a few weeks of one another. God is faithful!!
     
    6) Less than two months after getting my Master’s degree, I was promoted to supervisor in my department at my job.
     
    7) God continues to heal and restore our families mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually and financially. God is faithful and He continues to do miracles and show himself faithful. If he did it once, He will continue to do it again and again and again!!

    1 Cor 1:9 God is faithful (reliable, trustworthy, and therefore ever true to His promise, and He can be depended on); by Him you were called into companionship and participation with His Son, Jesus Christ our Lord.

    Mark 10:27 And Jesus looking upon them saith, With men it is impossible, but not with God: for with God all things are possible.

    Rev 12:11 And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony

    How To Keep Your Hubby Happy, Satisfied And Eager To Get Home

    Everyone knows that there are some women in the world who like to prey on married men. These women are on the search for someone else’s man, a challenge, a fling. I personally am not worried about any women trying to steal my husband because I don’t believe my husband can be stolen. Husbands and wives decide whether they are going to be faithful and committed to their marriages. As married people and even before we say I Do, we have to make up in our minds that marriage is FOR LIFE and we’ll do everything we can to stay faithful and happy.

    Wives, we don’t want another woman to show our husbands more respect, affection or admiration than we do. I hate it when I see a wife tearing down her hubby because I know that if she keeps rejecting him, another woman would gladly pick him up.

    Whether your marriage is good, bad or ugly right now, you have to decide to stick it out, pray, be patient, long-suffering and diligent. As wives, I feel it is vital for us to do all that we can to keep our homes peaceful, our husband’s happy, satisfied and eager to get home.

    8 Tips to keep him happy, satisfied and eager to get home.

    1. Watch your attitude. Some husbands don’t like to come home after work because they know their wives will start arguing and nagging them when they walk through the door. We as wives need to learn when and how to address our concerns without nagging or flying off the handle.

    2. Keep your appearance up. If you did your hair, wore nice clothes and did other things to look good before marriage, you should try your best to keep that up after you say I Do! Men are visual and you want your hubby to know and believe that his wife is the finest woman around!

    3. Keep a clean house. I know majority of wives work but there’s no reason for our homes to get trashed. Try to pick up during the week and exactly clean on the weekends when you have more time. You want your honey to feel comfortable in a clean home. Of course he should help you keep the home clean but that will probably take your guidance to help him 🙂

    4. Find common interest so you can go out and have fun together. The couple that plays together stays together. Make time to get out and have fun, laugh, flirt, enjoy one another’s company. Married couples should spend more time together than apart.

    5. Meet his sexual needs. Most men want sex a lot. Try your best to keep up with him and give him rain checks when you need time to rest. Try not to reject him with a negative attitude when your tired. He may feel that you don’t love or desire him. We don’t want them to make us feel that way when we ask for affection or communication. Married sex is awesome and if you need to, pray and ask the Holy Spirit to prepare your heart, mind and body and help you to enjoy it.

    6. Be a safe and trusted person for him so that he can be vulnerable around you. Men don’t let their guard down easily. If you want him to open up, you must be patient, compassionate and trusting.

    7. Be his ride or die chick. He needs to know that if he can’t count on anyone else (besides God) he can count of you. Through the good times in his career, health, finances and the bad. Love him, support him and pray for him always!

    8. Be forgiving, don’t keep bringing up his past failures. When you get into intense fellowship with your hubby, don’t bring up old mistakes, failures or issues. It is not helpful and it will only make things worse. When we say we forgive people, we have to truly forgive and ask the Holy Spirit to help us forget. Even if the memory is refresh in your mind, if you keep bringing it up, the situation will never rest and the person will never get a chance to heal or redeem themselves.