How To Keep Your Dress Down & Zipper Up

Today’s society is obsessed with sex. Sex sales and you can’t make it through a magazine, book or 15 minutes of TV or radio without you being bombarded with sexually exploit messages and images. How do Christian’s (single and married) remain holy in this day an age?

Here are my answers to that question:

1) they stay prayed up
2) they read and mediate on the word
3) they surround themselves with other friends who are living holy & sold out lifestyles
4) they set sexual boundaries in their relationships
5) they have accountability partners.

The word of God commands each of us to be holy, set apart and to glorify God in our bodies. 

1 Cor 6:18-20  Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.

Tips For The Single Saint On Setting Sexual Boundaries In Relationships

1. Date a believer who is 100% committed to denying their flesh and relying on God’s strength to not have sex with you until marriage. If he/she doesn’t really desire to wait until marriage, they will eventually start pressuring you and you will fall into temptation if you don’t leave.

2. Be aware and know what situations are tempting for you. There are certain activities no single Christian should be engaging in (being under the covers at night with your BF/GF bad idea!!) But talk to one another about appropriate forms of affection and what you both feel comfortable with. It’s always a great idea to pray and seek God about your relationship and get answers from Him on what to do and not do.

3. Give yourselves a curfew, esp if one or both of you lives alone and that’s where you two hang out. The goal is to glorify God in your body, with your lifestyle and in your relationship. If your neighbor knows you’re a Christian but she keeps seeing your BF leave your apartment @ 2am, that will ruin your witness. Be wise and be holy.

4. Have accountability partners that you two can talk to, (trust with your business) receive guidance from and who you know will be lifting you both up in prayer.

5. Remember, for Christians dating is for the purpose of marriage. Dating is fun but when we’re dating people we should be getting to know them (asking important questions about marriage, money, kids, sex, our purpose/goals etc) To see if we’re compatible. If we spend our dating time not getting to know each other but being sexual, our minds become cloudy and we become attached to each other in a way that only husbands and wives should. If he wants it than he needs to put a ring on it!! Don’t give the honey up for free!! Remember that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost. Only your future spouse has the right to sexual pleasure with you AFTER he/she says I Do!

If you have fallen into sexual sin, God still loves you. He will always love you and He waiting for you to return back to Him. All you have to do is repent of your sins and ask Him to help you live holy once again. Romans 8:1 Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. To truly repent means to turn away from. God knows your situation and no temptation is too big for Him! 1 Cor 10:13 No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.

 Don’t believe the lie that you can sin on purpose and God will forgive you. He knows your heart and when your sincere and when your not. Gal 6:7 Do not be deceived, God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.

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6 Responses to “How To Keep Your Dress Down & Zipper Up”

  1. marriagecoach1 Says:

    It is important to note that the church and christians are the biggest stumbliing block for unmarried people. In the Bible, God knew and allowed for early marriage in kids teens to give them a legal outlet for their raging hormones. God prescribed that the teen marrieds should stay in one of the parents homes until they could get established on their own.

    Today, we tell kids to wait until their twenties and college graduation to get married. The Bible is clear in its instructions not to be a stumbling block for others to be caused to sin. Then in addition to perverting God’s plan, we mistakenly tell kids that masturbation is a sin, which it is not. There is no place in the old testament or new testament that says that even though we are told not to have sex with animals for example.

    Just saying
    Blessings on your and yours
    John Wilder

  2. Maxine Herron Says:

    Very well said. Every single saint needs to hear this message. Excellent blog.

  3. joannawillis Says:

    Marriagecoach I don’t agree with you on this one but I appreciate your input. I hear where your coming from, I just dont agree. I appreciate you reading and supporting my blog.

    Thanks Maxine! Pass the link onto your friends.

  4. Princess C Says:

    First time on here and I enjoyed and love the blog topic. I believe if you don’t agree with someone in their opinions or beliefs that’s perfectly fine, we are all entitled to have one and speak on it. I’ve learned that we must learn to keep ourselves guarded and covered to keep from sinning by falling in lust and miss the chance to be in love. The bible do tell us that it is a sin to fornicate and commit adultery, so if you are masutrbating that is a form of sex. Masturbasting is personal sex, pleasure that will lead you to the same goal you’re trying to obtain when you are with another human being and that is …well we’re all mature here I hope, the person is trying to have an orgasm. Children should be taught that you get this pleasure when you are able to understand that it was designed for your body as a reward for entering coveanant with another. So when we train our children to present their body as a living sacrifice by keeping it holy and accepting unto the Lord and not man, they’ll get the reward of being able to make love to that person and learn to treat them with love and care and not with lust and fornication.

    • Princess C Says:

      Hopefully peolple get the idea that I’m saying the reward comes only after you are married and in a covenant. Not just benfiting from the covenant reward.

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