How to Avoid Marital Arguments over Money

Below is a secular article about ways to avoid arguing over money. I think the tips are awesome but I wanted to add a few. Make sure that you and your spouse pray before exploring the budget, especially if things get heated when you discuss money. Invite the Holy Spirit into your family budget meetings and pray for guidance, wisdom and open communication. Always be respectful, patient and honest with one another regarding the money and the bills. Don’t hide money from your husband; don’t have a “just in case fund.” Marriage if for life and both of you should be in it forever. Discussing money is tough, my husband and I have had our share of intense discussions about the bills but we have come along way. We are growing, learning, praying and trying to do better.

How to Avoid Marital Arguments over Money

Step 1 Develop a financial plan. You should sit down with your spouse and create a financial plan that includes employment wages, other sources of income and checking and savings accounts. Determine whether you will have any separate accounts or whether everything will be joint. Outline your short- and long-term goals, such as purchasing a home.

Step 2 Create a monthly budget. Be sure to include all payments such as rent or mortgage, utility bills, car payments and loan payments. Don’t forget to include insurance policy premiums, burial plot payments, credit card payments or other bills. Be certain to take into consideration costs for food, transportation and household items. Balance your income against your expenses and budget accordingly.

Step 3 Create separate savings accounts. For example, set up a vacation fund, rainy day fund or emergency fund. Setting up small additional accounts can keep you from going over your budget or dipping into your long-term savings.

Step 4 Spend responsibly. Don’t go shopping just because you can. If you get a bonus at work or some extra money comes to you in the way of a small windfall, you don’t have to go spend it all. If you want to buy something put a portion of the money aside.

Step 5 Consult your spouse before making any major purchases. For instance, don’t go out and buy a boat without consulting with your spouse first. Both of you should have a say in financial decisions and major purchases.

Step 6 Consult a financial advisor if you are seriously in debt and constantly bickering over finances. A debt consultant can analyze your situation, help you find solutions and get your finances, as well as your marriage, back on track.


4 Responses to “How to Avoid Marital Arguments over Money”

  1. foresightyourctpsychic Says:

    My husband and I have found that it’s also very helpful to set aside a small weekly amount of money that’s designated for each of us.”An allowance” ,if you will.

    This means that, if one of you likes music on CD and the other likes fast food, you each have discretionary funds which are yours to spend on your priority,without spending “our money” on things your partner may not find as important as you do.

    It minimizes what can otherwise become a major source of conflict about money in a marriage- where one partner feels that he or she will not get his or her dreams, because all the partner is spending the moey needed on “that stuff”

    Surprisingly effective


  2. sylviahubbard1 Says:

    I really enjoyed this article Joanna. Especially when you initially say pray before starting anything.

    • joannawillis Says:

      Thanks Sylvia! Money is a deep subject and can cause major issues in a marriage. We can’t let the devil come in and bring division into our homes. Pray is the best way to stop the strife, seek direction and bring peace!

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