Exploring Finances BEFORE Saying I Do

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You really want to know something about your fiancés finances before you say I do. You just don’t know how your future spouse has paid their bills and you really want to know about this prior to getting married. You are hoping to avoid a possible problem with this issue later on in your marriage. Just getting you and your fiancés finances out front so to speak is where you’re hoping to be as part of your relationship.

Finance questions before marriage may help you and your future spouse understand where you both stand financially in the relationship. If your future spouse is not able to contribute financially or does not have stellar credit, you will know this before you say your vows. You may want to consider some of the following questions to ask your future spouse prior to getting married:

How much money do you earn?

Can I see a copy of your credit report and credit score?

Have you ever filed for bankruptcy and are there any judgments against you?

Do you pay child support? (If so how much and how often?)

Do you have a checking and savings account? (How much is in each?)

If we purchase a home will we own the home jointly? (Do you have utilies in your name currently? If so, are they current? Have you ever been evicted?)


How To Dicuss Finances During Your Engagement by eHow.com

  • Step 1 You should talk about what your financial goals are for the marriage. Do you plan to buy a home or rent temporarily? Who will be responsible for paying the bills? This is important if you want to start your marriage financially on the right foot

  • Step 2 What are your beliefs regarding finances? Find out if your partner believes in budgeting and saving. If you’re the spender, maybe your future spouse has concerns about your habit. You want to clear up any conflicts about how you handle money and be ready to compromise at times.

  • Step 3 Look over each other’s debts and credit reports prior to the wedding. What outstanding debts do you have that might hinder the financial stability of your marriage. It’s not fair for your future spouse to be expected to pay a majority of your past debts. It’s also dishonest not to disclose of your past debts if you value trust in the relationship. You should also use this time to try to pay down some of the debts.

  • Step 4 Discuss how you will save up for retirement and for your future children’s education. Are you going to use your employer’s retirement plan or are you going to open a Roth IRA account? Roth IRAs are good because your contributions and earnings are tax-free.

  • Step 5 Finally, how do you plan to prepare for life’s emergencies? You should discuss an emergency savings account and resolve not go into it unless it’s necessary.

    Read more: How to Discuss Finances During Your Engagement | eHow.com http://www.ehow.com/how_5520086_discuss-finances-during-engagement.html#ixzz0swzHkwJz

  • How to Avoid Marital Arguments over Money

    Below is a secular article about ways to avoid arguing over money. I think the tips are awesome but I wanted to add a few. Make sure that you and your spouse pray before exploring the budget, especially if things get heated when you discuss money. Invite the Holy Spirit into your family budget meetings and pray for guidance, wisdom and open communication. Always be respectful, patient and honest with one another regarding the money and the bills. Don’t hide money from your husband; don’t have a “just in case fund.” Marriage if for life and both of you should be in it forever. Discussing money is tough, my husband and I have had our share of intense discussions about the bills but we have come along way. We are growing, learning, praying and trying to do better.

    How to Avoid Marital Arguments over Money

    Step 1 Develop a financial plan. You should sit down with your spouse and create a financial plan that includes employment wages, other sources of income and checking and savings accounts. Determine whether you will have any separate accounts or whether everything will be joint. Outline your short- and long-term goals, such as purchasing a home.

    Step 2 Create a monthly budget. Be sure to include all payments such as rent or mortgage, utility bills, car payments and loan payments. Don’t forget to include insurance policy premiums, burial plot payments, credit card payments or other bills. Be certain to take into consideration costs for food, transportation and household items. Balance your income against your expenses and budget accordingly.

    Step 3 Create separate savings accounts. For example, set up a vacation fund, rainy day fund or emergency fund. Setting up small additional accounts can keep you from going over your budget or dipping into your long-term savings.

    Step 4 Spend responsibly. Don’t go shopping just because you can. If you get a bonus at work or some extra money comes to you in the way of a small windfall, you don’t have to go spend it all. If you want to buy something put a portion of the money aside.

    Step 5 Consult your spouse before making any major purchases. For instance, don’t go out and buy a boat without consulting with your spouse first. Both of you should have a say in financial decisions and major purchases.

    Step 6 Consult a financial advisor if you are seriously in debt and constantly bickering over finances. A debt consultant can analyze your situation, help you find solutions and get your finances, as well as your marriage, back on track.