Below are two secular articles about how to handle your husband’s low sex drive. I think the tips are helpful things to consider. I would like to add the importance of prayer, loving communication, patience, compassion and seek godly counsel. There is a reason for everything. Your hubby may have physical, medical, emotional concerns that prevent him from desiring or performing often. Also, if the relationship between you two is stressful, this may decrease his sex drive. If he does not feel that he is receiving the love and respect that he needs from you, he may not desire sex from you. It could be many different reasons. I am not saying it is the wife’s fault at all. I’m saying that couples should work through either spouses low sex drive together so that they both can feel comfortable and fulfilled.
This can be a difficult thing for men to discuss so pray and ask Holy Spirit when and how to address the subject with him. Let him know how much you love him and desire to be intimate with him. Ask him how he feels and what would help him get in the mood more often. Don’t judge or criticize when he answers you. If you do that, he may not trust you enough to open up for a long time. Men don’t like to be vulnerable and when they trust us enough to open up, we have to handle them with care. Men don’t like going to the doctor but sometimes their issues could be medical. In that case, make sure you encourage them to see their doctor and even offer to company them. It maybe a good idea to talk to someone at your church about the situation as well if you need spiritual guidance and encouragement.
How to Talk to Your Husband About His Decreased Sex Drive
By: Linda Ray
Step 2 Make an appointment to see a doctor for a medical checkup. Accompany your husband to the doctor and listen to the physician’s explanation of the effects of any medications your husband is taking. Antidepressants and blood pressure medicine are notorious for causing decreased sex drive. Once the doctor realizes the side effects, he may be able to offer suitable alternatives that do not affect the libido. The physical checkup also may uncover a problem, such as poor circulation or prostrate problems that can affect your husband’s sex drive
Step 3 Set the stage for a romantic evening by arranging for a date night. Choose an activity such as a leisurely dinner out at a nice restaurant or a weekend away at a bed and breakfast, where you will have the opportunity to talk without distractions. Sometimes talking is easier in a new environment. The lack of stress and day-to-day interruptions will help to foster communication and may even light a romantic spark that’s been difficult to light at home
If your husband’s doctor suggests Viagra, make a game of getting the prescription and trying it out. If you participate in the purchase and giggle with him about what might happen, it can take the pressure off what may be a lot of anxiety he may feel about having erectile dysfunction.
Be calm and patient when you begin conversations about sex. Anger and accusations may only serve to send your husband deeper into anxiety about his poor performance and make him more reluctant to seek help.
When Men Suffer Low Sex Drive
Although it contradicts all the cultural beliefs about the way men are, men can lose their libido too. The solution: Just do it. By Hara Estroff Marano, published on March 01, 2003 – last reviewed on July 08, 2005