Stats on childhood sexual abuse:
Even within the walls of our own homes, children are at risk for sexual abuse:
*30-40% of victims are abused by family members.
*Another 50% are abused outside of the home by someone who they know and trust.
*Approximately 40% are abused by older or larger children whom they know.
*Therefore only 10% are abused by strangers.
*Over 30% of victims never disclose the abuse to anyone.
As adults and parents, it is our job to protect our children and keep them safe. It is up to us to break our silence about the abuse that we may have suffered as adults and make better choices when it comes to raising our children. It is not strangers that are abusing and raping our children, it’s people we know, such as our family members, neighbors, babysitters and family friends. We must wake up and not ignore the signs that someone may not be suituable to watch our children. We must stop being in such a hurry to find anyone to watch our children so that we can get to work or have some time to hang out with our friends. God blessed us with these children and we must not take them for granted or treat them like they don’t matter. We are going to be accountable to God for how we treat our children.
Often times parents have been sexually abused as children because their parents left them with cousins, boyfriends or babysitters that weren’t appropriate. The parents grew up, never disclose the abuse they suffered and they figure they’ve just gotten over it. In turn, those parents make the same mistake that their parent’s made. They leave their children with cousins, boyfriends/girlfriends or babysitters who abuse their children and the viscous cycle continues. We MUST break generational curse of sexual abuse over our families. We MUST take a stand and say NO MORE!! No more will the family turn a blind eye to the family member who continues to touch the children inappropriately, to the family friend that is always trying to get your children to sit on his lap or to have alone time with them. Everyone CAN’T have access to your children!!! WAKE UP PARENTS, you can’t afford not to be prayed up and following the Holy Spirit when it comes to your children.
If you are a parent who has been abused, seek godly counsel and get restoration. Read the word of God, join a local church that is teaching the word of God and consider joining a support group for childhood sexual abuse survivors. Learn how to cope, heal and be strong once again. Learn the signs of sexual abuse and how to protect your children. Don’t allow just anyone to watch your children. Pray and ask God to guide you regarding who should have access to your children.
My parents didn’t allow my brother and I to spend long periods of time at family or friends houses, especially overnight, and the individuals that they choose to watch us had the same morals, values and house hold rules as them. We weren’t allowed to go over people’s houses that weren’t going to properly supervise us. My parents encouraged my friends and cousins to come to our house a lot to play. That way my parents could keep an eye on what was going on and they knew that their children were safe. Yes parents, this means you have to sacrifice and babysit other people’s children on the weekends sometimes instead of sending your children away to other people’s houses, but isn’t it worth it to know that your precious angels are safe and not being exposed to pornography and molestation? Everyone knows what happens in the basements at relatives houses or other people’s houses. Older cousin’s like to show younger cousin’s porn, give them drinks, cigarettes and weed. Anyone who doesn’t have the same supervision, morales and values as you should not have access to your children. You work hard to keep your children innocent, why allow other people’s children to come around and take that innocence from them?
10 Ways You Can Protect Your Children From Sexual Abuse
To read the descriptions of each point in detail, please go to the link below:
1. Follow your gut
2. Choose your child over the approval of your peers
3. Think twice about people who push hard about your boundaries.
4. Take your own history into account.
5. Consider not leaving your children until they can talk.
6. Avoid situations where people you don’t know will be present.
7. Tell the child in front of the caregiver that this person will not touch or harm them in anyway.
8. Give your child permission to cry, speak, protest when they feel boundaries are being crossed.
9. Have a no one gets in trouble policy.
10. Listen to your children.