While surfing the net I came across this article about why dating church guys is a good idea. I thought the list was interesting and pretty accurate. We all know that Christian men aren’t perfect and there are some wolf’s in church clothing BUT I do agree that god fearing, sold out for Christ men are the best to date and marry. 2 Cor 6:14 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? Dating is fun but for Christians it should also be an interview process. Get to know the man before you fall head over heels in love with him! Proverbs 4:23 Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.
I dated a “saved” guy in high school and he cheated on me repeatedly and broke my heart. He was my first love and we met at our church. We were young and silly but I was really affected by that situation. It took me a long time to seriously get over him but once I broke free from the emotional attachment and roller coaster, I began to allow God to heal, restore and make me new again. I have forgiven him and wish him well.
Eddie was the first and only man whom I dated that was sold out for Christ and dedicated to serving/ living his life for Him. I didn’t know how to interact with Eddie at first or what to think really. I had never had a relationship with a man who was attracted to me but wasn’t trying to charm me, sleep with me or use me for something. As we got to know each other and observe each other at church, I came to see that Eddie was a man after God’s own heart. He served at church faithful, his language and behavior lined up with the word of God and he treated me, my friends and the other ladies at church like sisters and not pieces of meat. He complimented me, flirted with me sometimes, we laughed and joked together but we had boundaries in our friendship. Boundaries are VERY important in Christian friendship and courtship!! Eddie became my friend, then a year later my boyfriend, then my fiance’, then my husband and then my lover. Thank you Lord for my husband! He was definitely worth the wait!!
Question: Ladies let me know what you think about this list below. What do you agree or disagree with? What has been your experience with dating Christian men? It’s okay to be honest, just be respectful please.
1. He uses clean language. Granted, he’ll probably let slip a “frick” or a “darn,” but by golly, it’s a lot cuter than a slew of f-bombs.
2. More than likely, he adheres to the verse, “Your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit,” which means that he doesn’t smoke, do drugs or get drunk.
3. Unless he sleeps through every service, he has a high attention span. Bring up a couple of points from an hour-long sermon and see if you’re not a little bit impressed when he can discuss them in depth. Bonus points if he can connect the current sermon to the previous week’s topic.
4. He’s consistent. Getting up early on Sunday mornings to hear a sermon and sing for a couple of hours takes a good amount of dedication. Of course, we’re referring to the guys who attend service more often than on Christmas and Easter.
5. He’s a romantic. If he believes in God, there’s a good chance he also believes in destiny. He takes dating and women so seriously that he might even pray before asking you out. If he prays often in his own time, he has probably prayed for the future love of his life—which could be you—before you even met. If adorably old-fashioned guys are your thing, look no further than the next pew over. Faith And Spirituality In Relationships
6. He dresses sensibly. Since obsessing about one’s outer appearance is frowned upon in the church, its culture encourages guys to look down-to-earth, if not classy. That means no Ed Hardy and no flashy, “I’m a baller”-style outfits. Expect dark jeans, a polo shirt, and a canvas bag.
7. He probably doesn’t sleep around. No need to worry as much about diseases, excess baggage, or being compared to some past conquest. You might just be the best he’s ever had. Sure, he might be a borderline virgin, if not abstinent, but if you play your cards right, all of that pent-up energy will count for something. That being said….
8. He puts sex on a pedestal. If he’s ever read the Song of Solomon—arguably the Good Book’s most erotic piece of scripture—he probably honors an elusively spiritual aspect of sex often absent in casual encounters.
9. Your parents will love him. Here’s a guy that says grace, has marriage on the brain, and was taught to respect his elders, act like a well-mannered gentleman and get along with everybody. More bonus points if he can sing “Be Thou My Vision” with Grandma.
10. He has his own friends. Ideally, and for the most part, a church will foster a warm social environment. It’s hard not to befriend people you see every week. If a guy attends church potlucks, Sunday afternoon sports or Bible studies, he’ll have buddies to hang out with when you’re out with the girls.
11. He lends a helping hand. Very rarely will a church not have outreach activities, volunteer opportunities, or even just a need for Sunday School assistants or a set-up crew. A guy who not only belongs to, but contributes to the good of his community demonstrates a willingness to serve others before himself.